problems with prom, advice anyone?

Question

My prom is coming up soon and well I have nobody to go with. I get panic attacks whenever I try to ask anyone out and I have no friends that I could go with (then I'm a guy so that really wouldn't work out either).

I could go alone, but I would just end up in the corner trying to prevent myself from passing out with anxiety/having an uncontrolled panic attack.

O ya, I also can't dance, have never been kissed before and suffer from depression on top of the cripling anxiety. Then I sort of also already have a reputation as the shy nerdy guy who passed out in class and most people seem to think I'm creepy (even the "emo" group).

any advice?

Ya there is a bit of a problem with that talking and trying to get to know someone before I ask them out, I sort of suffer extreme anxiety and even panic attacks in those situations.
I can't even stand trying to ask for something like my ketchup at a restaurant without completely freezing up and getting panicy.


Then I'm already recieving therapy and am starting medecine.

If I don't go I will regret it and hate myself for missing out on it and how I couldn't go because I'm a failure and all my typical self loathing stuff, but a million times worse.

I've already missed every dance um well ever

Answer 1

Keep your head up. If you dont go to prom so what. If you think you'll feel worse by going then just dont go. It really isnt that big of a deal.

Answer 2

You need a long term solution bro. You've just got to start talking to people, do you talk to people online? AIM? If so, break the barrier and give the person a phone call. You can just say the same type of stuff, without the lol's and j/k's and such. I don't like to tell people to do things that are very difficult for them, but all you can really do is change yourself a little. It seems wrong, but sometimes people just don't fit in for seemingly unimportant reasons, ya know?

Call some people and just say what you feel - easy on the depression stuff though. Everyone gets depressed, but they keep the talk of it to a minimum, in my opinion any way.

-J

Answer 3

Dude, Prom is the least of your problems. The good news is that the problems you describe are things that can be worked on. You used a lot of clinical type terms. If you are seeing a mental health professional, you should talk to him/her. If you're not seeing a professional, you might consider it. Meantal health care is not just for severe cases anymore.

If you're just suffering from being a teenager, there are things you can do to improve your situation. The catch-22 on dating, is you can't date if you don't have confidence, and you can't get confidence without dating. The trick is to ease into it.

Start with looking women in the eye. With as pleasant a smile as you can, look women in the eye and don't look away until she does. This would be best done in a location where no one knows you. Once you can hold eye contact,try walking up to women and saying, "hi, I'm shy and I'm trying to work on my skills at taking to people. What is your name?" Pick women who are older and not date potential at first. Work your way to women your age, but still who you wouldn't likely date. Finally, talk to women who you would date with the same question. The first two or three times will be the hardest, but gradually it gets easier. You'll learn to talk to women, and you'll learn that the infrequent 'rejection' can be handled without any physical pain or loss of function. Commit to approaching 100 women.

Work on your social skills, talking to people, especially girls who are just friends. Eventually you'll be able to function better socially, and you'll be dating before you know it. For what it is worth, this is extremely common among high-school guys. If you'd like me to recommend web-resources, e-mail me.

Answer 4

Let's begin with the basics. First, seriously consider counseling therapy. Depression while you're in high school is tough...and should be helped immediately. There are lots of books which deal not only with depression but how to build self esteem. Learn to love yourself, to accept yourself just as you are, without judgment. You are doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing and are exactly where you are supposed to be. You are also the greatest and most wonderful person in your entire universe. In fact, you are your entire universe. So live your own life to the fullest and don't worry about the loves of others...their lives are their problem. I'm serious about seeking counseling. As for the prom, it is only as important as you want to make it. I'm sure there's a girl in school who hasn't been asked. You may not want to ask her but she is going through the same internal issues as you.

Answer 5

The prom is the least of your problems. You need to address your anxiety, either with medication or therapy. Speak to a professional about it as soon as possible and don't take "you'll grow out of it" as an answer. If you don't do something about it, it will be a monkey on your back for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

The prom is overrated. Don't go...stay home and rent a great movie. It isn't worth the anxiety. Plus, ten years from now, none of this will matter. You will be the rich millionaire running his own dot.com while those "cool" kids from high school are living in a trailer park.

Answer 7

im guessing its your senior year? My prom is coming up to. You've got stop worrying about what other people think, as hard it as it may seem. They're in your life for one more year until you go on to bigger and better things. Why not make it memorable? First of all, try to find some time to learn to dance. At least the basics. Then just work on finding someone, talking to them and getting to know them before you ask them to prom? How and who is up to you. If you need extra help feel free to message me or something

Answer 8

This woman sounds way shallow. sell off her and discover somebody nicer! She desires to maintain it quiet so if somebody greater advantageous asks her she will ditch you with out every person else understanding, so *she* won't look like a jerk.

Answer 9

Jeez.. lookin at your post .. u don't seem like the prom type.. do you really wana go? if not, then y bother? its not like theres a law written somewhere that makes it mandatory for u to go to the prom..