Our deadline is tomorrow and I have only recieved about 1/2 of the RSVP's from a list of 200! How do I go about contacting these people who HAVEN'T RSVP'd? Do I just assume they are coming or not coming?? HELP!!
2007-04-14 10:43:18 · 14 answers · asked by NevRose_1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The deadline for RSVP is tomorrow, the event isn't until June 9th. A majority of people who haven't RSVP'd are family/close family friends, so I am assuming THEY assume I know they are coming. It's not that I NEED all the numbers tomorrow, I was just inquiring on how to go about contacting these people IF I needed to. It's also not for a wedding, but for 50th anniversary party for my grandparents...I really only need the #'s for beverages.
2007-04-14 13:44:07 · update #1
It's quite simple...if they did not RSVP before the deadline given, assume they are not going to attend.
2007-04-14 11:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Experience has taught me that about 1/2 the people you invite will not show up. But you are worried that an invite could of been lost in the mail etc.., so...what I would do is call everyone up, and say to them or their answering machine:
"I'm finalizing everything for the event tomorrow, and I noticed I didn't get an RSVP back from you. I just wanted to call and make sure that nothing got lost in the mail as I would hate for anyone to feel left out".
2007-04-14 20:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Lance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really the only way to do it is to call. Usually it's a bit odd to need this number the exact date of your RSVP. Didn't you give youself some leeway to finalize the count?
Anyway if your RSVP date is the date you need to give the caterer your head count, then start calling them and explaining your mistake.
I'm sorry I wasn't able to get your RSVP in time but I was needing to give the caterer a final head count. Will you be able to make it?
I mean 1/2 of the list is far too many for you to just assume and you always have a fair amount who said yes and still won't show. You can't just assume if you haven't gotten any answer or you will have far far far too much food.
2007-04-14 19:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best guess is usually about 1/3 of people who don't RSVP will show up. People don't RSVP like they should that's for sure. I would not say "I'm sure it got lost in the mail but..." that's a bit too passive aggressive. Just a simple call or email that says, "I wanted to follow up to see if you would be attending, as were wanting to make sure we have adequate refreshments for everyone" should be fine, no need to bring up their lack of response, if they apologize for not RSVP'ng just say you know how those things get away, no big deal. As the host it's your job to make your guests feel welcome, not to take a little dig at them for not answering. Hope the party is fun.
2007-04-14 18:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by dinosf 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call them. Give them a certain time and date and if by then they haven't called back to RSVP, then too bad. Make a list of people who didn't RSVP and make sure they either can't come in or make them pay extra for the meal.
If were you thoughtful enough to put RSVP on the invitations, then they should be thoughtful enough to respondez s'il vous plait.
2007-04-14 18:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by sugarpups24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a lot. My first instinct would be to ixnay the rude people from the event, but half of the guest list is a lot of people to have not show up.
Call them and just say, "Hey, I didn't receive your RSVP. In case you forgot to send it, or it got lost in the mail, I'm just calling to confirm whether or not you'll be attending."
2007-04-14 18:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why did you wait until now?
You could have been calling people over the past week. Of course it does depend on how long you gave them to respond.
I do agree with the person who said to call them and just ask them to confirm whether or not they are coming so you can be sure you have enough food, etc. Don't bring up their lack of response, it isn't necessary.
2007-04-14 19:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by meg3f 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if you will have time or not, but you coukld try calling and saying something along the lines "I'm sure your RSVP got lost in the mail, but I need to know how many dinners to order. Will you be coming?"
2007-04-14 17:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by msmthtchr 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say don't call them unless they are some one that is very special and important to you. The reason for R.S.V.P. is so you can have a count. If they have not met your deadline I say go on with your plans. Take it as they are not coming or just forgot to R.S.V.P. In any case you need to go on with your deadline and plans. Good luck
2007-04-14 18:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by princessa674 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends what this is for. usually, people are good about RSVPing about weddings. But if its just a party, that's different. I usually find that people forget, just shoot them an email, reminding them and they will usually email back. If it's a wedding, I would call or email them if they are close, and for those that aren't, like your mother's friends or such, have your mother call them.
2007-04-14 18:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by GoliathSLW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋