I am 14 and have never had a boyfriend before. I am very shy too. I don't really feel ready to date but I feel pressured because some of my friends have started dating. Will I ever feel ready or do you think I will be 30 years old and still not feel ready to date? When did you start dating? Did you date in middle school or high school? Does everybody feel ready to date at some point in their life?
2007-04-14 17:00:32 · 16 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should never feel pressure to date or do anything else, for that matter, because someone else is doing it.
Personally, I went on my first "date" when I was 13 and I regret it a lot. We were way too young and the guy said a grand total of 4 words to me the whole time (we went and saw a movie)
I then went out with another guy when I was 14 and it ended badly. The next summer, when I turned 15, I went out with that same guy, and after 2 months (most of which I spent on vacation) he dumped me for a stupid reason.
Since then my interest in dating has been considerably reduced. I'm waiting for guys to get a little more mature. (this could be a long wait)
As for you, I would even go so far as to advise you to wait to go out with someone. Group dating is ok, like when you get together with a bunch of people, some of whom just happen to be guys and do something fun. But one-on-one dating should wait until you're at least 15 or 16.
If you're shy, even better. Wait. Loads of people go to college and they've never been on dates before. I promise that one day, you'll like someone enough to go on a date with them. And when that day comes, you'll have a whole new set of questions.
don't worry, these things will come. Feel free to email me if you have any more questions. I'm here for you.
2007-04-14 17:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by bookworm1317 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually you will want to date. I didnt start dating until my freshman year of high school. My sister, who was really popular, never dated until college. Everyone is different, but don't feel pressured by your friends. Trying to be someone your not is the worst thing you can do and you may not realize it until years later, so just do what you want to do. Enjoy being a kid because you have your entire life to date and to lose your innocence to soon will just make dating in high school boring because you will have already done the big high school experience before you should have. Just wait until you feel ready. It will come soon.
2007-04-14 17:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by imnotgay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody does this at their own rate. I was sixteen. My sister was eleven. My friend was 23. My brother 19. Everyone I know started at a different point in their life. Every one has to do what's best for them. Your an individual woman. As a young woman you should only do what's right for you. If your not ready then don't worry some day you will be. It will sneak up on you too. In the meantime, just hang out at the mall or have the slumber parties, or whatever you like doing now.
2007-04-14 17:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by bseastrand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said you are 14. I would not worry about dating. When you are ready. You will know. Enjoy being a teenager, do not let anyone pressure you into things, you are not ready to accept. You will feel more pressure as you get older. You are to young to worry about things that will come naturally. Good Luck
2007-04-14 17:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by READER 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is a little too young to be dating. You don't have to do what you're friends are doing if you feel that's it's not right. Just because they're dating doesn't mean you have to. Don't let peer pressure win you over. i'm sure your friends would accept your decision of waiting till you're older to start dating.
2007-04-14 17:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by KikkaiTheDistiller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 14 too and I also have never dated but all my friends have had gfs before so I kinda feel pressured too. I guess im not really helping you but youre not alone.
2007-04-14 17:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by bruinshmd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im 14 and what ive seen most people in my class date someone for about a week then dump them and they think that is cool (i have now idea why). But I think the last thing you want to do is date someone just to fit in. But beware all of the loosers that just ask you out just to look cool.
So far it's working for me
2007-04-14 17:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by Garrett B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is really too young to date - especially if you don't feel ready for it. Relax! When the time comes, you'll know. And if you wait a few years, your options won't be limited to pimply faced jerky kids whose only interest is to get inside your bra.
2007-04-14 17:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by squeezie_1999 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into a relationship because it would only end up hurting you. I got my 1st gf when i was like 16 so you got time. We had a great relationship and although we broke up after 3 years we are still very good friends. Don't rush let love come find you.
2007-04-14 17:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by Tiko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did not start dateing untill i was 18
2007-04-14 17:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋