What Should I Do???PLEASE HELP!!!?

Question

i'm 15 and me and my bf (who have been together for around about 6 months) is almost a year younger than me really want to have sex for the first time but because we have a long distance realtionship we only see each other a few times in the school holidays and our parents never have left us alone by ourselves longer than 10 mins. should we talk to our parents and tell them, because we really love each other

Answer 1

Now, let me clarify something, I'm not a preachy fanatic when it comes to sex. But I do think their are some certain things to consider before having sex.

1) Your age : I always cause a lot of arguments with this. But you are fifteen. five years ago you were ten, just a kid, probably playing with barbies or something I don't know. You can't even drive yet! You can't fully take on the emotional hardships of love at that young of age. Yes, I know "you're different you say" That's what my friend said at your age too. Although she boasts with other friends that it was "Cool" or the "right choice" she confided in me privately that she saw it as the biggest mistake of her life.

2) Your reputation : It's at stake here. This sucks for the girls, but whenever you sleep with someone at that young of age, you are most of the time, labled a whore.

3) Your current relationship: Long distance relationships suck when you add sex into the mix. For starters your fifteen and you can't drive to his house. It will be hard enough as it is, without him being around all the time. You only see him for 10 minutes. Pretty soon it will be only about sex and nothing else.

4) Commitment : Are you ready to say "I do" Do you want to walk down the ailse? Yes I know, bizzare questions, but I'm just throwing them out to show you my point. Sex is a huge step in a relationship, for those who want one atleast. That is a huge responsibility. What if you get pregnant? Will you be ready to take on the responsibility of his kids? Do you want kids in the future? Are you ready to drop down and marry this guy right now? Think about it. If you've had sex, you've pretty much done everything under the sun that a married couple would do? Do you want to me married at age 15?

5) Breakups : They suck. And when their is sex involved...it sucks even more

6) What is love : If your love is really strong you can wait. Don't be fooled. Love is not about having sex. Love includes many aspecs including sex, but that is not the whole she-bang. Now, if you really love him, don't have him go through the 5 things I mentioned up here as well.

7) Just some food for thought : Do you want your kid to have sex when he's 13? I know I wouldn't.

8) Waiting = better sex : Now you're probably thinking? Waiting, I don't want to wait untill marraige! Okay, well fine, but atleast wait. WHen you shake a coke bottle it explodes right? Well the more you shake it, the more tension the bigger the explosion. You havent "Shaken the bottle" enough. Once you've been waiting a long time it will be more special, more intimate, and all that pent up energy will be put forward to someone who knows all of you.

Answer 2

Look, you are only 15 years old. in another year, you will be legally allowed to have sex. What's the big rush? Trust me when i tell you that the first time you have sex isn't magical and it doesn't feel wonderful and you don't feel older and more mature and like your floating afterward.
You're first time is nothing like that romantic version. Often it's rushed, painful and there's a storrm of emotions that come afterward including shock, regret and often the wish that you could just get a hug from your mum and hear her tell you everything is alright.
You do not want to do this, at least not yet. You're not ready for it, this isn't a critisism, no 15 year old is ready for it, no matter what your friends might say at school.
Have a serious think about what you're doing and talk to your parents. Don't ask them to give you permission because they won't. If you want them to pack you off to an all girls boarding school or move interstate then go ahead, ask. The only thing you should be wanting to do right now is get as much information about sex as you can. Use any and all sources that you possibly can except for the school yard. Tell your parents that you are curious about sex and ask them if they can answer some questions for you. It might be a bit weird at first but approach it with maturity, after all it is a mature thing that you want to do. Go to the library, talk to your guidance counsellor at school but make sure that if you are going to do this you do it armed with all the information you need to protect yourself and cope with the emotional backlash that follows having sex for the first time.

Give yourself another year or two before you make such a big life decision, when your hormones have settled down and when you'll be able to cope with sex like a mature young adult. If you abslutely have to do it now, with this boy, then talk to your parents and school guidance counsellor and get as much information as you can before you do it.

Answer 3

If he really loves you he can wait. Life is so much more than sex. If you talk to your parents they are going to make sure to never leave you alone together. Seriously at 15 you need to think about life~not possibly making one.

Answer 4

U are willing to give your body to another boy that you barely see?? OMG Right there is the problem, your parents shouldn't leave you alone, you will prob end up pregnant, the rest of the working class people will have to support this child cuz you have no means to do so. And you think you should be out screwing boys at your age??? Get real. Keep your legs closed till you can afford to have a child.

Answer 5

What would you talk to your parents about.

It sounds like your boyfriend just wants sex, and you're the one talking about 'love'.

Dont be forced into something you dont want because you feel thats the only way he'll love you.

14 year old boys aren't always the mature, kind and considerate people you think they are. They might just be really, really horny.

Answer 6

I was fifteen when I lost my virginity (although I was only two weeks away from the legal age) and I regret it; I wish I'd waited until later.

I think that talking to your parents about this is a good idea. They'd probably be happier that you shared this with them instead of keeping quiet about it.

Answer 7

If your parents are understanding then I think you should talk to them.. But if they aren't like mine weren't then you might want to considder trying to go at it alone. But first and foremost make sure that you are completely prepared to dive right into this.. I was 15 when I lost my virginity and it is something that I wish I could have waited much longer to experience.. It's not something that you should want to give away easily..

Answer 8

Just wait it out. If you really want to an apportunity will come along and you can seize it. I don't suggest trying to make an opportunity for yourself, it'd most likely lead you into getting caught. And don't forget to put a cap on it. It's not like I can stop you from going through with this.

Answer 9

At least wait until you are legally allowed to... the age limit is for a reason, unless of course you are happy to cause damage if your body isn't fully ready!

Answer 10

if you want to make sure your parents NEVER leave you and him alone, then by all means, tell them.

Why dont you both wait a couple of years and temper your hormones by a couple of years of maturity. If you still want to have sex, then ok