I am married to the youngest.....their favorite is the middle child. All of my husband's life, it was obvious the middle was prefered. Their parents would say yes to what the middle child wanted and almost ignored the youngest. I guess I don't understand how parents can have these preferences being that I have two boys and love them equally.
Well, I'm not saying he's a bad person but this favorite son been to prison, doesn't take care of his kids emotionally or financially, and he's on drugs. My husband, on the other hand, takes care of us, helps out in the community, and is a great father to our children.
Well, everytime one of our sons says something funny or does good in school, etc they say "Oh he's just like his uncle." How can my husband stop from being bothered about their remarks??? We hate feeling so annoyed!!! Please help!!!
2007-04-15 08:21:06 · 5 answers · asked by Smiles 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Either stay away from them or learn to ignore what they say.
2007-04-15 08:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously they only see what they want to see, and reality is not their strong suit. Let your children know that, although they mean well, they have their own problems and their judgment is not always of the best.
Your husband - and you - can choose to stop being bothered by their remarks. Just remember that they're not really trying to run anyone down, they're just trying to make a not-so-wonderful person appear better than he is - which is sometimes what a caring parent does.
You both know the reality of the situation, and, being at least as smart as the two of you, your children will figure this out as well. Just go on loving his parents; they've had a lot to deal with, thanks to the middle brother, and they still deserve your loyalty and care.
2007-04-15 15:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by MomBear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you could call them out on it. You could say, "yes they share some of the same mannerisms, but when my kids grow up, I sure hope they don't go to jail and abandon their kids or get hooked on drugs. " Of course, that might start a family feud, and if you don't want one of those, then just clarify, or re-state their sentiments. Then you say, "Yes, his smile is very similar. " or "Yes, they share his good qualities." or "Yes, they must be similar as children." Or do like the other poster said, stay away, limit time.
2007-04-15 15:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents are no different. My oldest brother and one sister are not very nice people. Heck, my brother should be in jail.
The only thing you can do is either tell them outright to stop comparing your kids with their uncle (he's a drug addict!) or stop visiting them as often. Some people just aren't very kind.
2007-04-15 15:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them strait up how you feel
if they get mad so what!?
SCREW THEM
2007-04-15 15:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋