---i went out with this guy & he and I shared so much together. there were some rough times but we got through it. there were a couple of break-ups, but we got bak 2gether, but now it's still off. **he and I still have feelings 4 each other, but lately he chANGed.
---He seems like he doesnt have any time for me anymore :( Every free moments we have, he spend it on chattin with the teachers or other people & we can't talk on phone because his mom dont let him.
---& i told him to come to my house this weekend, but he didnt come & never called to apologize. I write him notes but he never response to them. It's like his mind is into something, but I have NO idea what & he wont' tell me.
**---so, what is up with him? & what a girl like me to do?---**
2007-04-15 07:23:46 · 18 answers · asked by Toki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is there any pOSITIVE ways to view the situation? & please dont go wit other ppl's answers on here. thanks! im losin hopes on this situation.
2007-04-15 09:16:06 · update #1
well, maybe he's overwhelmed. it also seems like your a little too shy. you need to find a time (like lunch) to talk to him and i mean really talk to him, notes and messages may not do the job. see what's going on. maybe he's going threw a lot right now. good luck! <3
2007-04-15 07:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by I Am A French Fry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The issue here is probably that he doesn't like you anymore, but has the decency (but cowardice) to try to let you down softly and slowly. He probably feels that if he gives you no time with him, you'll forget past times with him. It is probably best to move on in this situation, if he has no time, he has no time, even if he does like you. And if he doesn't? That speaks for itself. When you've had an on-off relationship with a guy, it's perfectly normal for him to seek something more substantial. You should, too.
2007-04-15 07:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem pretty young to me-
I would encourage you to get involved in sports or hobbies. To concentrate on getting excellent school grades, & to surround yourself with good friends instead of getting caught up in a relationship because you're too young to be dealing w/ these issues. Trust me, you have the rest of your life to find the right person. Stay young & happy while you can.
2007-04-15 07:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just drop it and be glad that it happened.
I know, you wont like this answer at the time, but, if he "doesn't have time" for you, then that means that he would like to avoid you, and he doesn't want to hurt you by telling you that he doesn't like you like that anymore.
He's leading you on.
Don't follow, is my best advice.
You'll be happier in the long run.
THE FREEDOM OF BEING SINGLE IS UNBEATABLE.
This is putting so much stress on you, that the moment that you actually decide on your head to give up, you'll be extatic with the happiness :)
2007-04-15 07:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwies imma help u out baochau! :] well hm.... i aready kno wat happen and **** but like i told yoo, wat i think is tat, he is scared of goin out again, even if he still have feelin foh yoo and stuff, but i think he is scared ofa commint u kno? yea.... u jus needa tell me wats up wit yoo, and how u feel about him and this.... so he can kno the truth, if u dont tell him str8 up how is he suppose to kno anything rite?... :] and u jus needa change how u are.... jus dont get all mad when he say something u dont like, cuz i think wat u have been doin is makin him scared and u kno tired of it... so u jus needa calm ur butt down and stuff, and jus think of the good stuff instead of goin off on him... tats not gonna help yoo wit aniithing, tats jus gonna RUIN EVERIITHING... :] so yea.. there is yor answer =] buh bye =] need me im rite infront of ur house, and jus a fone call away :]
2007-04-15 07:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by laydeexvieet 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you've already broken up a few times and you know that he's changed, ask yourself why you're still pursuing him at all... sounds like it's probably been over for awhile.
just because you still have feelings for one another doesn't mean you're meant to be together.
i mean, not responding to your efforts to communicate? so he's blowing you off, too?
It's not for you to know what's on his mind if he's shutting you out, but it is for you to realize that you're being shut out and just move on.
no biggie. time saved.
2007-04-15 07:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Steve C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop him face to face and ask him whats up, if he says nothing he's lying, then say to him well if you don't want to be friends with me let alone talk to me, fine but you could let me know so that a could move on too.. give him no time to respond right then just walk away... see what he says if he chooses to say anything to you later... then after that it depends on if he responds or not..
2007-04-15 09:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by swissmiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a man, there all the same, there funny creatures. they don't know how to express there emotions, so they just do what they do best and that's walk away, they're cowards. try and forget about him, go out there and have some fun. good luck.
2007-04-15 07:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by chazalfuss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but....
He's just not that in to you..... I know it sounds harsh.
Check out the book it helps....
Good luck and ask yourself why are you spending so much energy over someone who isn't giving you the attention and affection you deserve, you're woth more than that! :)
2007-04-15 07:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well maybe he is just scared to hurt you again like maybe he loves you a lot but he doesn't want to hurt you
but thats just a maybe kinda thing =/
my boyfriend said eat pie ((ya don't ask he is on the phone with me and i asked him to help me so he didnt know what to say so he said that))
2007-04-15 09:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by hottyxbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋