I am in the planning stages of my wedding and it just amazes me how people act about weddings. The word "wedding" is almost like a full moon or something. It makes people crazy!
Everyone feels the need to give ideas and then they get offended if you dont use them. Everyone takes what you decide personally, like its an attack on them.
Sorry but my wedding decisions are based on what my fiance and I want, they arent revenge tactics against anybody!!! But I swear people think they are!!!
Personally, I could care less what any of my family members/friends or future children did with their weddings, because its none of my business. It should be about the couple who are getting married only. I would never tell people what to do. But I seem to be in the minority.
I've even heard people say "weddings are about family", well no - arent they about 2 people starting their lives together?
I just think society has some f-ed up priorities.
2007-04-14 11:26:44 · 12 answers · asked by snailysnal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Actually, NO I dont want gifts!!
2007-04-14 11:39:45 · update #1
Wow- you're so cold and self-centered. Weddings are about sharing something very special with family and friends. They're a public declaration of a commitment. How sad that you could care less what other people did. I hope you're not going to invite guests, since it's all about YOU. Why should anyone care to show up if that's your attitude? But I'm sure you'll want gifts LOL
2007-04-14 11:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I couldnt agree more!! I have worked in the wedding business for 5 years now. I thought when I got married I wouldnt have to deal with any of that drama, b/c I know how it goes....WRONG......I hate to say it, but my wedding day was one of the most terrible days ever!!! I'm glad its over! Dont get me wrong, I'm happily married and I love my husband....but whenever your family gets "too" involved...its a disaster! I wish I had a real reason as to why everyone acts that way...but I dont...the best advice I can give is dont let yourself be put on the back burner...this is YOUR wedding, so that means its going to be YOUR way, or the highway...
2007-04-14 11:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by TUBBY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agreed and I feel the same way. I told my fiance that he is not allowed to discuss our wedding with anyone else. A girl at his work kept trying to convince him to do OUR wedding HER way. She kept suggesting alternatives to my ideas. It was driving me crazy, so I made a rule for him to not discuss it.
I think the wedding obsessed should become wedding planners and stop trying to interfere with other people's plans! It's one thing to help when someone is asking for advice, it's another to demand that the bride should change her entire wedding based on your comments.
Some couples are more family orientated and appreciate large formal weddings. Others find these stuffy, shallow, fake, superficial, "politically correct", and tacky. If you are not a fan of family gatherings or traditional weddings, you are not alone. You may want to consider eloping or a destination wedding. Either way, it IS about you two, so plan your wedding based on what YOU like.
2007-04-14 12:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's usually us hearing about immature and/or selfish brides, not so much trouble with grooms, here. You are totally wrong about the reason for a wedding - it is NOT just for the couple. The purpose of a wedding is to have family and friends witness the wedding vows, and celebrate with the couple at the reception. It's to be a special send-off into married life for the couple. Weddings ARE about family. Does your h2b know all these things about your character?
2007-04-14 11:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes is the planning part that makes ppl go crazy. Wedding is supposed to be what we want but no doubt there's people who will want to give their 2 cents worth. I'm just going nuts with the planning now!!! My big day is end of this month ;)
2007-04-14 12:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by zirconiag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree. I find it especially annoying when people try to give me suggestions on things i've already made a final decision on, like they don't like my choice. It's rude and feels insulting. Especially when the comment comes from someone who is already married...you've already had yours, now let me have mine! Lately i've been going out and doing things all on my own so nobody (like my mom or sister) can try to change my mind. While the event itself does involve family, the reason for the event is the couple who are to be united. Thus, everything is the couple's decision. Why is that so difficult for people to understand? Good lord.
2007-04-14 11:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by katskradle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! Keep the thought and just smile at all the advice bearers and express your appreciation. Meanwhile do your own thing and it will be beautiful. I admire that you are including your fiance when you say it should be about 'the couple' since many messages here only say its what I want and do not include fiance.
2007-04-14 12:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you! Your wedding should be about what the two of you want.
With that being said though... think of this as the start of life with the extended family (yours and his) the mother / mother in law who wants things done this way. Wait until you have kids, and they all want to help you with that too!
Good Luck!
2007-04-14 11:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Super Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 01:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weddings and children are (for some people) an excuse to tell others what to do. These people you refer to give unsolicited advice to everyone at every opportunity. I usually just say "thanks, I'll think about it." and go on with my day.
2007-04-14 11:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋