I received a text message this morning asking me why we haven't had sex yet. I now feel pressured and don't know waht to do. I don't want sex yet with him , but don't want to split up because i want have sex with him. What do you think i should do.
2007-04-15 02:56:44 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Compromise. You don't need to have full sex with him why not give him a blow or hand job, that way everyone is a winner.
2007-04-15 03:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't text him back instead phone him and tell him you don't want the pressure he is giving you, if he tells you he is getting irate waiting, explain that if he truly loved and cared about you he wouldn't put that pressure on you.
The fact of the matter is you are not yet ready and as a boyfriend he needs to understand that.
As when you are ready the moment will be perfect for you.
If he still refuses to acknowledge what your saying dump him as there are a lot more understanding guys out there
2007-04-15 03:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly cares about you then he would not pressure you into doing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Communication is key, explain to him nicely why it is you wish not to engage in sex with him right now, let him know how much you like/love him, if then he still doesn't understand and keeps putting pressure on you then sweetheart he is not worth being with. It may hurt for awhile, but believe me in time you will look back and see that he was the wrong one for you and you will be happy that you didn't give that one special piece of you to him. Remember everything happens for a reason. Don't give in to anyone, they should accept you for who and what you believe in and respect that! It is your life and your body. Take care. Daisy
2007-04-15 03:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by daisydots33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never ever have sex with someone under pressure or before you're ready, he seems a little immature to text that sort of question to you, it needs discussing in person, without the onus on accusing, as that what it sounds like to me. tell him you're not ready, end of. if you don't get the response that's understanding, you mat well be better off without someone who treats girls like that. if that's all that would stop you splitting up, it desn't say much for how he feels for you
2007-04-15 07:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do Not have sex with him/any1else unless ur Ready orelse u Will regret it4ever
B straight with him&tell him ur Not ready:-
if he really likes u, he Will understand
if he doesnt accept ur answer, he is the the Wrong guy, he is a jerk (many out there)..&u Have2get rid of him ASAP
u must b Very confused now... but from an objective perpective... it's so simple.. it really boils down2what i said above&im sure most of ur other answers will point u in the similar direction... it's up2u2make the rite decision
ps. sleeping with a guy will not keep him from leaving u
2007-04-15 03:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by jammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no doubt that he is wrong to pressure you into having sexual intercourse if you don't fell ready yet...
but, depending on how old you both are and how long you have been together for, he could be understood for being restless...
having said that, you don't have to do it, but keep in mind the possibility that you could end up losing your partner...not everyone is ready to wait forever...
2007-04-15 03:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been truthful to somebody that needed a one-way relationship....all the feelings might bypass to prop him up; and probable so he might desire to boast to his associates. on no account sense compelled to do something in a relationship which you're uncomfortable with.....a real relationship is two people who've have confidence and faith in one yet another; he replaced into purely looking out for his desires, no longer yours.
2016-12-26 08:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready then don't be pressurised into having sex with him just because he wants you to do so.
Tell him that you are not ready yet and if he leaves you then he wasn't worth it was he. If he likes you then he wont mind waiting.
If he keeps going on at you kick him in the balls then he'll forget about wanting to do anything with them *LOL*
2007-04-15 03:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's obvious really, if you feel that way then tell him you're not ready yet. If he doesn't like it then dump him because he only wants sex. Don't give yourself to him just because he asks.You would feel very bitter if you had sex with him and then he promptly dumped you!
2007-04-15 03:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by ageless_san 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
If you don't want to have sex, let him know that while you care for him, you aren't prepared for a sexual relationship. Tell him you would appreciate it if he wouldn't try to pressure you, because for now, this is your personal choice.
I think that is as clear as you can get about it.
Please don't let him pressure you into something you don't want to do. I see you don't want to split up, but remember -- if he doesn't respect your choices, he's definitely not right for you.
take care of YOU.. hugz
2007-04-15 03:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋