My mom has been visiting (I've been sick) and expected to leave today. But yesterday my aunt, uncle and dad thought they were leaving yesterday. When mom found out they thought they were leaving, she started yelling at my dad and said, "This is the last time you do this to me!" Then she started crying and moaning and shaking. It was bizarre. She's always been emotional and, frankly, childish. But this took the cake. It scared me and made me think she's lost it. But my aunt says she just cryies to get her way. Who does that at almost 70 years old?! I thought I was the weird [re: stoic] one. Is this a sign she needs help?
Part of me understands maybe she was overwhelmed...She's been worried about my health, she made the five-hour trip which scared her, I'm getting divorced which depressed her and we've always had a tense relationship. But is her reaction normal?
2007-04-15 01:31:46 · 7 answers · asked by TopLessOne 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like your mum, like mine, has alot of emotional issues, suffers from extreme anxiety, and has difficulty dealing with things in a rational way. But the problem with mine, and I suspect yours, is that she refuses to believe she has a problem and seek help. Instead she blames everyone around her for her problems. The key, I've found, is not how she deals with things but HOW I DECIDE TO DEAL WITH HER. I've found that getting upset over what she says or confronting her simply doesn't work. She's 60 now and she's not going to change. So when she gets like that, I've learned to go into my only little space mentally, detach from her outbursts and focus on something else. Inevitably, the problem dies away (until the next time, of course). The key, I'd say, is never to confront or judge. Just detach, don't let her get to you, and gently encourage her to find help and work through her problems. Confrontation and force simply don't work with women their age.
2007-04-15 01:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by abdiver12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your 70yr old mom has alot on her plate..worrying bout your health, a 5hr trip which scared her , the stress knowing you're getting a divorce when all she wants is for you to get well, be taken care of, and for her to know you're going to be fine...This plays on ppl alot more than you could possibly imagine. Being depressed will make someone cry, become very emotional.....their feelings are all over the place. Let your mom know how much she means to you and how much you've appreciated all that she has done for you over the years..how she's been there for you* Put her mind at ease for her safe return home* You may have had your ups and downs over the years, but mend them and let your mother know how much she means to you*~ GoodLuck*
2007-04-15 03:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 00:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by linnon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom seems to have some issues, and at 70 years old, it's likely too late for her to change...
she seems to take on YOUR problems as her own, instead of living her own life. while it's nice that parents and other relatives are supportive, being depressed because of YOUR divorce is a little odd...
people with high levels of anxiety are sometimes very emotional and can be controlling.... yes she needs help, but do you think that, at her age, she is going to seek help? i don't.
take care of you... apparently your mom has been like this all of her life and isn't apt to change now.
2007-04-15 03:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is over tired and over concerned with all that is happenning, If she is 70 years old just spare her and do not give her too much details about your health problems and divorce, she has no power over any of them and old people worry much more then we do. She needs to be reassured and if she gets overwhelmed too often it would be good to bring her to the doctor.
2007-04-15 01:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom is in her mid 60. she is always unproportionally emotional too.most of the times she misunderstands my good intention; but even after i tried to explain to her what i mean and how i feel about her reaction, she accuses me of "misunderstand her". that gives me a headache. last time we took her to have a complete medical check up. the md said my mom suffers from depression as she always keep everything for herself (does not want to vent her feelings to anyone); so it "explodes" that way. maybe you should take your mom to see an expert. age (being old) is not an excuse to have such a behavior.
2007-04-15 02:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could she have a touch of dementia? Maybe she can't help herself acting like she is.
2007-04-15 02:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋