How do I tell my mum that I have a boyfriend?

Question

She is a person that easily gets freaked out but it's not the first time i tell her. last time she found out i broke up with my boyfriend which was the first one. we had a huge fight that time. i don't want this to happen again. plz help :*

i'm 13 y/o

Answer 1

Well, tell your Mum that you have met someone that you really like and you would like her to meet him. Ask her if you could invite him over for dinner one night with the family. Once she meets him she may not get so freaked out about him being in your life. Most parents like to know what is going on in their children’s lives and who is part of it. So, try to include your mum into this and she will be more excepting of it.

Answer 2

I wrote this answer before I looked at your history on questions, and answers. And after reading what I read my answer does not really apply to you. And now I understand why your mom is freaked out. You do not sound to mature emotionally, and I would also extremely concerned if I were your mom. It shows that she is a good, and caring mom.

Guess I won't get the best answer, but I do care enough to help you understand your moms point of view.


How old are you? If you are under 18 years old I understand why your mother would be freaked out.

If you are 18 then you should sit down and discuss it with your mom. Let her see that you are considering her feelings, and want her to be happy and proud of you. Show her that your really care about her.

When you discuss this with her as an adult, and she see's you as a responsible, trusting and loving daughter she will come around.

However, if you behave as an immature teenager then it is reasonable for her to get freaked out. It is all up to you, and how you handle the situation.

Answer 3

Lord Child!! 13 is just too young to have a boyfriend. Yes there will be boys you like, but at this age you are just learning how to interact with the opposite sex. If you have bad experiences early on, it will change the way you look at men later on. There is a process in life, when we try to bypass this process we can become dis functional.
Your mom obviously feels the same way. I would never have allowed my children ( 2 sons )to date at 13. The emotional maturity is not there, and that is especially true for girls. Girls at this age see everything as earth shaking. I think you should be friends with this boy, have him meet your parents, hang out together, all the things you would do with a girlfriend, without the romantic side.

Answer 4

Your mum is trying to protect you. There are many young people who have made mistakes at your age and she doesn't want to see anything happen to you.

Perhaps you could ask for her advice - Tell her you like this boy, but you know she doesn't want you to have a boyfriend. Ask what would be okay - like going to the cinema.

You may not think you are young to have a boyfriend, I know I didn't at that age. But your definition of having a boyfriend may be different to your mums - you need to make sure you understand each other and trust each other. Mums advice is sometimes worth listening to.

Answer 5

Hi, this is an answer from a mum! Your mum will just be worried about you, and it's her little girl growing up. As you already have had one boyfriend it may not be so bad this time when you tell her. My advice is to show her how mature you are, and to flatter her. Say something like mum, I have met this boy I really like and we want to go out, but I don't want it to cause any trouble between you and me, because I really hated it last time when we fought. Maybe we could sit down and talk about it, and we could agree on some rules if that would help. I know you think I am young but let me show you how responsible I can be.

That kind thing. Ask her what her worries are about you dating. Say you don't want to go behind her back.

Answer 6

Do the what if thing, and if she figures it out, still be subtle and tell her everything you feel she should know (like who it is). If she doesn't, you decide how she would react. If you can tell her then, great! If not, then throw in hints here and there to work her into it so she won't freak out so much. Don't say things that will most likely lead to a fight. Also, don't tell your mom you love him, that is a definite freak out trigger.

Answer 7

I think that u should just go to her and be real with her. Tell her that u are not a child anymore and that u want to experience new things. But Im tellin u she will set down limits. In that case u just have to compromise.

Then before u bring the boy to meet your mom, make sure he look presentable. I mean like NO SAGGY PANTS! thats a real turn off for the parents.

Answer 8

This is not gonna help at all, BUT I STRONGLY RECOMMEND that you give it some more time before you get into this....

You are still young honey....

Got to be 16-18 Y/O to seek this kind of a relation.

Sorry.

Answer 9

You didn't mention your age here, so I will answer saying to you to slide her in slowly by making it clear you are doing things with boy and girl friendships. Boy girl parties and make sure you invite both boys and girls to the house together. After a while if you make sure she gets to be friendly with both of your friends, she will realize you have good friends and are not wild or on drugs or wanting sex early. All moms are worried about you getting with guys and ripping off clothes. So if you act like a girl who is just wanting to do activites and are growing up with good grades and there will not be the problem of her thinking you are hot to trot!

Answer 10

wHAAT at this age ur having a boyfriend ..Well it's better your mommy know's about it , and she will understand atleast she know's everything about u, so she can trust coz u r open to her . Maybe she will get shock but she will listen . But ur so young for that . Anyway enjoy!