who's is really the bad person here? is any one person bad or just what? i don't get it. i am very popular but my family treats me like a street person. i make 50k a year but am just remember as the teenager that messed up, 35 yrsl later.
2007-04-14 10:38:51 · 9 answers · asked by kelly d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a wonderful friend with the same problem, and I had the same problem with my parents.
You can't make people change their opinions about you. If the reality is, you aren't that person any more and they can't see that, it's their issue...not yours.
When they say something (and they ALWAYS do), I used to say to my parents, "You know, even hardened criminals get set free after they serve their sentence...or was my option life or the death penalty? Personally, rather than listening to you rant about something that happened over 20 years ago, I think I'd pick the death penalty." I said it with a smile, but they knew it wasn't meant as a joke.
The other one I used was "You know, I was an annoying teenager, and I'm sorry for the grief I caused you. However, I didn't kill anyone, and I turned out okay. You really need to let go of the past."
Feel free to use either or both of these, and don't let it get to you. You're not alone. (*laughter*) Let's be honest, if we knew the torture was indefinite, we'd either have done something REALLY awful or hidden in the closet and done nothing as teenagers.
2007-04-14 10:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to the family and apologizing for what transgression they are remembering? Are they really completely rejecting you? Or do they just still talk to you as if you were still doing this 'thing' against them? I would talk to them and if you need to apologize, then apologize. Tell them you understand why they are upset but that you would like to move past that and for everyone to get on with their lives. If they love you they should want the same thing. If they dont want the same thing, then they dont have a good sense of love for you, not the kind anyone needs anyway, and you need to try and move on alone. I know that will be hard, but maybe eventually they will come around and then it will be you giving them a second chance, and you will have to remember how you wanted the same thing from them. But I would bet that a nice family talk will get things moving in the right direction.
2007-04-14 10:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 05:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by jeniffer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to work on your attitude now and many things would change. Tell me the truth, would you really know as you call it a "street person" if you spotted one?
2007-04-14 13:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try getting closer to your family and relatives and enjoy the life you have outside of your family. you say you're popular. friendship is really all you need and so is love. you love your friends right? and believ it or not, your family loves you too.
2007-04-14 10:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry your family can sure hold a grudge. You'll have to keep going without them no matter how hard it is. You really have no choice.
2007-04-14 10:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
search and find a new everything that has the word family attatched to it,,,,,,,,yer old family burned all your bridges
2007-04-14 10:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by quackpotwatcher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change their thinking just let it be and live your life don't let it bother you be happy.
2007-04-14 10:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
2007-04-14 10:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋