My first love moved away (30 min.) but we still talk. He asked my mom if he could marry me and she said yes. We hardly ever see each other because he wrecked his truck but we talk almost everyday. I love him but some times he doesnt act like he loves me. We never have a real convo. on the phone and he just seems like always has better things to do. But I cant figure out why he says he love me and ask to marry me. I need advice on how to ask him if he really see me in his future. Im tired of waiting and have been for 5 years. I just need to know, I dont wanna hurt him, this is killing me. Please only serious responses. Thank you!!!
2007-04-14 18:38:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to ask how old are you? 30 minutes away isn't that big of deal.I'm guessing you don't have means of transportation to see him,or at least meet him halfway since he wrecked his truck...are there buses or trains where you two live?You really just need to be upfront with him and tell him how you feel about things,to see where his head is at.Does he usually say what he means,and mean what he says?...meaning he must be a decent enough guy if you've been together for 5 years,so give him the benefit of the doubt until you talk with him about the situation.Once you talk to him to find out his input, you'll be able to act accordingly.
I hope this helped...Good Luck!!! :)
2007-04-14 18:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by princess M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to him and simply ask "I have been waiting for 5 years and I see that you losing interest in me. Maybe I am wrong but if you really love why are not taking the relation further. If you are hurt I am sorry but I just felt you are losing interest in me. And if something I have done before which has hurt and that is why you are not moving to make our relationship better then you can tell so I can correct my mistake if I can."
Be firm when you ask this but also be a bit soft and understand what he has to say.
2007-04-14 18:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Nikhil S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 13:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by gloyd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would have done something by now rather than risk losing you.
If, after 5 years, you can't communicate openly and honestly it doesn't bode well for the future.
Also, if he isn't able to see you when he only lives 30 minutes away he isn't exactly such a hot prospect in terms of doing what it takes to take care of you.
I would move on and not waste more of my life waiting for a second rate maybe.
2007-04-14 18:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by donedeal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your question, you are trying to figure out if he loves you, if you are in his future, if he wants you, etc.
Forget all that - Do YOU love HIM? Do you see HIM in YOUR future? Do you want HIM? You shed enough doubt in what little you said, that I would advise you to find someone that you're more certain about - someone that moves you, loves you, acts like he loves you, has real conversations. If you need someone to give you advice about whether you love someone, then you don't love the person. Go by your heart and head - both of which are backing off according to what you wrote. Good luck!
2007-04-14 18:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rainfog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your statements, I would say that you and he are infatuated with each other. It also appears there are some financial issues as he is unable to have his truck repaired. I can tell you from experience that lack of financial resources can and will destory relationships.
You didn't state your age, so I was curious as to how much experience you have with dating. If it has been 5 years and the relationship isn't progressing, it is time to move on.
2007-04-14 18:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by khrome_wind 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok well you should try having a serious talk with him see how he response to your questions in my opinion i think he loves you not every guy asks his girlfriends mom if he can marry her and yeah it been a long time but love takes time (give time to time) eerything will work out.
2007-04-14 18:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Dagoberto N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very confusing. He asked to marry you but he seems to always have "better things to do"? Something isn't adding up here. Don't do anything rash. Wait this out and see what happens. He will reveal his true intentions. If you keep feeling strung along......that will tell you all you need to know.
2007-04-14 18:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off everything happens for a reason. Secondly you need to stand up for what you want no matter what that may be. And if it hurts you or him for that matter thats ok. It is the game of life. You can not let yourself be dragged along any longer you owe it to yourself to move in or move on. Good Luck.
2007-04-14 18:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by sHE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, not being rude or anything, but maybe you are too young to get married? Really....most guys dont really mean "I love you" when they say it, and most girls when they say it are just...eh too into the relationship. Marriage is a BIG commitment, think twice before you do something that big.
2007-04-14 18:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by Dingdingdong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋