i dont know what to do. my father my never talk to me again....?

Question

okay heres my problem: my parents are divorced. i live with my mother and she recently met a women whose name is Betty. She is really nice and good to me my sister and my mother. one day i went to visit my dad.he was all like i saw that woman with ur mom the other day. do you know something she looks like a lesbian. and i said no she doesnt.he said i cant tell anyone about what he said. but i 4got and told my mom. my mom told betty and betty said she was going to sue my dad. my mom asked me if i want to go to court with betty to protest with her. but if i go my dad will know i told my mom. but i know its the right thing to do... plz help me....i am only 12 years old what should i do??

my aunt is going to go to mexico this week so my mom went to visit her. pretty soon my mom found out that my father had told my aunt about this. betty asked her lawyer if she can sue and her lawyer said yes because people cant just talk about others like that. besides she has my aunt as a witness.

Answer 1

Number 1 neither your father or mother should be putting you a 12 year old child into the mix of their personal problems. You are a child and if the adults want to act like children that is their problem not yours.

Tell your mom that you do not want to be a witness to the statement your father made not because you love your dad and you don't want him to know you said anything, but because this is an adult issue and you are a child.

Nothing bothers me more than when parents do not consider their children's best interest over their petty disagreements. We wonder why our children are so messed up after we cause the damage.

Continue to be a child and enjoy your life, do not worry yourself over adult issues especially ones like I will sue him because he said something I don't like. Most court systems are overwhelmed with dealing with family issues and criminal cases and really don't have the time or money to deal with petty issues like name calling your mothers friend is blowing smoke and won't get far.

Answer 2

I don't know how much you understand about lesbians but believe me, there are women who are wonderful friends and love their friends dearly, truly love them and are loyal to them and never ever would think of bringing sex into the relationship of loving friendship. There are also women who do that, though, unfortunately.
They often try to look like men and that's what many lesbians aim for. I don't even know what Betty looks like. I hope she isn't a friend to your mother hoping she will get sex.
Whatever the situation, I hope Betty does go to court. She's got an idiot for a lawyer. Someone can have suspicions about another person being a lesbian and even voice those suspicions and it's perfectly legal.
And this makes Betty sound like an idiot - if she thinks she's going to sue your dad, she's as stupid as her lawyer is. Sorry. Betty is probably sweet and nice and I hope she's a heterosexual.
I have teenage children. When you get ot high school, which is not so far off, you will find that 'He's so gay' is an insult. If every kid who made a remark about another kid they disliked being 'so gay' had to go to court, there wouldn't be enough hours in the day to hear the cases just coming from the local high schools.
Betty's protesting too much. As long as it's her money she wants to throw away, I have a feeling her lawyer is paying for his summer vacation by encouraging her to take your dad to court.

Answer 3

Betty is being ridiculous. Why do people instantly come up with "sue"? You should stay out of it. Do not go to court, you are too young. Your Dad shouldn't say things to you that you shouldn't repeat either. You are too young! Let things lie. Pick up your relationship with your Dad and your Mom. You need them both. I'm sorry they are divorced when you are only 12. This should all blow over and be forgotten soon. Good luck!

Answer 4

First off, your dad should keep his comments to himself. Betty and your mom need to get a life as far as taking someone to court over his opinion of what she looks like. All the adults are sticking you in the middle of something that isn't your problem. Tell your mom that you won't go to court and that you don't ever want to be put in that spot again. Tell your dad that any talk about your mom's girlfriend is off-limits. Then step back and let them fight their own battles. You don't need this crap.

Answer 5

Neither of your parents should be putting you in the middle of their silly arguments. You don't need to worry about court, it sounds like Betty is just blowing off steam. If your father starts talking about your mother again, it may be time to talk to him about not wanting to hear it. The same should go for your mother and her friend, if they talk about your father. If you are still worried, try visiting a church and talk to a priest, you could use a good adult friend.

Answer 6

seems such as you may desire to stay reliable on your mom. Being which you're 17, perchance you will get an element-time activity to help your mom out. He can no longer take your funds. i might even perchance evaluate writing a letter to the decide. Being which you're 17, a minor, a decide would pay attention to what you may say. in the experience that your mom has an lawyer, confer with the lawyer and tell the lawyer what you witnessed. additionally, next time you notice your mom, supply her a super hug and enable her understand how appreciative you're of her for all she has accomplished for you. reliable success and stay reliable!

Answer 7

You probably need to just let the adults handle this situation, it's for them, ur too young and shouldn't have to worry about what ur dad started. Just tell them what u said on here, I'm only 12 maybe they'll realize that the 12 yr old is RIGHT

Answer 8

Stay out of it. Your mom asked if you want to go. You tell your mom you do not want to get caught up in the middle of it and you don't want to go.
You're still a little girl. You shouldn't be put in such a position by people who are supposed to be adults. Let them hash it out; they all sound very immature.
It's not "the right thing to do". Although your father was dumb to make that statement about the woman, I can't imagine any lawyer is going to take her case to court. Stay out of it, honey. Put it behind you. Stop thinking about it. It's not your problem.

Answer 9

This situation is hard to say what will happen , I don't know if your moms friend can sue your dad,because people call people gay and bad names all the time. Your dad has the right to freedom of speech. Maybe if he was telling people she was gay and she wasn't then she might be able to sue. I dunno in this situation ,because personally I don't know you or your family well enough to make judgement and secondely I am not here to judge people. Good luck maybe someone who knows law will come around and answer your question.

Answer 10

Your 12 dear and it isn't up to you to do anything if Betty was such a good person she wouldn't even ask and your mom is just as sorry for asking. This is between grown ups. As soon as they deside to grow up. Tell them NO!!!!