My mom forgot????my b-day????How???

Question

My birthday was in Feb. it is now April.. My mom never wished me a happy birthday, no phone call, no card.. nothing. I have 3 other sisters, the all called me to wish me a happy birthday, I am 30 yrs old...I kinda think this is petty but it really bothers me.. I told my sister how I feel when she talked to mom she said oh it completely slipped my mind.. question????How does having a child completely slip ones mind??? its not like she has any disease that would make her forget, no job that she would be so wrapped up in that it would make here unaware of the date.. and like I said 2 whole months later and nothing..I didn't want to acknowlegde her b-day this month but I couldn't do it I did buy her a gift and a card and mailed it to her,I live 4 hours away, work 16 hour shifts and raise 2 kids. My mom and dad are divorced my dad had a stroke 3yrs ago, and he still called me...

my mom is 54 yrs old, my dad had his stroke at 52

I visit my mom at least 2 a month.. although I live 4 hrs away my family is still very important to me. My mom is remarried and she is healthy as a horse. I talk to my sisters everyday and talk to my mom almost everyday depending on my work schedules..

Answer 1

Put your self aside for a moment and start thinking. How do you know your mother is even ok? Maybe you should be wondering if her health is slipping and causing her some memory loss.
Id be more concerned about her health than missing a birthday. You sound like some self centered child who only thinks of yourself. Wake up to the real world of things happening to other people.

Answer 2

I hate to say it but maybe your mom really did forget your birthday and never acknowledged it or called to wish you a happy birthday because she felt bad or too embarrassed. You are right in saying that this is petty.My mother and I don't get along at all and while I do have a fairly close relationship to my father, he never called to wish me a happy birthday last year nor did he ver bring it up and on top of that, my father only lives about 45 minutes from where I live. Personally, I'm glad because I hate people bringing up my birthday. The point is though that you shouldn't let this get to you or let it get you worked up. If it really bothers you this much, then pick up the phone and talk to your mom. Bring the subject up to her because she's not a mind reader and while your sister did bring it up to your mom, it's not the same as you talking to your mom and telling her how you feel straight from your mouth. Also, take into consideration, regardless of the fact that she's not ill or doesn't have a job, that she does have alife and you have a life and kids to raise. Don't take it to heart or to personal.

Answer 3

I know its hard that your mom forgot your birthday,but come on cut your mom some slack were all human we all don't memorize dates I try to at least, I mean take my mom's case and my lil sis, my mom's b-day only comes 4 times a year since her B-day is on leap year and its hard for me since there are no exact dates to celebrate it and last year for my little sis's B-day there was no celebration since both my parents were on panic/sad/tearing/ mode after my father' mother died everyone was in mourning and my parent's had to leave for the funeral the same exact date on my sis's B-day it was a sad day for both my parents and her after they left my sis just plainly said "What day is it " I said "Its Saturday" she just said "oh well I thought I let you know its my birthday today" (man that was sad since it was shocking how I forgot too)"You okay" I said she just brushed a tear a way and said "its okay there's next year they owe me big time" oh did I mention she's 11 years old, I'll probably never forget that day cause my sis has to swallow lots of hard things but I believe this was the hardest she's done although you may think she's just a little kid no she's really mature for her age and to be able to stand that was big, so basically that year no celebration that year except maybe a song from me and that's about and my sis didn't mention it to my parents when they returned home, my point is not to make you seem all selfish and all with a story but my point is to see if it bothers you that much call your mother and discuss the problem and your idea of not acknowledging your mother's B-day is in my idea a bit childish and I'm glad you didn't go through it like I said we are all human and if it really bother's you so much ta;lk to your mother or better yet giver her a big calender and mark all the important events going in not only your life but also your sister's so your mother will remember them ,plus hey at least your sis's gave you a congrats and your dad ,my dad seems to always work on my B-day again I'm not saying this to make you feel bad but to at least think about your situation a bit clearer and to have an even bettrer solution towards it okay Best wishes and Good Luck

P.S Happy Be-lated B-day =D

Answer 4

You are making too much out of this. She forgot, she's human. I come from a family of 5. A couple of years ago my brother didn't call on my Birthday so I called him! " Did you forget something?" Not the 1st time any of us forgot but from that time on we started calling each other out on it. Now it's kinda like a family joke, on Birthdays we give each other til about 9 and if they haven't called we call them. We kinda rub it in about each others forgetfulness. I forgot my sisters last year. I just hope she forgets mine so I have to call her. Point is, your an adult. It's not intentional. I'm sure she didn't say "Well, it's her Birthday. I'm not calling" I would have called my Mom and rubbed it in good natured way. Made her feel good and guilty :) Why borrow trouble? It doesn't mean your not loved. It sounds like you gotta lotta stress with no one to blame so your finding something to nitpick on. Take a break, find some time to unwind or your gonna get old while your still young.

Answer 5

eh sometimes families are the pitts..but yeah you did the right thing in sending her a gift....dont let this be the end of your relationship with her..something could have been going on that week and it did slip her mind...but your dads stroke shows you life is short..you are 30..she obviously didn't forget any of the other 28..so send her a card and say hey you were right i didn't want a reminder that i was turning the big 3 o but if you would like ill be in town on blah blah and we can have dinner..or something similar...an blow it off like a joke..

Answer 6

That would bug me too! She is the one that gave birth to you 30 years ago, how can she forget? Nobody forgets child birth. Next time you talk to her ask if she received her birthday gift and slip in somewhere a little comment about missing your birthday. Like "at least I didn't forget yours", or "Should I have gotten you a calender? because you seemed to have forgotten my birthday" If she elaborates on the subject say that it hurt your feelings and you would have like a phone call at least.

Answer 7

gosh you are acting like a lil kid. i mean your mom forgot your birthday, big deal, my mom forgets my birthday for about five six years. dont worry she doesnt love you and you mean nothing to her. come on does that sound right? no. get over it, it was a simply mistake and she is probably busy with things you dont even know are going on in her life. you live far away and when was the last time you went over there to go visit her. get over it and be an adult. at least someone knew it was your birthday. im sure you forgot someones birthday once in your life.

Answer 8

Birthdays are just not important to some people like myself. Probably just slipped her mind as others have said. maybe cause other stuff was going thru her mind at the time.

Answer 9

Happy Birthday! even though it's not and I'm very sorry that your mom forgot. Have you called her and told her how you fell? you should be nce about it but firm, Just say mom it was my birthday back in April and you never called me can I ask why? Then say It means alot to me for you to call especially on my birthday. See what she has to say after that. Goodluck to you.

Answer 10

you don't need a job, kids, tons of errands to run to forget a day. i feel more it isn't that she forgot your birthday, maybe when the day came she didn't know it was even let's say the 15th, never mind to link that the 15th is your birthday. though i feel two months later, she could say something to you.