My brother used to go to church since he was 6 he is now 16 about 2 yrs ago he stopped, that was when we had moved to a different location. Any tips on how I can persuade him to go back to church? And please no stupid answers.
2007-04-14 17:39:47 · 26 answers · asked by whitelighter 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
After I pray for the 2 disrespectful people that typed answers b4 me, I'll pray for your brother. That is my 1st suggestion to you. Praying for him may do more than you realize. My 2nd suggestion would be bringing up the things that go on at your church. Talk about how you enjoyed a service or about how you are involved or about cool things your church is doing. From time to time (like twice a year) you could just come out and ask him about it. I say twice a year b/c that's what I could do with my brother. He's not in church anymore either. He hasn't been in years. He always went growing up but after college and marriage.. he just quit... I hear about him going occasionally on holidays and stuff with his wife's folks and that gives me some hope. Just don't give up on him and faithfully pray for him and encourage him when it's comfortable to do so and then trust God for the rest. I wish there was a quicker fix but I haven't been able to come up with anything else. Sorry. Good luck!
2007-04-14 17:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by J C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are his hobbies or interests? Is there anyone his age at your church with similar hobbies or interests. Get him linked up with someone who can be a GOOD friend that will regularly ask him about coming to church. Most of all though pray....You can't persuade him but the Holy Spirit can speak to him and do the persuading.
2007-04-15 00:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jan P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe there needs to be a really active youth group with a good youth pastor doing a variety of things and lots of young people in attendance. Some smaller churches just don't have a lot going on.
2007-04-15 00:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well that was a stupid answer but he may have something there....I don't know what your brother is like but could you possibly tell him there is a pretty single girl you would like him to meet? Of course don't lie...there really should be a pretty single girl and if she is in church anyway she probably wouldn't mind being used as a pawn. Tell him it would mean a lot to you. Make a deal with him that if he goes for 3 months and still doesn't like it then you will leave it alone...he'll like it, God will see to that. I'll be praying for you.
2007-04-15 00:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by not telling you!!! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There could be reasons why he stopped. The more you push,the more he will resist. Maybe you can ask him why he doesn't like to go. Maybe something happened at church to change his feeling about it. Could be something he doesn't want to talk about, so respect him if he doesn't. Could be some influence from friends who don't believe. I suggest you ask him and if he doesn't want to say, stay off his case and take care of your own spiritual needs. Nice you care for him so much.
Rev. TomCat
2007-04-15 00:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just mind your own business.
You are free to believe in a delusion but he is also free not to. It is not YOUR choice.
He is old enough to have reached his decision. Leave him be. You are not your brother's keeper.
Stupid answers? This is a stupid question and gets what it deserves.
Someone has already said that to push him will make him shrink away. That is generally true.
To offer a carrot-on-a-stick by telling him that there are girls there is just underhand, just like religion itself ... Hey! There are girls EVERYWHERE.
2007-04-15 00:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an easy going, yet still Godly, church. My biggest problem with Church was always the strictness, and control. God sees us in our darkest, most wild moments, and in our most passionate and glorious. Why show him a facade? Find a good, strong, yet accepting Church, and just invite him, but be KINDLY persistant. He will return. May the Stars light your path...
2007-04-15 00:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lost Ranger 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First step is to pray about it and to ask for prayer from the prayer warriors in your church.
It might be easier to get him to come to church on a holiday, but a social event might get him started or bible study with people his age.
He will return to church, or at least a relationship with God in time..I believe that.
2007-04-15 00:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Carol B 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him he should fellowship and be yoked with other believers. There is power in prayer. Church offers a nice way to meet other good people. I would just try to ask him nicely if he would go back again. Your a great sister to care for him and try to get him back on that right path.. Take care, & be blessed.
2007-04-15 00:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by Denise K 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
hot: The very best advice, that I can give you is this. Let go and let God ! It is NOT our job as Christians to change others. God calls certain individuals to Him self, to become the "elect" - Christians (see: John, Chapter 6, verse 44). These are those who are "called" and "chosen". It requires patience and faith to trust God to do the converting - we need to stay out of the way. Good luck to ya !!!
2007-04-15 00:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋