sex too soon?

Question

I have been with this guy for over a month now, im 20 and so is he. Too soon for sex? Honestly I am a virign but never felt ready until now. Is 1 month too soon though?

no wait till marriage answers please

Answer 1

Sweetheart, if you feel that you're ready, then go with your gut feelings. There's really no exact time frame of when someone is ready for sex. Regardless of what people say, they're not experiencing what your feeling. Society and religions tend to establish a time frame to suggest when one should engage in sexual intercourse (for example, you should wait until marriage).
But you know what, if you feel you're ready and won't experience and regrets, then go for it. Make sure that you are practicing safe sex, and definitely make sure that this guy is the one for you. Sex is a very sensual and meaning experience. Make the best of it.
Hope the helped.

Answer 2

When you're ready, you're ready, whether you've known the guy for ten seconds or ten years. Anyone who says someone should wait for marriage is almost certainly telling the person to never have sex because of the easy availability of many other women who will have sex, and a very high percentage of men will not be interested in a woman if they can't discover if she's any good in bed before making a big committment to her. They also ignore 5,000 years of evidence that the idea of insisting on abstinence before marriage does not work and is contrary to human nature.

20 years old is an extremely reasonable age to begin having sex; there are a lot of girls who claim to be pressured into doing it even earlier. You should not be pressured into having sex before you feel you're ready, nor frightened into avoiding it once you have decided you are.

Just be sure you use contraception. And use two methods, like condom and foam or condom and film. If you become regularly sexually active you might choose a diaphragm or the pill instead of film or foam, but you still want to use two methods.

You want to have him use a condom because you don't know his history and if he wants sex with you he'll almost certainly lie and it is conceivable he could have a venereal disease. You want to use two forms of birth control because contraceptives have as high as a 3% failure rate even when used correctly. Using two forms means your failure rate estimate drops from 3 in 100 to 9 in 10,000 as well as giving you increased protection in case you don't use them correctly.

Answer 3

The only person who can know if it is too soon or not is you. If you are having to ask this question...then I wonder if you really are. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this person? Is one month enough time for you to know that? Are you sure of who he is? A month is not enough time to really get to know someone...as everyone is on their best behavior at first and as time passes the true person comes out...even you. If he is a good guy then he also will understand that you want to wait and get to know each other a little better. See what he says...tell him. It could be a little test. If he jumps at the idea of having sex right away and does not want to listen to your reasons for waiting...then maybe, just maybe thats all he is interested in. Plus, 20 althought you are not a kid anymore is still young. You ahve your entire life ahead of you, there are going to be a lot of men in your life if not this one...dont rush. Why rush...better to be sure.

Answer 4

Hey hun,
I think that you need to decide how you feel about SEX itself. What do YOU think it is? If it is an expression of your love for someone, then only do it when you love the person. If it is something for fun, do it whenever you feel like it. If it is for when two people are in a relationship, then do it then.
If you're not sure, talk to people you love and care about and maybe you can learn from their value system. The point is, the words "ONE MONTH" don't mean anything. It's about how you FEEL. Don't put a label on the time you spend with a person.
Just make sure in all cases that you're using proper protection.

Answer 5

There isnt a set time you have to be in a relationship with someone until you can have sex. It is totally up to you, if you feel you are ready that it is fine. However if you think it is so soon than wait a while.

Answer 6

1 month will just be a temporary relationship, but if that is OK with you , go for it.
Since you will most likely break up later, make sure you use birth control (more than condoms , use pills or IUD) because you are NOT ready to be a mom.
Also make sure to still use the condom for reducing the STD hazard . You may still get one , but it will reduce the risk and your future boyfriends will appreciate that .

Answer 7

Well you have you have to make sure the guy is comfortable with it too. Is he a virgin? Make sure both of you are comfortable with it and make sure hes the kind of guy you want to be with. He might be the kind of guy who just wants you for the sex. Think about it, are you extremely attractive? If so make sure you know the guy well enough and remember to be carefull there are lots of STD's out there and it can ruin your life if you get one.

Answer 8

If it feels right to both of you then it's the right time, I mean I had sex with my first boyfriend after dating him for 6 months but I slept with my current boyfriend on the second date.

If you feel comfortable and so does he then go for it, just remember to relax and have fun no matter when you first have sex.

Answer 9

why dont you wait till marriage?? or at least till your sure in a relationship? sex isnt just the physical act but u are also giving up alot of feelings its alot to lose. really think about it. im saving myself till marriage with my bf

Answer 10

before you jump in the sack understand this one thing, from a girl
A. its not like hollywood potrays it
B. It's very painful at first, and not that great either
C. messy
D. you will cry for no reason and become obssessed and swear this is the love of your life (so make sure he is)
E. Once its gone you never get it back