I have an online long distance relationship with a young woman from the Philippines. Is it worth it ?

Question

I have an "online girlfriend" from the Philippines and we want to meet at some point but I know so very little of their culture. What are the women there really like? Are they just after American men to bring them here to the US? I keep getting "mixed signals" from this woman and could use any advice that somebody may offer to me.

Answer 1

mixed signals = not good

why continue with it if you have doubts?

Answer 2

Sorry but I'm thinking that it is not worth it. You're only 17 and it's not a great idea to put all your love and trust into one person whom you've never even met before. Since you only know this guy online, there's a chance that you don't know his character properly because when you chat online to someone, you're only seeing parts of their personalities. Also, long-distance relationships barely ever work out. I was in a relationship once with a boy who lived about an hours drive away and it just didn't work out because couldn't see eachover very often. Also, a lot of your time and effort seems to be dedicated to talking with this guy. At your age you should be focusing on your real life, not spending every hour online. I'd say that you should just be friends with this guy and focus on getting to know boys you've met before. Ruby xx

Answer 3

there are many philipino women who would love an honest relationship with a man,,any man as long as she and he felt the same,,love comes from all over the world BUT,many women also think and have been led to believe it is a better life with an american man,that love is not necessary as the life is worth it,,what you consider 'her love for you' could likely be just how they are brought up to view marriage or a womans relationship with a man.if this love is to blossom you should have no mixed signals,,she should not ask for money under any circumstances even if her mother is about to undergo surgery and will die without it.she should treat you as nothing more than someone who she wishes to know better and if she is honest it will shine through. it may be an idea to imply financially,,you are not doing as well as you thought,,that you too have problems,,some normal,some not so normal,,anything from your dog is dying to your ex wife is taking you to the cleaners.at the end of the day if she cares about you she will let you know and if you are still unsure maybe she isnt right for you. dont jump in with concrete boots,,,one toe at a time.

Answer 4

to have an online girlfreind for me theres nothing wrong with it. but if u want to go to serious, well of course, u should watch ur feelings. I mean are u happy while talking with her? or did u miss her by no talking or see her? and regarding of what women want: of course women want : thats simple of course women want a real love: an unconditional love: 80 % of women after an American men to bring them in the US, base on facts But not all are the same. there are some they full in love but what a coincedence coz the men are from US. to have an online girlfreind is a risk especially when u go to a serious relationship, for me u should know well each other and if u are compatible or not, and also both are try to compare the likes and dislikes and also try to catch her negative and positive attitude through asking of some un expecting questions. in that way u can catch her the way she is, being her being her self.

In short, for me: LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. When u love someone that is a package, u should love her/him whatever she/he is or whoever he/she is. either bad or good. that is love. Both should be honest her/his feelings communication is also important to a relationship.

Again for me: life is to short. life is beautifull. live life to the
fullest. coz its hard to live in this world if u have
so many regrets in life. also hard to get marreid
if the person are late bloomer.
but most of all:
let it to god. coz it gods will not ur will. let the time bring to u the right women 4 u. If when? only time can tell if when and if how. just trust god i know he will help u. just be in ur self always.

well, i hope u get some ideas to my answer. some of my answer are base on facts, and base on my experience also.

thank you...........

Answer 5

I am married to a filipina.Most are kind loving people. my wife was already in canada . when we met.. I have heard of some guys being taken. You must remember there is a lot of poverty. When we went there little kids selling toilet paper in the washrooms.. You dont say what the mixed signals are. lots of filipinas already here as nannys and nurses. . Have you spoke on the fone? Email me [e-mail] Ed Pero

Answer 6

Well, my friend first of all i dont recommend online relationships cause mostly they are fake...However, u are the only person who can judge if u feel that u like her and she is worth it then go for her and even if she wants the US citizenship or whatever I think u wont mind this as long as she likes u and she can make a good wife like most asians do :)

Answer 7

Long distance relationships are extra challenging, especially when they begin as long distance versus people who date locally and then are apart for a time.

Only you can decide what is going on here, but it is not uncommon for people in poor countries to use the internet in an attempt to scam others in various ways.

What is this woman's intent? Only she knows...if you proceed, do so with caution.

Answer 8

Sometime you are right. I know one of my friend came here from her internet boyfriend and left him for another man but who know she must be in love with you. All people are not same. Give her a change and see how it works.

Answer 9

Depends on what your objective was in establishing a relationship online, and what you want/expect the outcome to be.

Answer 10

yes she only wants you to bring her to the US. Most likely. But she'll probably make a good wife if you do.

Answer 11

invite her to the US as a tourist. show her that you have a poor living condition in US. if she sticks with you, you may get the right girl.