My birthday passed a few weeks ago and I've been waiting FOR WEEKS for this one gift from one person. She is my au pair (like a nanny, but she lives with you) and she did this last year! I had to wait until the beginning of the next school year (I was born in march!!!) before she even bought the gift! But my sisters get their gifts the day before their birthday! Shes heading back home (South Africa) in June, should I wait for her to give me my gift or forget about it at all?
2007-04-15 06:26:32 · 19 answers · asked by Mixed bag 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The thing is, she has plenty of money! Every other day she comes into the house with a new coach bag or a game for my sisters! UGH
2007-04-15 06:32:10 · update #1
Yeah! I tried to lead by example! I got her an whole makeup kit for her b-day! Guess what she did? SHE RETURNED IT so she could get cash to spend on candy and soda!
2007-04-15 06:36:40 · update #2
Guess what. You can't program a gift. You can't get hurt if someone doesn't give you something, because a gift is something that one person gives another, out of affection, fondness, thankfulness or whatever. But it is strictly voluntary.
If she didn't give you a gift, and she gives gifts to your sisters, there isn't much you can do about it, and pouting won't help. Since she's heading back home to South Africa in two months time, you won't have to worry about it any longer as she'll be out of your life. So just give it up. It isn't worth the anguish you are causing yourself. Next time you feel in a generous mood, go out and get yourself a gift instead of giving something to someone who obviously doesn't want your gift.
PS - it's called bad manners on her part, but you can't do much about it as she's your au pair, you aren't hers.....
2007-04-15 07:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been saddened by a similar situation and to this day I think about it. I waited for the surprise and it never came. I figured that is the time I lost the child in me and had to become an adult.
Personally, I would forget it and be happy to have had a birthday. But if it did come at a later date, I would be surprised and happy too! PS. I would show that I have love for my au pair and buy her a gift for her birthday or when she leaves to go home. Love conquers all wrapped gifts. Put her first in you life and love is sustained.
2007-04-15 06:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by hot wheels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it. Surely there are more important things going on in your life for you to worry about. It shouldn't matter whether or not someone gives you a gift (unless it's your husband)!
2007-04-15 06:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by amaya7 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE she can't afford it! If she works for your family and doesn't get paid enough, it could possibly be that money runs short this time of year.... Be thankful for all the things you have. Don't worry about the one thing you didn't get. Did you get her anything for her birthday? FORGET ABOUT IT.
2007-04-15 06:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by bernel1403 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just forget about it. That way, if you recieve the gift later on, it will be more of a suprise and if you don't end up recieving the gift, it wont matter.
2007-04-15 06:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by LXC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you have no choice but to do both. Forget about it so it won't make you upset, and wait and see if she remembers you after all. Maybe next year you need to drop hints?.. lol
2007-04-15 06:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Shay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about it, maybe shez a bit tight on cash at the mo cos its not chaep moving arouns and she might have family that she has to look after at home too.
2007-04-15 06:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it - two years ago, my niece brought me a gift that her mother had given her to pass along to me six months previous at Christmas. I left it at my nephews place in New York later that year and haven't seen it since.
What's important is that I love my siblings and their children and they love me.
2007-04-15 06:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ben 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her gift and don't give her any gifts in the future.
2007-04-15 20:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give her time to give you the gift or forget about it because she might be taking longer because she might be to busy packing.
2007-04-15 06:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by Princess M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋