How do you know the will of God?

Question

How can you discern the will of God regarding particular situations. I know that His will is all over the Bible concerning certain things, but what if you're facing a particular situation and aren't sure about His will, no matter how much you've prayed over it? Ok ... let me be honest and say the situation: I have dated a guy a while, and sometimes it's rocky. I have prayed to God about it - even asked Him to remove him from my life if it wasn't meant to be. Well, the thing is, we can never let go of each other, and things seem to work themselves out until the next challenge. We always seem to work through things, but that gets weary. It's hard to know if I should go; I pray about it, and when I say, "Okay, God, just lead the way," then things look up, but I'm always on edge for the next bump in the road. We love each other so much, but relationships aren't easy. I would hope that God would take him out of my life if we weren't meant, but so far he's still with me. Any thoughts?

*sigh*
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Answer 1

Well, you are on the correct track, as far as taking your problems to God, even in seeking his will in a certain situation.

The problem, here in your case, and with many others is that you want God to take care of something you need to deal with yourself.

You have a situation on your hands. You want God's input (his will), and guidance (lead the way), even assistance (remove him if he is not your will for me).

Here's the thing:

You are seeking some of what you already have.
1. His will is found in his word.
2. Guidance is in his word also, because we are guided by his will.

So before we go to the third thing, what do you know about God's will?

Lust, fornication, bad company and communication are big NO's on his list. Find out if you are in his will by lining up your thoughts and actions (and the boyfriend's) with his will.

Nothing fits? Try to line them up with what you know about Christ. That is in christlike. He lead by example.

If you have not found specifics to your situation, you should now have a lot of general behavioral and thought information. You may need someone to clarify a verse or passage, or to find those that apply in your life.

Now, that you have done your homework, you need to check your own heart. What, exactly, are you seeking? It sounds like you want God to make up your mind for you.

We, as humans in general, know when something is not right for us: the wrong man, the wrong meal, the wrong medication, and so on. We, as humans, also prefer that the difficult decisions are taken out of our hands and made for us.

That is the thing about God. He has given you what is necessary to make wise decisions and choices. I mentioned them already. If you want God to just remove the boyfriend fro you, that won't happen. If you have asked the boyfiriend to move, and he won't, God will act.

I deleted my previous example, it was just too general (this is because I don't know you, so that's understandable).

But let's try this one:

Someone needed medical attention, but to save a buck, just took someone else's. No matter how poorly things seem to be, this person continued because some days he/she felt 'normal', or better.

So to make sure everything turns out well, this person says to God: Lord, I trust you to lead and guide me according to your will. You know I didn't have any money, and so I just took these pills, until I can get some money. But I don't feel right all the time. Some days, better, some worse. You know what's going on here, so if you know these pills are not helping, please let me know. If you provide the money I need so I can go to my doctor, I will stop today and wait till I can get an appointment.

Well, this person is in trouble. Why?
If you can figure this out, you are well on your way to working out what you should do yourself.

The hypothethical person, took God out of the equation first.
Acted independently secondly, then when he began to feel poorly, remembered God. But the time for independent (personally applicable) thought and action was supposed to come after you were sure you were in God's will.

I tell every one I love to shop. I was in Home Depot and spent $60; it was onn tools I needed, but that weren't immediately necessary. As I was choosing my assorted pliers and a hammer (amongst other things), I checked out a drill. And I was thinking, 'Boy I love tools! It's like buying shoes!' (sorry for the stereotype. But that is who I am...)

But did I check with God before I went to that store at 7am? Not even. I was just being happy to finally replace my tools. So, since I hadn't done anything essential before I dropped that $60 (on the necessary), any and all difficulties and incoveniences I go throught afterwards are on me, until I am positive that I start out in God's will.

You can either go forward from here, or take some mutally agreed upon time off from your boyfriend (no private settings, etc.)and discover what God would have in your life. Either way, once you act while in God's will, you should have little trouble knowing what you should do at anytime.

God bless you, and may all your decisions be made in his will.

Hope I helped!

Answer 2

Hiya sis.
In my life GOD speaks most clearly and I learn the most through trials and tribulation. I use that experience in such a time as right now.
When we pray for GOD's will we are surrendering our free will and accepting GOD's will for our lives. What I do is pray real hard and then watch real closely. Many times GOD speaks in a still small voice. I have been in a few dysfunctional relationships. Now that I look back I was around 50% Of the dysfunctional part.
Hope that helps.
May the Lord richly bless you and grant you wisdom and grace in your relationships.

Answer 3

You know relationships need to be worked through!
Your doing the right thing - working through the difficulties which occur. Too many people walk away because they have not the character to work through difficulties.

If you love each other
If your both the Lord's
If you know the Lord gave you one another
You can pray and read the Word together
If you can grow in Christ together

then I believe your on the right track

Answer 4

You said "We love each other so much." I cant help but wonder if you are not entangled in a fatal attraction. In other words, the guy is everything you want in a man except for this one part of his personality, which is altogether intollerable for you.....I used to be in a relationship with a man who was exactly like this. Letting go of him was very difficult for him and for me, but our relationship was lethal.

Now, I am married to a man and more than 90% of the time things are smooth, relaxed, peaceful, pleasant, enjoyable.....all of the above. If I had to argue with this man like I did the last one, I would not stay with him. I want peace....happiness will come with or without the man.

Here's an important question for you to answer to yourself. If I were to ask you how your family and closest friends feel about your being with this man, would they say he was a positive addition to your life, or would they say that they would prefer to see you with someone else who treated you better, or made you happier.

Families and loved ones do not say they want you to be with someone who treated you better if they they dont have a poor feeling about the way the man you are with is treating you. If your loved ones are on you about this man....then God has been answering your question through your family, and you haven't accepted it.

Answer 5

Absolutely!!! It used to be some thing extra formal, but I used to speak to Him anything the purpose and seeing that I stored ahead to my possess ambition and needs, while He gave me avertisements I stored none and did my manner going into increasingly trubles! Into an finish, inside a deep depresion, He stored my existence (!!!) the very moment I left away of all my deep needs... There, empty center, I used to be stuffed with God's Light and Peace and Love - a whole New LIFE, a brand new frame, a New Vision over the beyond and the longer term :) :) :) Yes, He is my Saviour!!!

Answer 6

what's holding that guy in your life is your own conscience (no matter what God wants) when you say "we love each other so much".

They say "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" so I don't know if he's in your life for you to learn from his challenges too, if he makes those challenges himself just to keep you in his life, or what.

Just as God doesn't stop accidents from happening, He's not going to stop this guy from being in your life. Maybe you're asking God the wrong question. If you need more education then go away to school and see if that changes anything. Date other people just to be getting out of the house and see if that changes anything (that should either pull you closer or push you two apart). See what you have in common with him and will it last a lifetime. Will his situations cause you from your getting out of life what you want? Is he stable enough to have children with? Is he of your religion? Do your parents know his parents, etc. etc. etc.

Answer 7

Let me give you an example of how God lets His will be known to us, at times, when we least hear His voice.
I will give you the example of Noah. God told Noah to build an Arc, and gave him the precise measurements and told him the exact resources he would need to build it.
Then we hear nothing from God, to Noah, for 120 years, just before the time of the great flood.
God told him to build it and then God was silent until Noah completed what God told him to do.
It is this way with prayer sometimes, when we cannot be sure of Gods direction, when He remains silent, we should look back to the last thing He said for us to do. Once we complete that task, then God will tell us what He has planned for us next.
We usually feel that we are waiting on God, when actually, God is waiting on us. What is of the most importance to us, can sometimes be least important to God. Look back to the last thing that God said to you and finish that task before asking God about something new.
God Bless You....Peace.

Answer 8

Who said life was easy? We face temptation every second. You have to deal with what is. Gods will is for you to be happy. "I come that you might have life and that you might live it more abundantly." If you are not happy then that relationship is not for you. You obviously think God wants you to suffer. He does not. Deal with the reality of your situation. What is he doing? Your husband is not God. Your husband is not Jesus. You do not have to suffer for him or for his love. You are not being realistic. What exactly is he doing to you? Is he messing up the money. Is he fooling around on you? Is he hitting you? Disrespecting you? That has nothing to do with God. You have to be strong enough to look at the reality of your life and make a change. God gives you the power to choose. You have to use your intelligence to make that decision.

Good luck. Loose that loser.

Answer 9

Long answer but I think you will find what your looking for in it, for it is based on Gods words not mine.

Blessings.
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Dealing With Personal Problems
Is it futile, then, to pray to God regarding such personal matters as finding a suitable marriage mate or dealing with family, health, or employment problems? No, for although God does not promise to change the circumstances of our life miraculously, he will give us the wisdom to cope with them. James wrote in connection with trials: "If any one of you is lacking in wisdom, let him keep on asking God, for he gives generously to all and without reproaching; and it will be given him." (James 1:5) So through his holy spirit, God will guide us. This will help us to understand and apply Bible principles in making decisions.
Of course, God's spirit does not make our decisions for us. On the contrary, personal effort is required. For example, if we have a problem, have we done research on it and investigated the various aspects and elements of the situation? This would be a work that shows God that we have faith. (James 2:18) Have we been persistent in trying to resolve our problem, continually asking for God's guidance? (Matthew 7:7, 8) Have we carefully examined Bible principles that apply to the situation? God's Word can make us "fully competent, completely equipped for every good work."—2 Timothy 3:16, 17.
While it is true that God is able to intervene in human affairs and remove all our problems, he has allowed us to express our free will. Regrettably, many use their free will to the detriment of others. Hence, some problems we pray about may continue until God's new world. (Acts 17:30, 31) It could be a situation that exists in the area in which we live, such as crime or outright warfare; or it might involve our bearing up under hardship brought on by opposers. (1 Peter 4:4) We must acknowledge that in this ungodly world, some situations will not change for the better.
Nevertheless, God loves his worshipers and wants to help them. When his Kingdom exercises uncontested rulership over the earth, he will fully eliminate the horrible problems of this world. (Revelation 21:3, 4) Until that time we should persistently ask for his guidance in dealing with the problems of life. If we do so, we can be sure that God will live up to the promise recorded in the Bible at Isaiah 41:10: "Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not gaze about, for I am your God. I will fortify you. I will really help you. I will really keep fast hold of you with my right hand of righteousness."

Answer 10

Are you married? Are you living in sin with him having sex?
God doesn't honor the latter. To know the will of God we are commanded to know His Word the Holy Bible.