on my bus there was this guy travis who started to like me in the middle of the year but hes a freshman. We started talking on the phone & i fell in love with him. & i KNOW i love him. well anyway we stopped talking after i begged my mom to let me go out with him. well its been aroung two or three months and i have had a few failed relaionships because i keep looking for what i had with travis. we had so much in common and he was just the best. well he has a gf now but recently we started talking on the bus again & he keeps saying stuff like "remember when..." or "i think it was really stupid what your mom did" well i walked to his house the other day but couldnt get up enough courage to knock on his door. I still love him & im still mad at my mom about it but i dont know how to tell her & i dont know what to do to get over it. i cry every night because i miss him. should i sneak a relationship w/him?? im soo confused cuz he stil has a gf but i think he still loves me. ahh im confused
2007-04-15 05:00:10 · 18 answers · asked by best kept secret&biggest mistake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She only did what she thinks is best for you. He is older and he is in high school. It probably scares the crap out of her. Trust me...you're going to be dating guys that your mother hates...and you'll be fighting with her about them as well.
Take it slow for now...there is plently of time to get involved with guy.
2007-04-15 05:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by BlueEyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't like my answer but I say do not sneak around behind your mom's back. You are in the eighth grade, your mom will catch you, doesn't she always? And do you really want to lie to her all of the time? As far as loving Travis goes... the best you can hope for is that when you get to high school in 5 months he'll have broken up with his girlfriend and your mom will let you date. Just spend the summer making a plan. And remember if it doesn't work out; you've still got a long time to find true love, you don't want to settle. Good luck.
2007-04-15 05:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by polly o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all YOU ARE in 8th grade and speaking of LOVE. I have an 8th grader and I can see why your mother doesn't want you dating someone in high school just yet. You already have mentioned love and have not had the opportunity to really date this boy "REALLY". It takes adults many months sometimes years to fall in love or as you say "love" someone. How in the world can your mom feel comfortable allowing you to date at your age when your ready to love someone you really don't know. I think "Like" is a good term for you at this age and then have fun, stop all the seriousness right now and your mom might ease up. I know if my daughter had a crush or liked a boy, I might be more apt to allow her to hang out at the mall or movies with friends or a boy once she gets to high school but all this love stuff you need to stop it at this time.
2007-04-15 05:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts? Talking true love at 13-14 years old? You should be concentrating on school and having a good time with as many friends as possible and get off the true love kick since all things pass and this surely will unless you want to end up living in a trailer park with 3 kids attached to your skirt. This guy also already has a girlfriend he sees and you are younger and he may be playing you as a poor second.
2007-04-15 05:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUUUUUHHHHHH!!!! You are in eighth grade. You shouldn't be even thinking of dating. I bet when you become an adult, you will barely remember this guy. You need to grow up before you can really understand what love is.
Believe me. When grown ups say "You don't know what love is yet" when it comes to relationships-it is because we remember what we were like when we were younger. It may SEEM like the end of the world right now, but you will live. Concentrate on getting your education and leave boys alone until you are in college. Even then, you need to watch out.
2007-04-15 05:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Travis was such a great guy then he'd have stayed with you even though you couldn't meet him at the mall on weekends. You see him on the bus, talk to him on the phone and see him school, what's the problem? At your age, you're not old enough to properly date and go out alone anyway. If he wouldn't wait for you, then he's not the guy for you. Find your self-respect and quit obsessing over a guy so selfish.
2007-04-15 05:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
summers coming up, wait till next year and you'll be in high school too.
Just dont do anything that you wouldnt let a 5 year old do. it might be hard to understand but somethings you may regret when your older, and one thing you cany fix easily is a reputation, like "shes that crazy stalker girl"
As far as 'being in love' goes, dont let anyone tell you that you are too young to know what it is. Love is love just because you are 15 or what ever doesnt mean you dont love him.
good luck, stay safe.
2007-04-15 05:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by zorro1701e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 00:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may think this is love. u are in 8th grade little girl. u don't know what real love is just yet. you are infatuated. that is what is called at your age little girl. and your mom was right. sorry. try not to grow up so fast. before u know it u will be older and then older and then older and look back thinking gosh i wish i could go back to when i was young and innocent without any cares in the world, no job no bills just the wide world. :)
2007-04-15 05:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by michelle b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. He has a girlfriend. If you sneak a relationship with him, not only will you degrade yourself, but you will also lose any trust you had with your mother, make yourself look pathetic to Travis and his girlfriend, and you will be known to the entire school by your actions. Let him go. Time eventually heals wounds. But if you think that he may have an attachment to you, let him pursue it. You do not want to be the 'other girl'. And know that your mother is only trying to protect you. She's only looking out for you by not allowing you to date high school boys.
2007-04-15 05:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by Rewind 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋