I am talking about non emergency things like grocery shopping, etc.
2007-04-14 10:46:49 · 8 answers · asked by Melissa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my grandfather is temporarily unable to drive..he wants only my mom to take him for a drive every day, or take him grocery shopping, or any other place he needs to go. She has a VERY painful frozen shoulder condition...she told him she needs tomorow for herself, he "said no you cant have a day for yourself EVERY week, you have to be flexible, I might want to go somewhere....." she quickly left to avoid an argument.Last weekend he called first thing Saturday morning demanding a ride somewhere.She was in so much pain she was in tears...she told him"I am in terrible pain right now" He answered"Ok, can you pick me up in a half hour?" He didnt even NOTICE that she crying. The whole family is getting tired of his self centeredness, even though it comes and goes. He can be really sweet one minute and like this the next.
2007-04-14 11:22:51 · update #1
It is not unreasonable at all and also highly recommended. The caregiver has also got to take care of themselves! I hope you are able to and really enjoy the downtime - it is important for you - physically and mentally!
2007-04-14 10:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom desires a smash it is for specific. See in case you adult adult males can get some one else interior the family contributors to step in for as quickly as a week for some hours. Care giver tension is a huge concern while it includes looking after the elderly. It contributes to elder abuse each and every so often. See in case you may get in touch with a social worker. There are classes that consistent with probability could help including grownup day care. there may well be different family contributors's prepared to motor vehicle pool to grant one yet another breaks. Your grandfather is having hardship with managing the shortcoming of independence. Do you think of he likes based on your mom relatively? My wager is not any. Did he used tochronic and now he won't be able to? replaced into your mom the single that informed him he could not? he's likewise probable lonely and bored. existence slows down and stuff like grocery identifying to purchase and going to the well being care expert is going from stupid stuff I have not have been given any time for to the social adventure.
2016-10-22 04:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not unreasonable, as a matter of fact it is probably essential for you own mental and physical well being.
No ONE person should be caring for someone 24/7.
You shouldn't even be on call those kind of hours.
Mental strain on caregivers can be brutal.
Why else do you think hospitals, nursing homes, hospice etc have rotating shifts and staff?
Anyone getting paid for providing care gets time off; why should caring for a relative be any different?
2007-04-14 10:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by sharing_s_caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, god no. Taking care of an elderly person can be VERY stressful, the carer needs a day to themselves to relax and to unwind. someone else can take over the job whilst theyre having a break. totally reasonable =]
2007-04-14 10:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by btab12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just one day a week??? The caregiver deserves more than just one day a week off.
2007-04-14 11:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a primary care giver, It is healthy to have some time off to yourself.
2007-04-14 10:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by jon_mac_usa_007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, sugar, it's not unreasonable...find some1 u trust 2 spell u...u need ur time 2...
2007-04-14 10:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Aurora Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not everybidy deserves a break
2007-04-14 10:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋