how can i get my mom to give me a bigger bedroom??

Question

well i have like the smallest bedroon in are house and i'm 14 I NEED MORE SPACE but my little brother has the biggest room how can i get my mom into letting me trade rooms with him???

Answer 1

From what you say, it does seem rather unfair for the youngest child to have the most room. However, think about all of your stuff, do you need more room because you have large expensive things like a computer or a drum set? If you have things of worth and all he has is space, then you are being selfish. Also, if you are 14, you don't necessarily need a huge room, when I was your age I hated how tiny my room was, so instead of hoping for bigger, I went for quality. Fix up the room you have, make everything match a theme of your choice, maybe ask to paint your room instead of beggin for a larger one. I made my bedroom into something that resembled an Arabian harem, and for virtually no money at all, the most expensive thing was paint. I am very happy that I chose to do that instead because if I had moved into a bigger room, I would have bought more things, and since I now live in a 400 square foot apartment (that's what happens when you have to pay for your own home haha), there's no way I'd have room for one more item.

Answer 2

If you are 14, then you won't be hanging around the house that much longer, and I doubt if you will be able to talk her into trading rooms since your stuff is in your room and your brothers stuff is in his room and mom doesn't want to be bothered with it.

Just be thankful you have your own room, if mom had another girl baby, then you would be sharing the bedroom with her.
You'll get by, I know that isn't the answer you were looking for, but that is the reality of it. Whining won't do any good either, except to irritate your parents and cause more problems. Good luck.

Answer 3

For most of human history families have shared much smaller spaces than Americans typically do. For just you and the baby that should be fine, for now. As your child gets older you may want more space but I don't think there is anything wrong with you being conservative with your space and money in order to make ends meet. My babies end up sleeping in bed with my hubby and I for the first few months anyway (I'm a lazy breastfeeder and don't want to walk that far and wake up all the way). If you choose to date and bring a fella home, the one bedroom thing will get a bit tricky but that can be overcome too. Best wishes and don't worry, you know what you guys need and what's best for you and baby. Trust your instincts and try to tune out the barrage of people who will ALWAYS have SOMETHING to say about EVERYTHING you do. That's part of being a mom too.

Answer 4

Maybe your mom has a good reason for the way things are set up for you and your brother. Ask her to sit down and have a talk with you about it. But, you'll get better results - even if you don't get your way - if you speak about this matter in a calm and mature way. Don't yell, scream, cry, or whine!

If for some reason you are unable to have the larger of the two bedrooms, work with what you've got and simply make the best of the situation. Maybe your mom could help you re-organize and purchase some items for storage that would make your room more pleasing and easier to deal with.

Good luck.

Answer 5

My first attempt would be a passive one. Just remember to 'keep your eyes on the prize'. Don't fight with your brother about it, don't even mention it for a week or so. All the while keep your room spotless. Then slowly bring the conversation around to where your mother would like for you to store your excess things, ie. where can you keep your winter clothes as it's starting to get warm again. Then over the course of 1 - 2 months, come up with more and more things that you don't have room for. There is NO room for error here, but it will work. The number one rule in this is to keep your teenage angst on a leash. Do not lose your temper for any reason with anyone, not your mother, brother, father, boyfriend, girlfriend, no one... You have to be a perfect angel for this to work. Remember: The meek shall inherit the earth. or in your case the bigger room.

Answer 6

and he has to swap rooms with you... because???

This sounds selfish...

But here are ideas:
++ rotate rooms monthly... you will have to downsize your stuff to accomodate the smaller of the 2 rooms anyway
++ go by report cards.... whoever has done better & behaves better in school gets the bigger room for that report card time-frame
++ the person who helps out most with household duties gets the larger room for a month
++ warm weather? the person who cuts, weeds & otherwise maintains the lawn gets the larger room

Don't be so selfish & manipulative.... you aren't a princess.. why act like you think you are & that your family is your servants

TO ADD: In the words of the Jr High kid next door that I showed this to & asked thier opinion.... and I quote "that chick who wants the bigger bedroom has to much WRAM going on"... so I asked, "What is WRAM", he replied "the World Revolves Around Me"..... in other words... a kid your age agrees that this is proof that you think the World Revolves Around You..... and they think this is selfish of you

Sorry kiddo, but I was even having hope that the 14 year old next door would think I was being harsh.. but they don't

Answer 7

I suggest cutting mom out of the loop completely - this is between siblings. Big sisters are usually a huge influence on younger brothers. See if you can make it worth his while to make you happy about the living arrangements - learning about the value of real estate early in life will stand you in good stead for the future. But remember, you'll be out of that room and that house before you know it, moving on to the next phase of your life. Your relationship with your brother will be a constant throughout your life.

Answer 8

Draw straws once a year to see who gets the biggest room.

Answer 9

Have you sat down and discussed this with your mom? And, why do you need more room? Also, how much work is involved in swapping rooms? If it's much, good chance that you are outta luck.. sorry

Answer 10

How about going to Mom and asking her directly, "How can I earn the larger room, I feel it should be mine because ?John? is younger, but I will work for it.