My ex and I broke up a few days before xmas and I can't seem to shake him! I think about him every waking moment that passes and it's driving me crazy. We were in pure bliss for solid 8 months when things just seemed to go downward. He became really tied up with his job and getting ready to head back to school. I completely understood where it was coming from and us not seeing each other how we use to because when we started dating I was holding 2 jobs while going to school, but still found time for him. To me our time together got dwindled down to 1-2 times every other week. It got to a point where I finally asked him was he still my boyfriend or did he no longer want to do this? It took me a good hour to get him to say no! He said at the moment it wasn't good for us to be together but maybe later on. When we see each other now he gives me this look like he has so much to say to me but doesn't know how to. I just want to know how I can get him back without seeming like the needy ex?
2007-04-15 05:08:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well the fact that you had to push him for an hour to force him to say no says a lot. It means he really wasn't sure about wanting to lose you... but also that you were stressing him out. If things have quieted down for him with school and all, next time you see him say "give me a call sometime" and smile. When he calls, don't start pushing him to talk about 'his feelings' for you. Let him remember how much fun you are. What you have to ask yourself is, how long will it be before his schedule (which likely is still similar) will get the best of you again and have you questioning everything?
2007-04-15 05:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Calico Skies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he still likes u too & also want 2 be in a relationship with u but he is probably 2 afraid 2 tell u since u were the one who brought up the topic of breaking up.I say u should just tell him how u feel and plan something out so that u guys can spend time together.I don't think he'll say no cuz u said that u had 2 talk 2 him for abt an hour 2 break up & he also gives u this look that he has so much to tell you.
2007-04-15 05:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the needy ex. If you connect with him, he will be using you for sex. He probably was banging you when you saw him and then just forgetting about you till the next time. For most guys getting sex every 2 weeks is better than never at all.
Move on and find someone else. If he wanted you, he would have called by now. 4 months is a long time.
2007-04-15 05:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this to you, but it sounds like he made the break. Sometimes, he is not that into you. You need a guy who can find the time for you even if he is working three jobs. People who really love each other find ways to connect. Also breaking up before the holidays was really a cruel thing to do to anyone. It sounds like he wanted to move on and just had trouble saying it. His loss, girl. With all those guys out there you are sure to find someone who thinks like you do, just don't move too fast. Best of luck.
2007-04-15 05:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i comprehend precisely what your dealing with. My husband left me 4 months in the past and that i've got a 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous son. My husband additionally ought to no longer deliver himself to tell me that he now no longer felt the comparable way approximately me and he additionally grew to develop into depressed and unhappy. We have been mutually 7 years and married for 4 years. Why are you dashing in direction of a divorce, why do no longer you in simple terms wait. i think of after a undeniable time aside you now no longer ought to offer reasons whilst submitting for divorce. desire all is going properly for you.
2016-12-29 13:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him sweetheart. Instead of standing by him, supporting him and understanding, you sepnt an hour convincing him to break up. Now you want him back? What do you think he is? a Yo-Yo? What's changed that you want him back? Does he have more time now? Couldn't you have just waited it out and been a real girlfriend instead of selfish?
Don't read too much into his look, it's possible he's thinking, I'm glad I'm not with her anymore, she couldn't support me when I needed her most.
2007-04-15 05:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear there is nothing wrong in showing him that u need him.Nothing matters in love.V never know how much sm1 means 2 us until we lose them.The most important thing is 2 speak out ur love.Nothing 2 b embarrased about telling him that u want him back.Thats love.Nothing 2 b shamed in it.
2007-04-15 05:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by JOJO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would lay it out on the line and not worry about looking needy. If he doesn't want to get back together then move on.
2007-04-15 05:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by Cake17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously....don't think about being a needy ex. pull him to the side and talk to him. tell him you still have feelings for him and you wanna work things out. Ask him how he feels about it. You can miss out on such a great relationship just because you didnt wanna be the needy ex. Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do....no pride involved
2007-04-15 05:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by JayJay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kes, I am a guy so when I read your paragraph It hit because the same thing happened to me and my girlfriend. I lost interest because I wasnt in love with her. At first we were hot then the "newness" wore off. Believe me, move on and FORCE yourself to go on a date with another. The newness is the funnest part. If there is love then it is different. If you try to get him back you have to spark his interest and when THAT newness wears off you will be back at square one. If you go back to him just remember one thing....I told you so!!!
2007-04-15 05:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by Nob ody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋