Please help!!!!?

Question

My year long boyfriend broke up with me, lately every argument was my fault?
he really hurt me emotionally, he was very hard on my child, he had whipped her for over an hour last oct. b/c she was kicked out of school. He would always call me stupid, and would tease me to relieve stress. I got upset yesterday because he was being negative to me about work and exercise, I work 2 jobs and go to school but I'm 155 lb, and 30 lb over weight, he was giving me a hard time about it, so when I got upset he got mad and said he didn't want to be around me b/c I was in a stupid mood. So I changed and acted happy the rest of the day, I took him out to eat this morning. Well he choose to work tonight and told me to go and have fun with my kid, and when I did he got mad b/c he couldn't go and blamed everything on me saying he didn't want to go b/c of the fight yesterday, and was mad b/c he was left out. I'm so hurt right now I believe in God but I have no-one to talk to, I already suffer from depression and I'm not doing good right now. I really need some advice.

Answer 1

Call the police on this man for child abuse. There are many agiencies out there that will help you and your child. Do not wait for the violence you have already seen to get worse.

Answer 2

A man who could treat you or your daughter like this is a man you should stay well away from. I know it hurts right now, but things will get better with time. NO one should call you stupid, or beat your child- this is inexcusable and you have been very brave for letting him go.

At 155 you can't be too much overweight, really- if you think about how big some other people really are, 155 really isn't too bad- unless of course you are 2 feet tall :) What matters most is that you take care of yourself and your daughter, and try to see the bright side of things- I know it can be tough but there IS a tomorrow that can be better, and since there is the chance of it being better why not go for it!

There are so many more people in this world, so many people to meet and have fun with, and so much to do and see- God did give us this beautiful Earth and this fabulous Life and there must be more to it than some dumb guy who doesn't know how to treat people.

I wish you all the best

Answer 3

Anyone who would whip a child over an hour is a sadist. Be glad to be rid of him. Actually I can't believe your boyfriend has any right whatsoever whipping your child.
You might be dealing with a pscychopath. They are people who have no concern for the feelings of others. They can be very charming and at times act like they do.
You don't need him.

Answer 4

Hey, you sound really down!

This is going to be hard for you to hear but this person is not doing you or your child any good at all. Actually, you have said as much in your question but it is hard when emotions get in the way.

My advice is to make a clean break, which will be difficult. Draw strength from your religion if that helps, but try to imagine yourself as a strong person in three months' time, looking back on the person you are now and giving yourself advice. What would you tell yourself?

Good luck, you will be fine.

Answer 5

hi sweety...first of all, you need to dump your boyfriend. this man is mentally abusive towards you, and you deserve so much better. he tries to blame YOU for his problems, because he knows you are depressed, and thinks you are weak. but you need to prove him wrong, and dump his sorry behind. you will be so much better after he is gone, and then get yourself a boyfriend who will love you even if you are 30, or 200 pounds overweight, and would never call you stupid. your boyfriend is the weak one, not you. he has to make himself feel better by treating you like dirt. ask God to give you strength, and know that he is with you even though it may not seem like it. if you are living in his house, pack up all your stuff while he's gone, and you and your daughter go live with some friends, or some family. please don't put up with him because you feel like you can't do any better because you CAN. God believes you are worth dying for, so i'd much rather take his word, than some man with a childish temper. big hugs!! and God bless!.

Answer 6

I am sooo sorry to hear this! I would suggest that you get out of this relationship ASAP. He is hurting your child for no reason (being kicked out of school is no reason to beat her for an hour!) and he is hurting you emotionally. Before he abuses you physically too, please, get out of this relationship. He is still a 'kid' who doesn't understand responsibility and wants attention all the time. Just tell him in a stern, straight-forward voice that you don't want to be with him anymore. Good luck and i will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 7

DUMP HIM AND TO GET RID OF THIS DEPRESSION PLAY SOME SPORT ..MAYBE YOGA!YOU'LL GET TO KNOW OTHER PPL AND ULL HAVE MORE FRIENDS FROM THE YOGA OR WTV CLASS..BUT NEVER GET BACK 2 THIS SELFISH FOOLISH MAN!PROOVE 2 HIM THAT HE IS NOT BETTER THAN U AND THAT U R A GOOD PERSON AND THAT WOMEN ARENT OBJECTS 2 THROW THEIR BALMES ON!! U R A HUMANNNNN...U GOTTA LIVE UR LIFE ..AND ITS BETTER IF U LET UR CHOLD GO AND COME FROM SKOOL BY SKOOL BUS AND U CAN USE THIS TIME 2 RELAX OR DO ANYTHING...

Answer 8

oh my goodness, I am so sorry. This sounds like he is taking you WAY for granted. GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW! if he is abusing you and/or your daughter, he needs professional help, he has a serious problem. This is NOT YOUR FAULT, but you need to do what is best for you and your daughter and remove her from his influence. ANYONE who would beat a child for over an hour, even for something as serious as expulsion from school, needs help. PLEASE do what you know you need to and get OUT. I will pray for you. God bless, I pray that this situation works out for you. God Bless you and your daughter.

Answer 9

Get AWAY from him. Call the police, get a restraining order, then do what you have to do to get away from him and stay away. Then... find someone to talk to who can help you, to get you through the horrors you're living with right now. NOBODY deserves to be in that situation, and certainly not to remain in that situation. Getting professional help, to talk to, not only gives you a person who can help you cope with the emotional strain, but also makes a great witness in legal battles, should a lawyer see fit.

Remember, you owe it to yourself AND to that child... stay safe.

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Answer 10

You are a child of God and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, as do your children. It shouldn't matter what you look like, if your boyfriend was truly in love with you, he would treat you like the lovely person you are.. You don't need a man to validate who you are. Look after your children, and love them. go ahead and contact me if you want to.