What should i do, i worry about it all the time. I'm 18 and shes 16 and i know she won't leave me or cheat on me, but still i worry about it everynight. What should i do to cure this problem, its wrong for me to tell her she cant talk to other guys who are her friends, and i wont do that to her.
2007-04-15 01:32:18 · 18 answers · asked by Scott R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont really talk to any other girls so i dont know. I see that its stupid but yet my body still gets jealous of it, its almost uncontrolable
2007-04-15 01:38:33 · update #1
She only talks to them on aim, or if she sits next to them in a class, i dont mind the class part at all because i do the same if i sit next to someone in class you have to talk to them. But when shes on aim i dont know what shes doing.
2007-04-15 01:44:04 · update #2
Don't look at it as jealousy then. Look at it as fear. When we are deeply in love with someone, there's always a fear to lose them. Let your gf know of your problem. Let her know your fear. Put it across in a nice tone, but don't end up in quarrels. She should reassure you on her feelings. indeed it is very wrong to restrict her from talking to guys. She needs friends too. Look at it this way, you are only 18 and there's a long way to learn about loving someone. So you gotta learn to curb such fear now. If it is so easy to love someone, you think the happiness it brings will be so great? Good luck to you. Remember communications is important between couple.
2007-04-15 01:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by henry_fy7d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, your only 18 and she is 16. This and many other relationships will come and go in your life. The reason that you feel this way is Your "insecurities". Slow down, open up. Communication is the absolute best for building a good relationship with a girl/woman. Tell her how you feel, ask her how She Feels! Keep it light,your both very young and the hormones are pumping!! Respect each other, and you being the oldest, set a good example. Once a woman,young or old, knows where she stands with her partner, the relationship grows and builds, or it ends. So it is up to you to "open up", and talk,communicate,lay it on the line,go for it,get your courage up and be a man!
2007-04-15 01:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to talk to someone about why you feel insecure and/or jealous. Please do it soon.
At least half the battle is won in that you realize that you're somewhat out of control over this issue and that change is needed--and that the answer to your question is definitely not to be found in HER--and in trying to control her, oppress her, smother her, monitor her,....
The answers to your questions are, indeed, in yourself. There are no quick, easy, or simple answers or solutions, certainly NOT from Yahoo Answers.
Only rigorous honesty and commitment to internal work on your part will help you solve this, help you recognize how this mind-set/emotional response got started and how to change it. Ask around in your community for a men's group or a good referral to a counselor or therapist who specializes in men's issues.
Good luck.
2007-04-15 01:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place......Why are you dating just one girl?
You should be out there banging as many girls as you can. Remember right now you are in your sexual prime. Why waste that on just one girl. Later you will regret it.
You ask ,'What should I do to cure this problem.'?
Answer....Dump her, and start dating many girls at the same time.
It is your ego that is at the bottom of this problem.
Be honest with the other girls you will start dating by letting them know you are not exclusive with them, and that they to can date other boys.
Iknow this sounds like the wrong thing to do, but it is a learning process. As long as you are honest with yourself and the girls you date, you are doing no one any harm.
2007-04-15 02:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by dewhatulike 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need to turn your relationship into abuse and hurt her. You need to calm down and take a deep......... breath. Now I know a song that can help you remind you that she'll never cheat on you or let others steal her heart from you. It's called, She Never lets It Go To Her Heart by Tim McGraw. Please listen to this song because it's singing about your problem and how it's handle right. Do it for your girl.
2007-04-15 01:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Robby M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get over your jealousy or it'll ruin your relationship. She's not sleeping with these guys. As long as she loves you she won't leave. Getting jealous all the time is going to make her want to leave you.
2007-04-15 01:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should just tell her to inroduce u 2 them otha guyz or u can come up behind her, give her a hug kiss her on the cheek ~N~ she might introduce u 2 them so u wont feel uncomfrotable.
2007-04-15 01:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by lydia r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love,man.Just savour the feeling.If this is the first time, work on it to keep this special feeling a life time.Good luck.
2007-04-15 01:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by para 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she either likes you or she doesnt and if she gets sick of your jealousy you will find yourself single and she will still talk to these other boys,,the only thing different then is the fact you can no longer have any say. choose,,,get comfortable with the fact your girlfriend is not there to be told who to talk to,,,or lose her.
2007-04-15 01:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say you should let her talk to the other guys. if she truely cares about you she'll just go over and talk to them for a while. but if she does leave you for one of the guys then it wasn't real. i say you could go over and hang out with the guys, see what they are like, and just say nicely that's my girlfriend and you better not mess with her.
2007-04-15 01:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by glamorous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋