Single mom, starting to get depressed?

Question

Im 22, unemployed & living at home. It sucks. Really. I love my son, he brightens my day. The reason im depressed or starting to be is because my ma makes me feel like loser, bc i dont have a job so i cant buy diapers every week. She acts like the baby is using up all her $. I get formula through wic and have started gettin child support and have started paying for the bigger items, ie stroller, carseat. Anyways, she makes me feel like a loser. My stepdad is blaming me for everything when i had nothing to do with it. My ma acts like all i do is sit on my bum and watch tv all day. Ive tried getting a job near the house and i didnt get anything. I cant get one farther away bc my stepdad wont give me my car back. I can only work 2nd shift my ma wont take me anywhere TO apply. I just dont know anymore. I was abused til i was 7 and been emotionally abused since i was 11. Its like i cant please anyone. I just want to be happy!! But its like every time i start being happy it goes rite down the drain. I feel like giving up.

Answer 1

its never ending with a single mom. Trust me I know. And once you get a job to start buying everything then you dont spend enough time with him. I went through the same thing and I still with my mom and she is on my case all the time. Now I'm pregnant again due to a birth control mishap but now I have help from a man I'm madly in love with so it does get better. It just takes time. And go ahead and cry because thats the only thing you have right now to let it all out. I cried every night and when I had a free minute every minute i had. It helps alot more than you'd think. But you need a day away to collect yourself you'll feel better.

Answer 2

You Are Being Abused Now! You May Want To Call Earle C. Clements Job Corps. In Morganfield, Kentucky You May Get The Number From 1411.I Would Go There And Stay. You Can Get Your Education,Medical Care. They Will Find You A Job And Help You Move Into Your Own Housing.You Cannot Take Your Child With You As Far As I Know. Whenever You Call They May Have Child Care For Your Child But If Not Your Family Can Take The Child. The Child Will Come And See You Whenever It Reaches The Age 18.Call And Get On With Your Life. Job Corps. Will Pick You Up Or Have Some Type Of Transportation For You To Get There. Tell Them How Your Situation Is! Great Luck!!!!

Answer 3

Happiness is a decision you make. It's not having everything in your life perfect. If you feel like a loser because you don't have a job then go out and get one! Your Mom is supporting you and your baby. Wic pays for formula, Mom pays for diapers, Dad pays child support, what do YOU do? She has a right to expect you to go get a job. If the situation there is so bad then get out and get a job so you can get you and your son out of there. It's rough, you have a hard row to hoe raising a child alone. But your gonna have to toughen up. Be happy for the things you have and work for the things you still need.

Answer 4

Don't give up!! You need to everything you can to support your kid. Go to every job in your areas again and tell them your situation and ask for help. You would be amazed how some strangers can listen sometimes. Self-Learn a skill like computer programing or graphics design. So you can work from home. Start reading business books.... Maybe you can start a home business? Think about what skill you have? Or a idea? Ask a local mortgage company if you can telemarketer for them from home? Try fighting job late night at a bar or club. This way you can work weekends. Again tell the employers your situation and tell them you really want to work hard.

If you keep trying and trying and trying..... it will eventually happen I promise you because it happened to me.

When I get down I watch the movie: "first time felon" its based on a true story.

Tell your mom your are having a hard time you need encouragement not being look down up on. Tell her it only makes you cry and make you have a harder time. Tell her you know what you have to do.

Answer 5

It's never a nice idea to give up. Life is full of hope and no matter what your situation in life is there is always hope in everything. You are suffering the consequences of your action; that is getting pregnant at a very young age with no stable job and no father to acknowledge your son. However, you son might be the biggest blessing in your life for all you know. You can be an asset if only you start to be one. Do some chores. Help your mom with whatever needs to be done in the house. Don't just lie there idly. Be productive. In time she will learn to appreciate what you are doing and will stop nagging you about what you are now. Try calling friends if they know of a job for you. Read some ads where you can put your expertise. Do something about your life and life will do something for you.

Answer 6

Regardless of history and screw ups ,
There is an innocent child that is your priority now.
Start taking him out to parks, or where ever and getting you both out in the world.
Maybe you'll come across help wanted signs while out walking .
Having a grand baby in the house can be very difficult so get looking for something clean and safe as soon as possible , Section 8 might help . It does not need to be fancy , just a clean , secure place . He is young enough for you to share a room for a couple of more years. You should have employment by then .
Moving will be critical for the baby's health as living in a hostile , conflicted home is not good.
Get on to your own place as soon as possible and start building a good future for the 2 of you .
Do NOT get hung up on any loooooser guys who will traumatize your son further .
This is your chance to break that negative circle you've been living in.
Do IT ! Our prayers are with you .

Answer 7

Do you have any relatives, think long and hard, because I mean ANY relatives, near or far, who could help? Moving to an area outside your comfort zone would be better than doing anything drastic.

There may be people in life willing to help but won't approach you, because their not sure if you're gonna add trouble to their lives or make them proud because they see real effort coming from you. Most young people want the partying lifestyle and say they're doing all they can, but in fact are not.

I am 40 yo and have young people in my life just starting out and having a hard time, and not receiving help from parents or older siblings, but they created their troubles and keep making poor decisions and making things worse... I won't reach out to them because their personality tells me that they're just going to use me and my family like a resource until we're tired of their ways and return them back to the hell they created for themselves at home.

I don't know you persoanlly, but if you have nothing but the best of intentions and really are ready to step up to the plate and make a real effort at improving your life, without blaming others for your situation, then I would do some research on my family tree, contact everyone in it and make promises that if they help you through this, they'll be proud of the results. Put a time frame on it if necessary. Tell them you need 6 months to get things together. If they accept, then don't mess things up by leaving their home earlier than 6 months simply because a young man stepped in to your life and made a few shallow promises.

Go now. And it doesn't matter if the relative who's willing to help lives four states away, it could be the best thing. Just make sure its a relative/situation you can trust.

Answer 8

To start, you need to find that job. dont stop til you have one and work hard at it. Once your parents see you contributing and making an honest effort, the talking down on you will stop. Im sorry to hear that you were abused as a child. Thats a terrible thing to go through, Im sure. But dont use it as an excuse or crutch in life. Set yourself some realistic goals and start working to acheive them. Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day.

Answer 9

hunny let me tell you if you are going to make it in this world you are going to have to make it on your own, there is no one to hold your hand and guide you through what you think life is suppose to be like. you need to rise up and stop complaining and do somthing for yourself and your son.
There are lots of goverment assitanted programs that can help you out. Area 5 or whatever it is called where you live, will pay for your son to go to daycare so that you don't have to pay somoene to watch him,
Go to your local unemployment office or child and family office and they will set you up with people that will help you find a job and help you get to that job, t
here are government run apartments that you can live in till you make money and can pay rent on your own.
there is a TON of help out there you just have to be willing to look and to help yourself.
I was a single mom at age 20 and I made it on my own, yeah i ididn't live in the nicest place and we didn't have much food but my daughter was always clothed and fed and never went cold or hungry. YOu need to stop whining about what others are doing and do somthing for yourself.

Answer 10

I would look into getting some counseling - it helps A LOT. Plus, it sounds like you need to work on yourself before you enter into a new relationship. Right now focus on school and your daughter, when the time is right you will meet someone. Love usually happens when you are not looking for it.