My daughter was recently in a car accident and has had to drop out of school. Now, she is getting better and is looking for a job. I make about 1/3 of what her father and his wife make. I give my daughter what I can but when she asked her father, he states that he can't afford it.
2007-04-15 03:13:43 · 24 answers · asked by anastasia 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Say, "our daughter is in need of financial help, can you help her please?"
2007-04-15 03:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by B Z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he has to deal with his wife and most times those second wives are not too keen on working just to hand their paychecks over to the first family. So, what you need to do is talk with them both. Ask nicely if they can help a little more right now since your daughter is looking for a job. Explain that it will be just for the next few months. Maybe they thought it would be forever. If not, thank them and make it look like you mean it. Then explain to your daughter that they said they can't help financially. You don't state how old your daughter is but if she is in college, she can learn to be on her own and live within her means. It doesn't matter that her father makes more money because it is not owed to her anyway. This may be a blessing in disguise and will help your daughter grow up and be responsible for herself instead of going to her parents all the time. Good luck.
2007-04-15 10:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your daughter is over 18 and college student if
she is job hunting......
It is hard I'm sure...but many people never get to higher education due to limited finance. Neither you or her father
is obligated to pay for higher education if it put a burden on
you financially (and fathers wife income should not be taken into consideration it is not her child). There are scholarships and grants to help She can seek funding from the Assistance and grant programs and pay back later; if "she" is determined "she" will
find a way without her parents paying her way. Everything
in life is a lesson to learn from, maybe this is one of hers
to teach more Independence and more determination.?? (only she can say)
2007-04-15 10:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee, i hope your daughter does recover well.. i was in an auto accident, too and still recovering. i will remember this and say a few prayers.
the best you can do is call her father and ask yourself. i don't know what she needs, but hopefully you can let him know what she does need, and perhaps he will consider giving her a little assistance.
have you or your daughter applied for medical assistance or disability of any kind? I'm not sure what teenaged persons are eligible for, but it's worth a try.
i know that there are church organizations who help people, especially the catholic church. perhaps you could look into this sort of help as well?
take care, hon.
2007-04-15 10:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter? If she is a minor (that age differs from state to state) then the Family Court System can probably help you out.
Does your town/state have a family court system?
Go there and ask some questions. His wife and her salary are not responsible for your child, but he might be.
2007-04-15 10:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too old for child support?
how about spousal support take him into court because you r not living the same quality of life as you were when you guys were together and if you werent married call him on the phone yourself and tell him his daughter is in need if she is over 18 she may be or may have been eligible for disability whether she had a job or not there are children born with debilitating situations and they get a check
2007-04-15 10:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by tabatha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing that your daughter is over the age of 18?? You cant make him do anything. You can ask, but that doesn't mean he will. Your daughter has already done it and he said he cant afford if... well if he said that, I doubt he will help. Didn't your daughter have insurance??
2007-04-15 10:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like her father is showing his true character. Don't worry, things will work out if you do not dwell on the negative. If he can't find it in his heart to help his daughter WHEN NEEDED, then you don't need to associate with that type of a person anyway, DO YOU?
2007-04-15 10:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by FREDERICK F. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not ask. Your assessment of his financial situation compared to yours has nothing to do with it. Your kindness and giving to your daughter is commended. You have no right to request others will do the same. Continue what you are doing and leave your daughter's relationship with her father alone. His unwillingness to help in a time of need will not serve him well in the future.
2007-04-15 10:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly if your daughter is over 18 there is nothing you can do. If he isn't already helping her out then he wouldn't do it out of the goodness of his heart at this point. If she is under 18 he should already be doing his part. If he is not then take him to court. You should not have to handle it all on your own.
2007-04-15 10:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is still under age, you can go to court to get help with the financial bills associated with medical, etc. If she is an adult and the divorce decree has let him off the hook, there is nothing that you can do to get him to help her. Just remind him that "what comes around, goes around" and when he needs help when he is older, she will be less likely to give any aid.
2007-04-15 10:18:46 · answer #11 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋