Is it hard to find a man if you have a child already?

Question

do men care about this sort of thing?

Answer 1

There's a lot of boys out there. Real men take the whole package and take it responsibly.

Answer 2

Yes, it will be harder to find a man if you already have a child. It is hard for people to step in and start a relationship when there is already a family in place. More importantly, it's going to be harder for you because you have to be so much more selective of the men that you date and allow in your life and your child's life. With every prospective boyfriend, you really need to ask your self if he will not only be a good person for you, but also for your child. The good news? Having to be more selective in this way will hopefully help you find someone better for you (because you will have to discriminate more than you might have otherwise) than you would have accepted if you didn't already have a child.

Answer 3

A lot of people advise men to stay away from single mothers. If you think about it from a man's point of view, they know some other guy is paying you child support, so who's to say you won't get pregnant with them and they will also end up paying you child support?

Not to destroy all your hope or say that you won't be able to get a man. You just have to be aware that this will be a fear in all potential dates. You need to do the right thing with the birth control and make sure that he knows that you are not going to end up pregnant again unless you both agree that's what you want.

Then again, you could hit a real jackpot by finding a man who physically can't have kids but wants them. That's a single mother's match made in heaven.

Answer 4

Not too hard these days. It's hard to actually find a woman that doesn't have a child. There are so many young mothers and divorced women with children that I think it is an accepted thing. There are some selfish guys out there that wouldn't be able to see past a child...but most are pretty understanding. Heck, a lot of guys have children already, too!

Answer 5

Only the stupid piggish men do. Being a man and having their nature. I notice and think about these things. If you have a child already that means some good luck for you. All of the stupid, rude, irresponsible, one-night-standers will not be interested in you(NO OFFENSE). However, a mature, responsable, and caring man will realize that children are responsibilities and need taken care of and if he likes you and cares about you, he'll stay.

Answer 6

Some men might feel they are not ready to accept the responsibility of taking care of a child. But at there are plenty of other guys who are ready, you should check out dating sites for single parents; there are dozens. It'll be fine, cheers

Answer 7

Not in today's society,truly it's more common then married couples having children of their own and staying together. My husband is not the father to my 2 girls,but together we are the parents of 3 girls and 1 son. I hope you find a good man,someone who will be a good role model for your children/child.

Answer 8

some do and some don't. but it might make you feel better to know that my boss has a son and has tons of men after her all the time!! men bring flowers to the store (she owns the store) call for her all the time and she has three or four guys wanting to take her on dates. so there are for sure men out there who do not care!!!

Answer 9

It's harder yes..and you hae to be more careful that you don't choose someone that doesn't like children or doesn't want to work on a relationship with another man's child.

Answer 10

Personally, I love babies. If a woman wanted me I would love her and her child. I am probably too old now to father another so if I am to be allowed to help raise another baby it would have to be that way.

I already have 4 but they are all grown and gone. I do have 7 grand kids though

Answer 11

Find a man that also has a child (whether living with him or not) - that shouldn't be too hard.