Deep down in my heart i really love and trust my fiance, but im always very jealous toward her and i always imagine the craziest stuff. how can i stop this?
2007-04-14 16:04:08 · 15 answers · asked by casey lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you are that jealous, it is your insecurities that have you in doubt. I had a jealous boyfriend and I could not be with him. I had to break up with him. I am one of the most faithful and honest people on this Earth.
My advice to you is to get some help about your insecurities. She cannot help you, only you can get help.
Any expert will agree that, if left unchecked, jealous feelings and jealousy can single-handedly destroy an otherwise good or even great relationship.
Here is part of a website that I found that has some ideas as to help you. You can also speak to a therapist to figure out why you feeling so insecure that you are jealous. My prayers are with you.
http://www.nomorejealousy.com/lesson3.html
One of those tools is to learn to recognize when your jealous thoughts come up and what to do to stop them when they do. These thoughts usually take the form of what we call negative "stories" that keep your jealousy going about your situation.
Here's a question we have our coaching clients ask themselves to help them stop the harmful "stories" and determine whether they're real or not --"Is this a fact or is this a story that I've made up about what this situation means?"
An example of when you might ask this question is--Your partner is good friends with a beautiful person of the opposite sex at work and you find that you are very jealous. Your partner has never given you any reason to mistrust them but you can't help worrying when you know they will be working on the same project together and it's driving your crazy.
When you start making up "stories" that have your partner leaving you for this other person, you can ask yourself the question that we gave you in the previous paragraph. Your answer to this question should help you to separate what's truly going on right now in this present moment from fears that are based solely on your past experiences.
When you are able to separate the "facts" from your stories and stop your jealous thoughts and behaviors, you will be on your way to healing your life.
2007-04-14 17:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself, why you're soo jealous when it comes to her., that makes you imagine crazy happenings?? Do you fear she will leave you beacuse you ? You need to have more confidence in her and with your relationship..if you continue along this path, you won't be walking down the alter with her. Seek counselling and get to the root of why you are jealous when it comes to her, and even tho you feel you Trust your fiance....something is giving you fear that you'll lose her...so really, you deep down, don't trust her. Good Luck* Talk to her about it and let her know you'll be seeking help because you dont want to lose her and this is driving you crazy. She'll be there to support you * Keep on smiln*
2007-04-14 16:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 00:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll have to look deep within yourself and figure out why your jealous of her. there must be something she's good at and your not. you can talk to her about it as well. the only way to stop something like this, is to face your fears.
2007-04-14 16:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dynamic psychiatrists say that a man who is insanely jealous and think his woman is looking at other men or wanting to be with other men is actually projecting. That it is he who is desiring the men and wanting to be with them, but he is afraid to look at this suppressed homosexual desire so he blames her.
This should cure you!
I know this isn't true of you, but it is something that made many men quit being jealous.
2007-04-14 16:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cant stop it your imagination will allways run wild with tha what iffs but just dont show it to a girl it sounds like u dont trust her. so be jealous just dont show it
2007-04-14 16:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it so much - your GF probably likes it! Girls say they don't like their guy to get jealous or be too controlling, but most of them do like it! Never listen to what your girl tells you "she wants" - it's always ****.
2007-04-14 16:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be a reason why you would have these crazy imaginations maybe past relationships or maybe cheated on. but you should just trsut her and just try to avoid thinking abou it
2007-04-14 16:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by baby boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um it's kind of hard to you just need to trust her.
2007-04-14 16:12:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust
2007-04-14 16:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋