Is it pathetic to live with your parents until marriage?

Question

I want to move out when im finished with college but in my culture it is customary for the children to live with the parents until marriage. Is it a bad thing? What are the pros and cons of both options??

Answer 1

No it is not pathetic. Each family has their own life style. You do what makes you comfortable.

If your afraid what your friends will think, those that don't respect your choice are not true friends, so you should not care what they say.

I always taught my children, "you don't have to understand everyone, but you have to respect their feelings, and life style".

What is right for one is not necessarily right for another. We are all individuals, with our own values and understanding. As long as we are not hurting anyone, it is our choice to live, and do as we please.

Myself personally would choose to live with my family, Family experiences are rich in love, warmth, and leave you with wonderful memories when you get older and are married.
Your children will also benefit from sharing all your memories, it's just so great. I have 7 boys who are now married with their own families, and it is so nice to look at pictures from way back when. It is a sense of stability that cannot be described.

But good luck on whatever you decide. But it should be YOUR decision. Even though you definitely should discuss it with your parents before you do come to one. They deserve that much respect after all the love they have given you, and sacrificed so much for you.

Answer 2

Lliving with parents

You can share the bills
There is warmth and love at home
You eat together
You will get home after work and the lights will be on in the house.
You will stay out of trouble because you are answerable to someone
You depend on each other
you will be able to save more and invest early

Siblings disrespect your stuff
You have to share the bathroom/bedroom
Arguements

Living alone

You have to pay all the bills
Cooking good meals will be a thing of the past
It is easier to get into trouble or compromise your principles because you are not directly accountable to anyone
You have to do all the cleaning

You can come and go any time you want
You can have your own timetable for chores, meals
Its an opportunity to start your life and get used to living away from home

Answer 3

I think it's important for children to move out at least for a couple of years. The sense of responsibility and maturity occurs with greater effect when you are responsible for yourself. You tend to over rely on parents otherwise.

For women, it is more customary to remain at home until marriage. This is generally not even thought about as a problem, but I can tell you that several of the women I know who never left home really lack a sense of what it actually costs to maintain a home, and other responsibilities.

Answer 4

to live with parents is not pathetic. this is a family with love. you share a bond. you are there for each other. the only advice i can think of is to make sure your parents treat you an adult and not as a child. you are growing up and you have to develop into your own personality and deal with your everyday situations in life with your own emotions. they can advise you, but they should respect your wishes if they are different from theirs, but there is no reason to leave home to accomplish this. don't worry about pros and cons, life is what YOU make it, and you can make it anywhere you live, so why not stay with the family you can trust, love and fall back on. when the time to leave is right for you, YOU will know it. good luck in your future.

Answer 5

If it's customary, then why would you worry about it being pathetic?

And, for the record, you are going to get a lot of responses on here from people that have no clue about your culture...and the answers will be based on a very narrow knowledge of the world.

Answer 6

I feel you bro. I'm in the same boat.
I'm debating wether to waste money per month on an appartment or collaborate with my family to buy a house.
It it tough because living with your parrents not only annoy you but it does take a bite into your dating life.

I guess if your family is financially well off then you could afford to move out. They should understand your circumstances and that regardless of which culture you came from, you need your own space to be you.

Answer 7

You should do what makes you happy. You can try moving out on your own with a roomate or just by yourself, and if it doesn't work out, move back in with your parents. You seem to be pretty smart cuz you are about to finish college, so it's not like your mooching off of your parents. Hope you make the right decion for yourself, Good Luck!! :-)

Answer 8

If you live with your parents you can save money for the wedding but the bad thing is with living with them you should have enough respect to do as they like since they are paying

Answer 9

no living with ur parents saves u a bunch of money and being a college student money might be tight ...the bad part might be having friends over and not having as much freedom cuz no matter hold old u are living with ur parent doesnt give u as much freedom as living on ur own

Answer 10

actually times have changed. more people live with their parents after college to save on costs. the cost of living has raised and it is harder to get by today until you are settled and ready for your own life. now, i have not lived with my parents since i was 17 but its up to each person to make this decision. it depends on how much stress your parents put on you.