2007-04-15 05:42:56 · 15 answers · asked by mrshw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My fiance doesn't like the idea either. I have sat down with him and made it clear that I will be going and that I in no way expect him to participate, but rather that it's something I do to feel good about myself and it helps me handle life's trivialities. He accepts this based on wanting what's best for me, but it took a while. Good luck!
2007-04-15 05:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is probably worried (threatened) that you are changing a lot, and those changes dont include him, since he has no desire to go to church. Let him know that you are still you! And that you still want to do all the fun stuff in your marriage (hopefully you do). And then tell him the reason why you want to attend church (ie it puts you in a positive mindset, you want to make friends, meditating is soothing for you, whatever).
2007-04-16 06:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're going to go because you want to. If he doesn't want to then he doesn't have to but he shouldn't be making you feel guilty for going. That's his problem. What does he have against it anyway?
P.S. My dad never went to church for the first 24 years my parents were married. About a year and a half ago he decided to start coming, all on his own without anyone nagging him to go. Maybe he just needs to find his own reason to go and he will. Good luck
2007-04-15 16:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What else is he doing to control your life as you want to live it? Do you get to eat what you like? Do you have to wear the kinds of clothese he wants you to wear? Are you allowed to choose the people you want to associate with? I think you have some tough questions that you need to ask yourself. I was with a husband who was attracted to me for my free spirit and then spent 23 years trying to rein me in. Our primary care physician was the one who told me to leave, but it took nearly a year in counseling for me to work up the courage to get out of my marriage and only when things suddenly turned from psychological to physical abuse. If you are asking how to "cope" it tells me that you are at your wit's end. Go speak with the pastor of the church you are thinking of attending or find a good counselor in your area. I think the first thing you need to do is begin thinking about how you want to live. If church is one of those things, by all means begin attending without making an issue of it with him as it is HIS right NOT to attend. Please, please if you are dealing with an angry person, get professional help. Best of luck.
2007-04-15 13:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to ask him why he feels this way and if I wanted to go I would go. Has he been damaged by something that happened in church?
2007-04-15 13:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, try finding out what his problem is, and explain why going to church is so important to you. If things still don't work out, maybe he has a serious issue and you should try getting help
2007-04-15 12:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by Treblika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he doesn't want you to go to church...no problemo, hold church in your house instead. That way you don't have to go anywhere. I bet after a few Sundays of that, he'll be begging you to go to church.
2007-04-15 12:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like all the other wive, just go to church.
2007-04-15 13:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to worship as you choose. Try talking about your respect for him and that you love him but try to give him freedom and you would appreciate the same.
2007-04-15 12:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u want to go, then go. Ask him if he would like 2 go with u. If he says no, let him know that ur going any way.
2007-04-15 13:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by Just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋