moving out of my house at 15?

Question

im turning 15 in a few months and am reallly annoyed with my both familes at the momment. my parents are separated and i have 2 go to dads every 2nd weekend. i live with my mum. hate my school. i have been offered to live with my 1yr boyfriend and his family as there is only 3 of them. i could go 2 a skool near them..etc..good ideas but 2 explain that 2 mum is 2 hard. i just feel that if i move out, do i have 2 get permission from daddy? i just know he'll say no "because im his only daughter" but that doesnt mean anything to me.

any adivse or suggestions??

Answer 1

I am sorry. That is sad. Even though you have been going out for a year, it would be bad advise for you to move in with your bf. You are only 15, it may presser you into a lot of things like having a baby at such a young age. It is hard to deal with parents, but they are only trying to do what is best. I know that is not what you want to hear, but it is most likely true.

Try telling them it is important and you need to sit down and talk with them. They can help you find out what is best.

Answer 2

The main thing is to be careful whatever you do. My family was really screwed up too when I was 15.

My advice is whoever you end up living with, just focus on school. If family's going to screw you over, you might as well pay attention to the one thing that's steady.

I wouldn't recommend living with your boyfriend's family, but it's up to you.

It's a difficult age because you're not old enough to graduate and move out the normal way, but you're not young enough to get settled into a good living arrangement.

You're going to have to ride it out.

I hated the situation I was in when I was your age. The only option I could think of was running away, but that's never a good idea. There are too many "nice" people out there who will ruin your life. I'd say stick with the situation you've got and just be yourself. Don't let your mother get to you. There's only so much she can do. You can always tell your counselor at school about the situation.

My biggest suggestion would be to read this book: "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. I dare you to read it.

Answer 3

Okay first of all you are very young. Second of all it is sad that your parents are separated but this is not your fault. They can stop you, or make you come back home and there is nothing you can do. I suggest try to just put up with it till you are 18. Graduate HS, get a job...then get your own apartment and make it on your own. That is very nice of your boyfriends parents to offer that...but what if your boyfriend isnt the guy for you? That stops you from meeting anyone else...and maybe even getting married way before you are ready. Just give it time and try to understand that it wont be forever...make the best of it for the time being. You belong with your own parents no matter how hard it is...then, there is insurance...if anything happened to you who would pay for the doctors? Is your boyfriends parents going to buy you the things you need? Althought you wont be able to do this because your own parents are your guardians and they would call the cops and everyone would be in trouble....they are still your parents. Stay at home and put all your energy into getting good grades so you will graduate...and be able to get a good job. THEN YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU WANT BECAUSE YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

Answer 4

You cannot legally go anywhere except to your mother's or your father's home. If you go to your boyfriend's house, you can be brought back by the police as a "run-a-way". Yes, you should go visit your father as often as possible. Your parents may not be able to live together anymore, but they both love YOU very much. To not love them back by visiting would be sad. My suggestion is to sit down with your school counselor and discuss your feelings. If you haven't already done so, a talk with your mother about your unhappiness is a must. Another idea: call one of your grandparents for a "chat." Sometimes your parents' parents can talk to your mom and dad and tell them how you are feeling. At the very least, you can visit your grandparents and have a weekend getting "spoiled." That might make you feel better, anyway. If you are nearly 15, you only have 3 more short years to be with your parents. THEN, you have to go out into the world and either get a job or go to college. That's when you have to do EVERYTHING for yourself. Enjoy this time when you are relatively able to just think of yourself. Someday in the future you will have to take big responsibility and think of your husband, your kids, your aging parents, your ability to pay the rent, the electric bill, etc. etc. You get the picture. I am sure you are sad over your parents' separation. Go see that school counselor as soon as you can. He/She can help.

Answer 5

Everyone has had problems with their parents. I know I do. In fact, I had a fight with my mom an hour ago and I'm really annoyed with her too. Just from that little paragraph, you and I sound so much alike. But 15 is way too young to be moving in with your boyfriend even if its with his parents. I don't know what his family is thinking to allow that. Stay home and try to work things out. You'll be moving out soon enough anyways.

Answer 6

My first thought is that the family that wants to take you in could get in serious trouble for "harboring a minor"--I think that's the term for it. Both of your parents would have to give written, legal permission for you to live with another family. Anyway, don't leave and certainly don't run away and try to make it on the streets. It's a big, bad world out there for a teen on her own.

Answer 7

You really are too young to be leaving home yet. At fifteen life can feel pretty tough but you will find that the grass isn't any greener on the other side and what you see as your mum being too hard is really just her way of loving you and trying to protect you. Stay where you are, you'll be glad you did in the long run.

Answer 8

Your headed for a very hard road. Don't runaway from your problems...they'll never get fixed. Be mature and stick it out. If you move in with your bf you might cause problems with him and his family...then where will he be? Just because things aren't going right is no reason to turn and run. Show some backbone and you'll be better off in the long run.

Answer 9

First of all, you're only 14 and just because you're going on 15, doesn't mean that you can get out there and make it on your own. You don't want to grow up too fast. It's a cruel world out there. Are you sure you're ready for it? No one is going to treat you like mom and dad. Think long and hard on this one.

Answer 10

Unless you are legally emancipated by the court,you have to stay with your custodial parent. It may seem difficult right now to be with either of your parents,but there is no substitute for family. You are better off with your father than leaving home now only to be put out if your Boyfriend changes his mind about being with you.