Those that think they are always right.. they drink ..cause trouble..then blame it on the booze. Dont you think there comes a time when that excuse doesnt pan out anymore? So...though family...I have to walk away.
2007-04-15 05:27:50 · 17 answers · asked by gypsy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
good for you for walking away .now fly ,be free and grow to be the you ,you want to be. proud of you
2007-04-15 05:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by lady d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i believe they should grow up!!!sure booze causes a lot of problems, but if family knows this?dint invite him or her to any occasions where there is booze, dint give them-that excuse, try to keep all family get together booze free,it can be done and most times is a much better part. none gets sick or falling all over, plus the drunks dint usually come-take away there excuse, just dint put up with it anymore, ever. if hes drunk, tell him go home, you dint allow it around you or your family anymore, and be strong and stick to it, he'll get tired of not being around the family anymore. DO NOT TOLERATE HIM DRUNK, ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-15 05:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by debbie d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you to walk away .. have you tried the Al-Anon groups as well -- for with those with addiction problems in your life, you definitely could use the insight that others coping with these Addicted persons have as well .. and the strength they have to continue to either deal with the problems or ... more importantly .. how to effectively distance yourself UNTIL the addicted person IS treated and NOT using anymore.
The time comes when one is sick and tired of enabling the 'excuse' of addiction .. and it is different for everyone.
2007-04-15 05:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are sometimes content just making excuses for themselves. I find it odd though, they know what their problem is but never stand up and face it. No accountability at all. Like the bottle or needle or whatever else their vice may be made them do it. But all you can do is walk away, they don't want help, they want pity. Screw that.
2007-04-15 05:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Pontius 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, booze causes a lot of problems! Are they willing to go to AA and get help to stop drinking? If not, back away and let them have their space.
2007-04-15 05:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's exactly right. If they're causing that much trouble with the drinking, it's time to just get out of the situation. It's not healthy for you
2007-04-15 05:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by MADS1228 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We waste our time arguing with the bottle......
There is never a time we should just walk away from others in trouble. But there is a time when we must learn to love them for who they are (even if we don't like that, they have chosen to be the neg.lesson barer we all need so we can know what
the positive actions is)
"Love them, but detach yourself from their problem."
You did not choose it for your lifestyle. But do not alienate them as someday they may want your help, and need to know even tho you've detached from them you are still there for them....It is a tough one, I've dealt with it through several close family members.
2007-04-15 05:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you're speaking of an alcoholic. Alcohlics and addicts can and will rationalize their actions in any way they can. Sometimes you do have to show some tough love because I can assure you nothing you say will change them,only they can change themselves. You don't have to turn your back necessarily, but by no means enable them to continue their behavior. Make yourself available to them but by no means accept their excuses or tolerate their behavior. And don't hate them...hate the disease. Because it is a disease as real as any. Good luck
2007-04-15 05:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by doc_up72 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tbh, i'd ignore their invites until your mom realizes that bringing drama will not only affect you but your family. honestly, your children needs to respect your grandma and if they see your grandma doing all sorts of stuff that'll make them have a bad opinion of her, then more drama will be lifted. i highly doubt you telling her a piece of your mind will change her. honestly, your stepdad seems like he's not even going to care about your children so he's out of the picture.
2016-05-20 22:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by mina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the alcohol gives them a lot of courage to do and say things hey want to say sober. Misery loves company!
2007-04-15 05:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea. Been there done this. I simply walk away. If they continue with their antics. I simply leave. They do not want the truth to be told. If I have to I will. Trust me. They get over it.
2007-04-15 05:36:39 · answer #11 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋