How can i stop being jealous of my sister,?

Question

It seems she is always perfect, says and does all the right things and has the ability to make me feel inadequate. Is this just my hangup or is there a certain way i can handle this? If i have an issue in my head about this, how can I fix it? And is there a self help book that can help with more positive thinking?

Answer 1

You must love yourself first of all. She is not perfect we all have flaws no matter how minor they are.Look at the good in you and acknowledge what you are good at and continue to improve . Work on some weaknesses and make them become your strengths. Remember no one can make you feel inadequate unless you allow them to...

Keep your head up... ; )

Answer 2

when u become jealous of someone, you give the message to her and yourself that you are inadequate and that she as things that you cannot obtain or ever obtain for yourself. you are giving her more power..
ur basically telling urself that she's better than you.
forget about books on positive thinking. i suggest u get a life. find things ur good at and

spend your time doing those things so that u will feel less threatened by others.forget about self help books. just self help yourself! stop ur nonsense and stop blaming ur sis for your negative thoughts.
while ur acting like this, ur sis is probably doing something that will make u more jealous of her later.

also, she is ur sister. ur blood. u should be proud she is doing well. i wish my sisters did right things, were extremely successful etc...(so i could mooch of them) and brag to everyone that i had sisters like this.

Answer 3

You might try talking to your sister. She may have strange ideas in her own head about you. Or ask her how it is she seems to be perfect and you don't. What is the age difference....or are you twins? There really isn't competition between you. You are already perfect. So is she. But each of you is different, will ead different lives, have different experiences. Your experiences will be yours, not hers. What you get out of life is uniquely yours. So celebrate the fact that you are different, not the same as she. Be yourself and don't worry about her, she will have her own problems. But be sure to talk to her. She can truly be your best Friend.

Answer 4

All through my life my sister was admittedly jealous of me, She said it was because i was prettier and had friends and more outgoing. She has been violent to me in the past. This has destroyed our relationship and no longer see each other. Do you want this to happen to you? Please try to see that you're not the only one hurting, you will push her away as it makes things awkward when you're together. If you really think that this problem wont go away then ask your doctor if you can talk to a councellor, might sound extreme but if you want things to change then you'll do anything. You are who you are, just try to love yourself.

Answer 5

dont view ur sister as the "perfect sister" "the better one" or anything like that. try to remember when you werent jealous of her,,,,the good times,mayb when you were young,not minding anything but just have pure fun with your sister,,,shes not a competitor,shes a companion

Answer 6

Stop trying to be like your sister. Be your self and try to see what your good at.

Answer 7

she is ur sister ... ***...why to be jealous... make her happy and u should be happy when she is moving forward in life...

Answer 8

Unless your fat and ugly, you got nothing to worry about. Don't worry about her life, and worry about yours.

Answer 9

ever think that she is jealous of you?