Yesterday I wrote asking about my son who my husband and I had move out. He was expected to pay his portion of the phone bill and was yelling at me because I wouldn't let him send me cash through the mail. He forgot his checks here when he moved out. I wanted to know what to do and got many great answers. My son never did come over so my husband and I made the decision to suspend his phone. I would have liked to of turned it off completely, but there's a $200 cancellation fee and I knew we'd never get that from him, so it's just out of service now and we did go to his work to get the phone. As for his car... I offered for him to buy it from me, but I doubt he will. (Look at my previous question for more details.) So we're going to sell the car and I'm going to put it either in savings or pay off a couple of bills. I just wanted to thank everyone who replied to my previous question because it really helped knowing that other parents would have done the same thing we did.
2007-04-14 10:05:18 · 6 answers · asked by 2Beagles 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
To the person who asked why I didn't take him his checks... he won't tell us where he lives because he's living in an undesirable neighborhood. I have no address. And he's an adult now. He needs to be responsible for himself and pay his bills on time.
2007-04-14 12:25:47 · update #1
Great job mom!! We all had to learn to grow up at some point. I know it's hard on you as a parent but in the end he will be a better person. This will help teach him responsibility and that not everything is going to get handed to him.
2007-04-14 10:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're doing the right thing. You want what's best for your son, but you don't want to enable him to make bad choices.
My brother had moved out for a while, then moved back in with my parents and they were charging him rent. They put it all into a separate account and used it for his tuition, so perhaps thats an idea for the money you get from selling the car.
2007-04-14 10:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Great job mom. I didn't see your previous questions but by the sounds of this update, it seems you are doing a wonderful job! Now he will know what to expect in the real world and you won't have a 30 year old living in your basement.
2007-04-14 10:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds you are trying in every way to make your son face responsibility.and that is good for him even if he does not appreciate it now. The hard part is not to give in when he starts to give you hard luck stories ,Stick to your rules and do not argue, just tell it the way it is going to be.
2007-04-14 10:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Cinna 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you live in the US, your son is a legal adult in all states. he is responsible for ALL of his debts, etc.
2007-04-14 11:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by KitKat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you could go pick up the phone, why couldn't you pick up the money or take him his checks?
2007-04-14 10:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by s0nicfreak 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋