I broke up with my ex-boyfriend in November. Ever since then he has been trying to get back with me. Awhile ago, he let me borrow some money. I will be paying him back this week or next week. Last night he was blowing up my phone while I was at a party. I didnt pick up b/c everytime I talk to him he says mean and hurtful things, so I didnt answer. He sent me 16 threatening text messages saying BEWARE and BE READY and YOU'RE GOING DOWN!! He also sent messages calling me a STUPID *** B****!!! So my recent boyfriend wanted to cuss him out but I told him that I will deal with it. I text my ex and told him that if he didnt stop then I will take those messages to the police for slandering and threat. If I toke these text messages to the police will anything be done or will they look at me stupid. This is a concern to me b/c there has been two cases in my state last month when an ex boyfriend killed his ex girlfriend. So I dont know what to do. What would u do?
2007-04-15 08:18:58 · 28 answers · asked by uhdiamond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you do now! is pay him the money you owe him immediately and get a receipt!
Just in case you did not understand - Pay him the money you owe him and get a written note from him stating that you have repaid in full. Make sure you have 2 reliable adult witnesses to the repayment.
As long as you continue to owe him money it is a clear indicator that you want to remain connected to him.
Only after you repay the money - if he keeps calling - you report him to the phone company.
If he shows up in person then call the police.
2007-04-15 08:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by kitchenheatindex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely take the case up to the police and put a protection Order and show them the text messages because situations like these are very dangerous and your ex boyfriend can do anything to get back at you. And also why would you borrow money from your ex if i was you i would break all type of connections with him and change my phone number too. Stay away from Him. Good Luck.
2007-04-15 15:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay your ex back. But don't go alone, bring your current boyfriend with you. And do not keep in touch with you ex at all.
Also, call the police (their non emergency line) and ask what can be done about the threatening phone calls and text messages. Bea cause you'll never know what a person is capable of until its too late.
2007-04-15 15:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely take those messages to the police.. If they have sufficient evidence that you have a genuine fear for you life they will be able to issue a restraining order.. You are better safe then sorry.. At least if you take these messages to the police they will know that if something (god forbid) happened to you that he is the one to look at. But make sure you tell them you want an official police report filed. Don't walk away from the police station with out doing that first.. Good luck and be safe!!
2007-04-15 15:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the police, whether they look at you stupid or not! Tell everyone you know, mom, dad, brothers, sisters, cousins, that you feel threatened by this guy, so everyone can testify to the fact if asked. If everyone around you is aware, they can let you know when he's near or if he tries something. Don't take this behavior from anyone! Keep going to the police if need be, and they will advise you on restraining orders and other steps to keep yourself safe.
2007-04-15 15:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because this is in writing, try the police first. If they don't do anything (which is typical), consult an attorney.
The best way of handling this would be for male family members to beat him to a pulp, but poltical correctness has long done away with this.
2007-04-15 15:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure and keep the emails printed out and put away. Since you have warned him wait and see if he backs off. If not...go to the police. It would seem if he doesn't back off that he is dangerous with are without the police. You stand a better chance with them. Also...check on a restraining order.
2007-04-15 15:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should pay him back his money as soon as possible so then he will have nothing against you.
Keep your boyfriend away from him .!.
After you've paid him back his money, carry on ignoring him and if the threatening texts continue after you don't owe him anything then take the texts to the police.
But don't and don't let your boyfriend respond to him. Or else it could look like you are provoking him.
Hope things get better for you,
x.
2007-04-15 15:26:59 · answer #8 · answered by bessy_1962 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you can report it to the police, and they will take it seriously. I mean, think about cases where people are being stalked, and receive threatening messages. They have every right to report it to the police, and so do you.
Save the text messages as evidence, and if you have voicemail messages, save those as well.
2007-04-15 15:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by Surely Funke 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would pay him back asap and not be stupid enough in the future to borrow money from your abusive ex boyfriend. I dont understand why you would ever do that.
2007-04-15 15:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋