Have a very good male friend, if u know what i mean. He's met someone, and has been seeing them. We have still been intouch, with emails and phone, that have included sex talk. His new gfriend has read these and things have kicked off!! He's then telling me that he doesn;t want to hurt her, and that she's devastated, as though i would understand the situation that he was in, and expecting me to be sympathetic!!, when he is planning to see me too. He and I have been good friends for a long time, but i am flabbergasted that he thought that i would understand
2007-04-14 22:21:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he and i both work away in the same country in the summers, and she will not be there, he is keeping me on the back burner for when we arrive there i think!
2007-04-14 22:31:43 · update #1
i onyl found out about this woman when she read the emails 2 weeks ago and he had to tell me as he can't stay in touch
2007-04-14 22:35:54 · update #2
we were actually together all last summer, and it wasn't just chat on the internet, he was contacting me all the time to chat about the coming summer!
2007-04-15 03:43:58 · update #3
He is a cheat. Simple. And you are being used.
2007-04-14 22:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reread your question and see for yourself the problem..
you.. very good friend
she..THE NEW GIRLFRIEND
Now turn the situation around and put yourself in her shoes what would your reaction be if you found those emails...
betrayal
upset
jealousy perhaps
lots of emotions run through your mind when someone you trust and love has been talking dirty to his VERY GOOD FRIEND, weigh it up and try to under stand why he doesnt want to hurt her, sorry to be straight but he LOVES HER and you only the friend friends are supposed to understand ,he obviously thought you were taking this with a pinch of salt.. now ask yourself this why are you so upset,, do you think you have deeper feeling for him than you anticipated, even sex talk on the internet can stir up very strong emotions in our mind.
If you want to stay freinds you will have to back off and respect his choice and both their feelings, this girlfriend may one day be his wife and im afraid best friends take a back seat,
good luck huny i know its hard this relationship thing but this is life, you go out and find yourself a nice guy then the four of you can all be mates together, i know that may sound ridiculous right now but if you play your cards right its not an unrealistic goal to focus on
lotsa luv ma xxx
2007-04-15 06:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's messing with you, he likes having you hanging around incase everything goes wrong, id say if u really like him and want him as your own you have two options, you either do the same to him, find a man n then tell your other friend all about him or keep hanging on and be there to swoop in and pick up the pieces after. the second choice would be the hardest tho because u cd end up in the exact same position you are now, end of the day its fine for all these people to say get rid of him but ur attached emotionally, so do u think ur be able to let go? good luck
2007-04-15 05:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by ppaine7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not really sure if your saying that your with this guy or not. But if you are just good friends and he's got a girlfriend then why not leave them be?, i mean all this sex talk and tx's are just wrong. But if you are with him then he's a fool for playing with your head, leave the idiot your just giving him what he wants.
I can't believe what people get up to these days.
2007-04-15 05:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you telling us this?
You share responsibility in this mess.
You were having sex talk with him while he was involved with someone else. You're allowing yourself to be the other woman and be kept on the back burner. You're as guilty as he is.
2007-04-15 05:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't see you as anything but a friend with benifits move on before you get hurt and if you are hurt know that you will heal and find someone who is just yours and who will respect you more then this guy does
2007-04-15 05:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by two kids and loving it !!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry Mel, sounds like he knows he will jeopardise his new relationship, if he stays in touch with u.
detach from him, don't allow him 2 use u & upset u.
think very carefully about ur relationship, if this new girlfriend of his, doesn't work out.
b wary, don't allow him 2 hurt u again.
2007-04-15 05:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U havent mentioned anywhere if u r a guy or girl, hence by default ill assume ur a guy !! That makes u gay !!
2007-04-15 05:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by T Z 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm...'F*ck Buddy' springs to mind. Let him go and forget about him. Move on and find someone nice.
2007-04-15 05:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by Koontz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me he has you as some people call it a "backup" if i was you i wouldf kick him to the curb
2007-04-15 05:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sandries 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋