I asked my first question and got no answers in two days. Sounds like most people are scared to answer touchy questions.
I've been on dates with boys/men and they have been scared off by some physical problems I have.
I'd like to know if there is some sort of line where people just can't take it? Like, is there this limit as to what is too much for people? I guess so. I just don't know where that limit is.
Tanner
2007-04-14 21:13:10 · 12 answers · asked by Kev 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry for sounding so angry. I just really wanted to hear some answers to my first question. I was being impatient I guess.
Question: I've been on dates where teh guy was apparently scared when he actually found out I have lost a leg.
No, we weren't having sex. We were having dinner. :-)
It is not so obvious until I take it off or at least pull the cover stocking down.
Im sure that a big part of my problem is my selfconciousness about it all.
Thanks,
Tanner
2007-04-14 22:06:17 · update #1
As for my other question. After seeing no responses I pulled it and asked a new one. Sorry.
2007-04-14 22:07:34 · update #2
what do you mean by this be more specific i would love to answer your question but just dont have enough info.
2007-04-14 21:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting. I can't see that you've asked a question before. When I check your profile, Tanner, it looks like this is the first question you've asked. I'm sorry if we've missed your previous question.
The line where people can't take it will vary from person to person. The limit does not exist as a predefined thing. You define your limits. I define mine.
I've had a brief fling with a girl who has cerebral palsy, wheelchair bound, unable to talk except with a computer keyboard - highly intelligent - she wrote and starred in a movie which won a Cannes film festival award! and she immortalized me in obscurity by naming the film's main male character after me :-)
The limit I had was that everything was fine for me if she had her computer and was able to communicate with me, but as soon as things got very intimate I would not be able to communicate with her and know whether things were good or bad or hurtful or what! I got very uncomfortable at this point.
Most people wouldn't have gone anywhere so far as that. That's all you out there reading this and going Ewww gross!
Some people would have disregarded that. That's all you out there reading this and going Eh who cares about communication, dude? Just go for it!
Different people have different limits.
I was told (about a month ago) about some chick who was really hot looking but couldn't seem to get sexual partners. The issue was, as told by this guy (and this is from a friend of a friend, so of course you know it's true), she brought the guy back home to her place (cos she's got rubber sheets on her bed) and then her idea of sex is that she gets naked, takes a dump in the middle of the bed, rolls around in it and then says "come to momma!"
Understandably, most guys are going Ewww gross! at this stage (including me).
I'm sure there's some guy out there who would be all for it (shudders) and if he finds her, he's got himself a wonderful (I guess) sexual relationship. God help them both!
2007-04-14 21:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Tanner, some people are really frightened of anything which might be considered "politically incorrect" to comment on. Some of name changes for disabilities these day are quite honestly offensive. "Differently abled" is one of those which get my hackles up. If you have a 'club foot' then you have a club foot. It doesn't mean you're not fit to pull beer, or be a Company accountant.
It's the description that do-gooders want to foist on us which does the damage, and the reason you haven't had answers to your question. This one seems to indicate that your teeth were tightly clenched, and you hit the keyboard a bit hard when you wrote it.
Put it up again - the original one, and see what happens. Forgive and ignore the monkeys, there are real people out here if you don't shout at us.
2007-04-14 21:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most people don't take kindly to liers. Or to those who think the rules don't apply to them, or the ones who leave out important info. So, Tanner, Have you crossed any of those lines? Most of us, I believe, will give you an honest answer, we are here to help, but you must be sincere in needing our help. In case you are not familial with how this works, when we click on your avatar (or hidden profile)we are taken to YOUR home profile page, where we can read your sign up date , and see which questions you have asked or answered. Naughty, naughty!! Tanner, I believe you have been very naughty .............want to try again?
2007-04-14 21:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's strange, but your profile says you've only been a member since April 14.... that wasn't two days ago. Besides, you're not asking a clear question here. Maybe if you were more clear? Good luck.
2007-04-14 21:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by bb jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people look beyond the physical problems and some don't. Just be patient you'll find the right person.
2007-04-14 21:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by cyndy a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have a chip on your shoulder. Maybe if you can lose it you would be more successful in your dating.
2007-04-14 21:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by willieb1961 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to your profile, you don't have any other questions other than this one. So what is it you want to know? Maybe you need to ask it again.
2007-04-14 21:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by p_i_turtle_sanders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Re ask your previous question and I will definitly answer it
2007-04-14 21:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by thatguy21491 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't give us any real info to go on...if you can add details, i'd be glad to answer.
2007-04-14 21:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋