My boyfriend and i had been together almost a year,when we had a huge fight and i left him.Afterwards,he went on the rebound with a girl i cant stand,while i started casually seeing my best guy friend.At first we thought it could our new relationships could be great,but now we've realised how stupid we've been.we are still madly in love,but our new partners have now also said they are in love with us.Its driving us crazy,because we do like them both alot and don't want to hurt them.anyway,i can't just leave my current partner like that,because it would really hurt him,and i know he would stop talking to me,for quite a while at least.i've lost him before,and i can't do it again.plus,his gf has hinted she would kill herself if he leaves(yes,she is nuts).what can we do?!
2007-04-15 06:38:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a toughy. Maybe ur 1 true love should pretend to be really rude and discusting and she would break-up with him. As for u, u r in the toughist situation of all. Its gonna be hard but tell him that u luv him but like a brother and that u wanna be just really close friends.
2007-04-15 06:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you left your bf for a reason. Maybe you can't remember why you were so upset, but this could happen again. Second, you can't live your life worrying about everyone else around you so much. If you are not in love with the ones you are with, you and your boyfriend should break up now before more time goes on, even if you don't end up back together. The girl who says she'll kill herself needs psychological help. Have your bf find a way to help her after he leaves her. But leave her he should if he doesn't love her. You are hurting your current guy more by staying with him if you don't love him. Move on and let him find someone who worships the ground he walks on.
2007-04-15 07:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, someone ending up hurt in these relationships is inevitable. Oftentimes, rebound relationships result in someone getting hurt. Instead of prolonging the inevitable, you should go ahead and end the relationship with your guy. The longer you stay with him, the deeper it's going to get, and his feelings for you will grow. Do it now, before this goes any further. And if you lose him, well, unfortunately, that is just the chance you are going to have to take. You can't just expect things to go back to being the same, because they likely won't. However, you should be fair to him, and be honest and upfront with him ASAP. Let him know that you care for him, and don't want to lose or hurt him, but that you've realized you still love your ex. At the very least, let him get out of this with his dignity intact. Good luck with your relationships!
2007-04-15 06:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can the two of u possibly like each other and do such things.Don't u think that in future if u & your boyfriend to have a fight how can u be sure that he wouldn't be on the rebound with another girl?Were u not happy with your current partner beforeu found out that he still loves u?I don't think u should go back to your bofriend.I think u should move on.
2007-04-15 06:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow what a crazy girl lol. well you both need to be honest with your couple. you two have got to get together since that makes you to so happy. i know because i have been with the same guy for 2.5 years and we never have split cause we love each other madly. dont let people get in the way of love. if the girl complains she will kill herself i honestly think she just wants attention ( highly highly doubt she will kill herself) true love is something u cannot let go or break.... be honest and talk it over with him and the same goes for your love! Good luck!!!!
2007-04-15 06:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His girlfriend needs counseling. You can not stop a person who wants to commit suicide if you do not have the proper training. Maybe he should talk to a crisis line and find a way to possibly get her help. You two just need to tell them how you feel before someone gets hurt worse. You will just have to live with the consequences.
2007-04-15 06:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by Gidget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not married. So,there is no obligation for anyone to "stay" with anyone. You are doing no one a favor to stay with them while loving another.
I suggest you both break up and remain "single" for awhile. In other words, take a break from "being together". Then if after some time passes, you still "love" your old boyfriend, then get back together.
2007-04-15 06:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..... You see...... What you could do is you could let your partner know that you are madly in love with another guy, in a nice way .... give him little hints . If his new girlfriend kills herself or threatens to then do not tell her.
2007-04-15 08:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Basketball_Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to tell the truth. The girl will not kill herself and if she does then she was just looking for an excuse to do so.
Truth is golden.
2007-04-15 06:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow you heart if you want the man go for it if she says she's going to kill her self it's a bluff tell the other guy how you feel I'm sure he will be sorta of hurt but he probably already knows that you still in love with the other guy so let him go
2007-04-15 06:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋