I remind my significant others to tell me they love me on a regular basis! that way when I die they will not have to cry and feel sad! In my "will" I will include the following instructions to the Funeral Home: I want my awake to open casket (for viewing) I want continuous showings of the Musical "CHICAGO", I want Hooters Waitreses to serve buffalo wings with a choice of 3 beverages (beer, ice tea, or diet 7-up), I want everyone dress like they are going to a joyous occasion, (like a party!) I want the ladies to dress in short skirts and tight dresses! Everyone will be required to laugh and smile! And Last but Not Least; if anyone cries or begins to cry they are to be immediately be escorted out the front door! Do you believe the instructions that I will leave to the Funeral Home violates and cannons or standards of "Good Taste" "Etiquette" or "Good Judgment"?
2007-04-14 07:54:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Look grief is a very personal thing and you should not instruct people how to act upon learning of your death.I think for the most part we would all like to be remembered that way.With smiles and great memories,I think a tasteful way is to have a celebration of life not a funeral. Plan the food and invite the people you want there.We are all meer humans and odds are we will be selfish about losing you and that will make us sad.
2007-04-14 08:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No violation of good taste or ettiquette by putting it in your will. Please send me an invitgation - and I hope the event is held soon :-)
Of course you realize that the executor(s) may choose to ignore part or all fo what you ask. And some funeral homes may decline to allow this type of service in their facility.
Now it would be REALLY rude for you to come out of your casket and verbally abuse or haunt any people who do not act of feel the way you insist they should act or feel. You would be a very inconsiderate host.
2007-04-14 09:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Richard of Fort Bend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been to a few "happy" funerals in my life. They were referred to as a "celebration of life." I rather enjoyed them myself. I don't believe a funeral home would have any major objections to your wishes.
If it were me, I would consider a dress code that required everyone to wear cheerful colors, but I think I would save the buffalo wings and beers for the after-reception!
Sounds like a good time to me!
2007-04-14 08:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love it! I think the people closest to you will probably understand and may enjoy themselves. However, people who may not have known you well, or aren't secure will probably be offended by your funeral celebration. I say go for it, but realize that not everyone will think its respectful, and you will need to talk to your family to make sure your wishes are honored. Also, as someone else said, you probably shouldn't throw out crying people- they may not be able to help it, or express their feelings any other way. Not everyone is as open about death as you are!
2007-04-14 08:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by kit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take out the "if you cry or begin to cry you will be escorted out the front door" part of your instructions to the funeral home.
Other than that, its your funeral. heh.
2007-04-14 07:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your funeral--do as you want. But, I'd give the instructions to your lawyer to handle upon your death. Your Will may not be read till after you are buried and it is too late then.
2007-04-14 08:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Shossi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your funeral director. You can pre-pay and make all the arrangements prior to your death. They call it "pre-need". As for me , I want very tradtional with one exception. For my viewing I want to be laid out with my eyes open. My son promised to do it. It'll be a funeral no one will forget!
2007-04-14 08:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, no matter how unconventional, it is fine to make SUGGESTIONS- but entirely selfish to call them 'requirements'. :)
Moreover, leave behind enough money to pay for the whole fandango or the people you leave with the bill will be crying for sure.
2007-04-14 09:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by cynnkitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good to me. Don't forget the pole dancers though.
2007-04-14 13:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good, but you left out the lap dances.
2007-04-14 07:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋