If you or someone you knew quit drinking and went on anti-depressants which caused really bad anxiety as a side effect causing you to withdraw from going out with your friends, and these friends didn't bother asking you what was up but just spent their time taking the mickey out of you - accusing you of being melancholic, self-harming, singing joy division songs to you and generally treating you like an idiot, would you still want to be their friend?
2007-04-15 08:59:30 · 24 answers · asked by colejoe79 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
No way they obvioudsy werent your friend in the first place to not notice something was wrong and then to take the p**s Get some new friends
2007-04-15 09:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Vicki B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. When I stopped going to the clubs, parties, bars, etc (every night, mind you), I had to make new friends. My old mates didn't change when I did, and I couldn't be around that atmosphere anymore. I don't think you should put up with all of that teasing, especially since you are having anxiety issues. I'm sure their still good friends and they miss you going out with them, but the drinking scene is not ideal for you right now.
May I suggest a session or two of accupuncture? It can really help with anxiety, and it does not hurt (really!).
BTW, I've always liked Joy Division....
2007-04-16 19:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by tombollocks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can look at it both ways, it is unlikely that the mates appreciate what a difficult place that person is in at the moment as it is doubtful he has explained the way he feels to them. However, their behaviour isn't exactly plesant no matter what the circumstances. Then again, maybe they know that this peson has issues and they can't handle it so they are just trying to turn it into a joke. I guess if I was in the sutiation I would have to explain to them at least an outline of my feelings and then see if their behavour changed.
2007-04-15 16:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO -way. Dump them today rather than tommorow. It is great the the person has quit drinking. He or she should consult the doctor about the anxiety effect. - But even without the anxiety these don't seem to be great friends.
2007-04-15 16:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. And I used to have a drinking problem. I wouldn't bother even seeing this person again if that was his attitude. Have you seen a doctor about the anxiety? There are other meds that get rid of the anxiety too. If I can be of any help please email me. x
2007-04-15 17:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Birdman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I wouldn't, I would expect true friend to support me, that is why I only have one true friend, all my other friends, didn't bother with me when I became ill with mental problems, so hence I don't have any contact with those who I thought were my friends.
I feel sad about this but I rather have my one true friend the several who don't understand or keep their promises.
2007-04-15 19:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by lazybird2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course.
They sound like really good mates!!!
Crap mates wouldn't bother spending time with you while you were suffering cos I'm sure that you're not brilliant company at the moment!
2007-04-16 17:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they cant be real friends, real friends would support you, get back to your gp and get your medication changed, anti depressants shouldnt cause bad anxiety dude, the friends thing, if, on your deathbed, you can count 5 "best friends" you will have done very well, be strong, do what you want to do, and bollocks to em, regards;
2007-04-15 16:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would expect them to at least call and see if I am still alive. They are not very good friends. Get some new friends.
2007-04-15 16:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain your situation to your freinds. When you go through depression you find out who your true freinds are. If they can't except you for who you are and no matter what is going on in your life then NO i would def. not be freinds with them
2007-04-15 16:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Christal D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋