premarial sex in the catholic church?

Question

So there is this girl in my school who went to confession and confessed to the priest that she had sex with her boyfriend more than once...and the priests exact words were "you are going to hell"! Even though you can say this is one persons (priests) reaction to this confession but this priest represents the teaching and the ways of the catholic church...murders can be forgiven...molesters can be forgiven...and they are not to be considered "bad" people they are considered to be people with a sickness or problem. these people have a "excuse"....but a person who has sex is considered a person without morals and has bad judgment. because to want to have sex or do it is not immoral or bad is the person you are doing it with loves you and respects you...in the eyes of the church people who have premarital sex have no excuse....what is your opinion on this...compare and discuss!

Answer 1

Having sex when you're young isn't a great idea but most people end up doing it. You usually don't realize it's better to wait until you are older. Personally, I don't think it's a big deal since it was with her boyfriend and as long as it was consensual and no one got 'hurt' then it's 'forgivable' in every sense. That priest sounds like he was out of line and I find it hard to believe he actually said that. Maybe he was trying 'tough love' on her and trying to scare her into not doing it again. Not exactly the best approach (in my opinion) but some priests are tougher than others. IF I believed in hell, I would disagree that that act alone would send her there!

Answer 2

i trust the Catholic Church has been taken over by technique of the jesuit order/ freemasonry. The symbolism they use is in basic terms screaming polytheism. notwithstanding, homosexuality and newborn abuse has been endemic contained in the church for a lengthy time period. at the moment it has gotten worse. The Church is clearly in want of abusing little ones. I went to catholic faculties all by ability of faculty. i understand what symbols are catholic, and that are pagan. This Pope is coming precise out and telling us he's a pagan. Even his call signifies that. i trust that he's an agent of paganism and global authorities as a lot as Obama is an agent of banking and elites. i'm no longer Catholic, yet my severe college and faculty replaced into tremendous. The clergymen were extremely sturdy adult adult males. What the church has develop into is a shame.

Answer 3

Don't get all things mixed up now- the girl will not go to hell for what someone else did-only for her own sins. What any other person does, Catholic or Muslim, it matters not who or how bad, it has no effect on this girls relationship with God.
Its not he pre-marital sex that will send the girl to hell, but her relationship with God. If she does not have one-then she is destined to hell-sex or not. I doubt very seriously if the priest said that just because she had sex, if he truly said it-he had another reason.

Answer 4

I really doubt the priest said that...but if he did HE is the one going to hell.


It is a forgivable sin- AS LONG AS your friend intends never again to have sex until she is married.

At your age you have no idea what love is- it is all hormones, whether you understand it or not.

People who have sex with someone other than the person they are married to are guilty of adultery(if married) or fornication ( if unmarried). Sex is meant for spouses and spouses only.

Sorry if some of you don;t like this answer, but are you willing to stake your soul on your opinion that Jesus thinks it's fine to have sex outside the bonds of marriage????

Answer 5

THIS generation has seen the world caught up in a “sexual revolution.” People are clamoring for freedom to have sexual relations with whomever they wish and in any way that they choose.

The pressure to engage in premarital sex today is powerful in many places. In some areas a woman may be expected to prove her ability to bear children before marriage. In other locations “convenience” is the reason why many couples live together without being married. “Wife swapping” and “group sex” are now popular with many. Homosexuality among both males and females continues to rise.

Conflicting attitudes toward sex cause uncertainty for many individuals. A college girl tells of a typical problem she encountered on a date: “He would say, why not? I would spend half the date trying to explain to him what was so special about morality. Then afterward I would ask myself, why not?”

Might you, too, have wondered “Why not?” as to sexual relations outside of marriage? Do you know the Bible’s view of this matter? Certainly no one knows more about the purpose and correct function of sex than Jehovah God, man’s Creator. Hence, what does God’s Word say about sexual relations?

Jehovah God created the first human pair “male and female.” He gave them reproductive powers, with the command: “Be fruitful and become many and fill the earth.” (Gen. 1:27, 28) So the Bible did not condemn proper sexual relations. This is the way the human family would reproduce their kind, and God purposed that they have pleasure in doing so. But under what conditions was this reproduction to take place?

Genesis chapter two shows that, after creating Eve, Jehovah proceeded “to bring her to the man.” Then God said: “That is why a man will leave his father and his mother and he must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh.” (Gen. 2:22, 24) So God married Adam and Eve and purposed that marriage be the arrangement within which they and their offspring would use and enjoy their God-given sexual powers. (Prov. 5:15-18) Marriage would provide a basis for the economic and emotional security of family members.

The Bible refers to all sexual relations outside the marriage bond as “fornication” (including sodomy and homosexuality). The Scriptures command: “Flee from fornication,” for “no fornicator . . . has any inheritance in the kingdom of the Christ and of God.” (1 Cor. 6:18; Eph. 5:5) This is the most important reason why people should avoid fornication.

Don't pick it apart; it's just simple for the average intelligent person. Fornication is wrong, but those who commit it won't experience some fiery burning, roasting damnation forever. Hell is simply put "the grave". See my other posting on what hell really is.

Answer 6

Premaritial sex is never mentioned in the Bible. Only Adultry.
That is because once you have had sex with your first you are forever boud to them in God's eyes and when you have multipule partners that is adultry. However no one can tell you you are going to hell for having sex before you are married. No man can be the judge of another on spiritual matters. WE can only tell others what God has to say. Sometimes this calls for repentece and other times it calls for prayer. Don't let your friend be discouraged. God forgives all if we are truly remorseful. God loves us all and does not want to see anyone in Hell he created us as companions. Live the best life you can following Jesus and He will always be with you.

Answer 7

actually - everyone can be forgiven. It's what the book says!

Seriously - it's the teaching of Jesus that we are saved by grace. Anyone who repents and turns from their sin is forgiven.
If this young girl repents and turns (yes, she is currently involved in the sin of fornication), she will be forgiven. Tell her this if you truly care for her. Let her know that she is loved more than she knows by the God who created her and knew her before she was born. Ask her to forgive the priest she put her trust in, and trust her saviour Jesus.

blessings :)

Answer 8

As a Catholic this sounds like a made up story to me. If it is true that particular priest is very extreme and in error. Contrary to popular anti-Catholic mythology, we do realize our priests are mortal men and do make errors.

Answer 9

Premarital sex is a sin, but it can be forgiven like any other sin. No sin is beyond the reach of God.

Answer 10

there are two sides to the story. not meaning to judge your friend but she could have blown things out of proportion. he could have said if you contoinue on this path you will wind up in hell.... very tru if one continues to turn their back on God - however.... i'm sorry but i know too many priests to be able to say -- i can even remotely believe this is what he said and themanner in which it's being stated.