Is there a reason that one should NOT give a gift to the host of the dinner party? By gift, I mean a box of chocolates or a bottle of liquor.
2007-04-14 18:44:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I ask bc I have been a guest to dinner parties where no one else brought a gift so I was wondering if times have changed over the past 10-15 years.
2007-04-15 06:55:54 · update #1
It's best if you bring a gift. The sad and tacky fact that others do not, has no bearing on your standards. I believe that you shouldn't attend a dinner party empty handed. Even keggers, it would be great for you to bring some beer or snack foods for the guests to enjoy. You need not spend much money, it's just important to be thoughtful. If they don't drink, buy a nice bottle of olive oil and a loaf of bagguette. If you are attending somewhere they would appreciate a lovely wine, then spring for a 20 dollar bottle *at least*. It's classy and friendly. It sets you apart w/ out being pretentious.
2007-04-18 16:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by brandihoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an older custom that a guest would bring something like the wine to a dinner party. Of course, if every guest did that, it could be difficult to pick which guests gift to use, wouldn't it? It is very gracious, and if you did that, you would be a very preferred guest.
Chocolates: be sure the host is not on a diet! That could turn generosity into discomfort.
2007-04-15 02:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very good manners to bring the host a gift. Fresh flowers are always appropriate, a bottle of wine, or small gift that fits their specific interest. It is not nice to bring something that they feel they must serve like a dessert or your own side dish. Not that you would do that.
Whatever you decide to take, wrap it or put a nice bow on it. And if you want to really impress them, after the party, mail them a Thank You note. That is alway appreciated. This is the Southern Way, that is slowly disappearing.
2007-04-15 01:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by CleoCATra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a thoughtful gesture. I am sure if you are not very formal with the hosts, they should be OK with you not bringing any gifts sometimes.
2007-04-15 05:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! I think that you should never really go to a party (any kind) without some kind of gift or token of your appreciation at being invited.
2007-04-15 02:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by L'Ambitieux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to give a gift or perhaps bring a bottle of wine or pie! Rev. TomCat
2007-04-15 01:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them the gift upon arrival - it is totally acceptable
2007-04-15 03:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I wish you would give ME some thots about it, cuz i'm not sure what a dinner party is. Dinner here is always a party! And nobody gives me NUTTIN! But dirty dishes. YAAY!
2007-04-15 01:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on your relationship with the host.
2007-04-15 05:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋