My son is 26 years old. He loves to spend time with his new-baby born and wife, but he never seems to ever call me. I always call him but he never answers. I might ask him that if I should move in with him. Do you think I should or not?
2007-04-15 02:19:06 · 9 answers · asked by chip d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His wife and child are his responsibility, NOT you. Don't move in. It's not his job to take care of you. You had him, it was your duty to raise him, but he's raised. Get some other interests.
Let your son enjoy his baby and wife.
Oh, fyi, when my brothers married, my mom never talked to them much. She always talked to their wives. My mil usually talks to me more than her son (my husband). That's just the way most people are.
No, deary, REAL parents make their arrangements and don't demand or expect their kids to take care of them. Hate to break it to you be RESPONSIBLE people make their plans ahead of time. My kids won't have to care for me or my husband. We know that NOW and our kids are only 9 and 13. We are planning for the future. Obviously, you are still living in 1960 something, because responsible people don't expect their kids to support them.
2007-04-15 02:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are physically capable of taking care of yourself then NO you should not move in. You shouldn't burden the new family with that even if you have the best intentions. It can cause a strain on their relationship and even cause animosity towards you from the young wife. Just try to make arrangements to see the baby. Tell them you want to spend time with it and it should be allowed to get to know you. If you are overbearing you will just push the family away from you. Just remember the old saying, A son is a son until he takes a wife, a daughter is a daughter for life. Sad but true. Good luck!
2007-04-15 04:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by jhardinmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that that might be a little extreme. I think that you should keep trying to talk to him. If you can't get him on the phone. Email, fax, snail mail, text message him just to let him know that you love and care for him. Whatever you do just keep the line of communication open. He has his own family now and with all the exciting things that are happening in his life sometimes he may forget to call or he is so busy he can't answer the phone. The most important thing is to let him know the you are there for him and that you love and care for him, but let him be a man offer your helped but don't force it on him. Let him come to you first.
2007-04-15 02:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to interfere with your son's life by moving in with him? this would cause a lot of problems, believe me.
i have no idea why your son isn't answering the telephone. i feel badly for you, really.
step back and take a look at things -- can you think of a reason for your son's behavior, and why he isn't answering the telephone when you call?
i hope things work out, but you need your own home and your own space, and so does your son and his wife. you could be intruding if you even asked to move in, so don't.
it's perfectly ok for us to visit our children in their homes, but interfering with their private lives just makes matters worse.
i hope things work out. perhaps when you talk with your son the next time, you can ask him what you can do to improve your relationship with him. something is obviously bothering your son.
take care.
2007-04-15 03:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. We often have to refer back to our own early married life. Would you have wanted your parent to move in with you? You understand that he's busy with his new baby and wife. That's a busy day. I'm sure he will call you when things settle down. Just be patient. Look forward to time with the grandchild in the near future. Congratulations on the new addition to the family.
2007-04-15 02:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a grip. your son has started his own family. You are not the number one person in his life any more. You should be proud that you raised a good man.
why would you need to move in with him, other to make his life hell? I think you need to live your own life and let him live his and get together once in a while for a family dinner.
2007-04-15 04:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first this is for tmarie; were do you get off sayin its not the sons responsibility to care of his father if his father is in need it certainly is ; deary do younot know how real families operate . when are parents get older we take care of thenm as they took care of us ewwe that pissed me off anyways if its not an emergency situation ide saylet your son alone and this for you dad listen to the song cats in the cradle. this song is about what your experiencing
2007-04-15 02:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by tabatha g 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
NO! dont move in there
leave the kid alone, he's TRYING to be a dad!
2007-04-15 02:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't move in with him
stay alone is better
so far more love
2007-04-15 02:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by amirat7oby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋