my boyfriend live away from me and he has lots of female friend with whom he goes for hangout etc,what i do?

Question

my boyfriend has lots of female friends and for job we cant live in same place so we meet in 2-3 months.with his female friends he used to roam a lot,goes for dinner cinema etc,he has lots of sms friends(female) too.if i asked he used to say they r just friends,i also believe that but i cannot bear that his female friends are getting the pleasure that i cant get.if i say it to him directly he may think that i am very narrow minded.but i dont understand that why he needs to roam and goes for hangouts so frequently with his just friends(female),when he has a girlfriend?i know we cant meet everyday still a guy should minimum liable to his lover that when he gets his love he will cut down his other activity with female friends,not fully but a certain amount,isnt it?what u think?am i right ?and if not what should i do?

Answer 1

Sounds like there is a trust issue here. Clearly, you don't trust him, so it's probably a good time to just move on.

Answer 2

You should grow up a bit, and either trust him or keep doing what you are doing and will eventually force him to leave you. When you keep picking at him for the same thing, he will eventually get tired of listening to it, and figure out that since he is being blamed for doing something, when he is not, he might as well get the pleasure of doing it, since you don't trust him anyway. Then you'll regret it, but it will be too late. Since you can't change the place where you both live, then live with the situation that you have. Remember, he probably doesn't ask that you refrain from talking to other boys, does he?

Answer 3

OMG! I know exactly how you feel, I live in Los Angeles, CA and my partner lives in Missouri and its a headache. To be honest long term relationships dont always work out because you guys get bored and neither one of you is there when the other one wants you to be around...Yeah he saying the females might just be friends and they may be for now who knows what done happen and what might happen since you're not there with him....but eventually he's going to get feelings for them or somneone else and you may get hurt in the end. If he knows that this bothers you he would stop and let the females know why...but if he continues to hang out...I suggest that you go ahead and do whats best for you before getting heart broken. I understand how you feel and I will be glad to answer more questions... just add me if you have yahoo [e-mail]. I hope my advice was helpful...take care and gud luck

Answer 4

Sounds a little fishy. You have a right to be concerned. It sounds like this is stressing you out alot and its something that is hard to come to terms with. (Especially if your boyfriend is a liar) Long distance relationships are hard to keep and if hes hanging out with so many female friends then hes subject to temptation and his girlfriend is far away whom he doesnt see much. You dont know, but he could very well be a player. Alot of guys try the long distance thing because it gives them more opportunities with women. This is something to consider on your own.
I suggest dumping him on the terms of lack of trust, the funny feeling you got, and the obvious suspitious activity.

Answer 5

You should back off. If they are just friends, he is entitled to have friends, whether male or female. You don't have trust in him which you need in a relationship. This is why long distance ones never seem to work. You should keep looking and find someone close to you that you can actually see.

Answer 6

Show him you trust him, even if you don't. I have the same situation with my finance that he tends to make more girl friends then guy friends. But i know he loves me and found out he talks to all of them about me, because once i've met them they always say how he's bragged so much about me. Not to mention he tells me about them and things they've done together. So as long as he's keeping you informed of these other girls and the things they may do together as friends, not down to every detail of course cuz then that shows you don't trust him, but, as long as he shows he is only interested in you, give him your trust.

Answer 7

How old is he? How old are you? If he really loved you, I think he would limit his time with his female friends, but don't act jealous. If he's young, give him a little time to mature. If he's older, he is unlikely to give up his friends for anybody, unless it was somebody really special, and then he will still probably want friends on the side sometimes.

Answer 8

i totalli kno how u feel..im goin out with a guy in college and im still in high school..and its really tough...but you just have to trust him and he has to trust you...and also make sure that there is communication because those are the two most important concepts in a relationship...dont get down his throat because it will just get annoying for him..ive been there....but all u have to do is kno that he choose u to go out with..not any of them...so thats also really comforting...thats what i think about when i get a little worried...
and if you start to get really worried just bring it up to him..and ask him if he cud mayb tone it down a little just for your comfort because its somethin hard to get used to...and im sure he will be very open to it...just communicate and trust..and you guys will be great....just always remember...he choose you..not n e one else....

Answer 9

I understand what your saying.
When i was single, i used to chill with my friends that are girls.
But when i started dating, (6 weeks ago) I stopped doing it as much. When i did go, i told her about what i was going to do, who i was going with and see if she was ok with it)

If she called i would answer right then so she dnt think im lying or somethin.

So in a way you are kinda right.

Answer 10

You will have to figure out for yourself if you can deal with a guy who has female friends.