that if she goes to police or his po he will harm her , I feel like taking matters in my own hand and making sure he wont do that sort of thing again to anyone, im worried about my girlfriend at the time it happend she was so loveing caring and compasionit i dont like the thought of that iner beauty deminishing. what should i do i feel like taking the bad tree out by the roots so it never grows back , i do know were he works and lives , how about a vote ; take out or let go ? majority of same replys will rule...
2007-04-15 05:38:23 · 22 answers · asked by feather 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She needs to file a police report right now
2007-04-15 05:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to file a police report. If you still have the clothes that she wore that night and they have not been washed take those as well. They might be the evidence you need to convict. If you do not go to the police this will happen again to someone else. Make it stop here, but do not take it into your own hands. She needs your support and you can't do that if he presses charges for assault and battery! She should also see a counselor. A therapist can help with the feelings that she is experiencing and teach her how to deal with them. Then maybe a self defense class would help her feel less edgy because she would know what to do if she feels threatened again. I am so sorry that this happened to her. I pray that this helps you.
2007-04-15 05:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, please encourage ur gf 2 report this horrible crime 2 police. then b supportive and help her through this time by letting her know that ur there 4 her and u r behind her no matter what. but dont take matters in ur own hands that will only cause more trauma 4 ur gf. she needs 2 speak with some rape crisis counselors 2 help her through this ordeal. this guy is scum and needs 2 b dealt with but not by u. theres nothing u can do 4 ur gf in jail!! go 2 police u pay their salary with taxes so put em 2 work. my heart goes out 2 her i cant imagine what she must b going through right now but the longer she waits the harder it will b to prove so go immediately!!
2007-04-15 05:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by mizzlilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago was it? did he use a condumn? Did she shower already, if you had of taken her to the hospital right away, they will not call police unless she ok's it. They could of taken a dna test on his sperm if he never used protection. Anyway call an assaulted women's help line in the front of the yellow pages and get her into couseling, right away, the sooner you get her into therapy the better chance you have of getting her some help, they offer assistance to spouses of assaulted women and how you can help her. This is important, all those things you listed in your questions unclean etc is all normal, she will probably want to take a lot of showers and this is normal for what she is going through too. The hospital does a rape kit and keeps it for up to 6 months or longer if you ask for it. And police are only notified if she wants them notified. If you decide to take things into your own hands you will get yourself into trouble and who will be there to help her through this? I know what I would like to do to the guy myself, but what is the worst you in jail for assault and she will have no support plus it will make her more upset if you do something like that. If she wants to talk I was assaulted for 22.5 years by an uncle and I know what she is going through, if she wants to email me she can or you for that matter. Crisis lines are not just if you are in crisis but will help you with what is going on right now and will give you numbers to call for couseling. If she doesn't get help she may get stuck in a terrible cycle of assault. Take care Heather
2007-04-15 05:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should go to the police. They can offer protection. Is there any evidence that he did in fact rape her? If not, there might not be a whole lot that they can do. I would make sure that he never does that to another person again. Just make sure that you don't get caught. If you do,then it'll be bad news for you.
2007-04-15 05:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by MADS1228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police. She should have done it right away, now there's no DNA evidence.
Do not take action against him yourself, as tempting as it is. She needs you with her, not behind bars.
Get her into therapy and keep her talking about what she's feeling.
She is not at fault.
Help her remember that inner beauty by showing her your own.
She needs to talk to women who have been through the same thing.
2007-04-15 05:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by amstaff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report this to the police IMMEDIATELY!! You shouldn't even have to think about that. The PO will definately be allerted by the police. Don't worry about him coming after you or her. He will be locked away for awhile.
Then your girlfriend needs to seek one on one professional counceling to help her heal.
Good luck!
2007-04-15 05:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by rondiebabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to report it immediately to the police and his po. I am guessing they know of each other in some way. Perhaps she feels some responsibility (which she should not), which adds to her guilt and shame. I would also stongly contacting the rape crisis center in your area, they can guide her through this painful process
2007-04-15 05:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Vee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go to the police. You need to comfort her and avoid 'taking matters into your own hands.' That will only send you to jail. Convince her to go to the police. Get legal justice.
2007-04-15 05:41:11 · answer #9 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him out? I think you should realize that would mean your girlfriend would have two traumatic experiences to contend with. Not to mention that you would no longer be able to be with her since you would be arrested for murder. This is premeditated since you are planning it. Have her to file a report with the police.
2007-04-15 05:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋