Friends with benefits?

Question

Is it possible to just have sex and leave the emotion at the door?

In past experiences it has started like that but ended up with one side being let down and getting jealous.

Is it possible to just keep it to hello-sex-goodbye..??

ok, but what if you both just crave the sex, not the emotion? its kind of like masturbating but using someone else's hand...

Answer 1

I don't know!! Good question. I've been asking myself that this year.
I think that if you both make things clear from the get go that you're not looking for anything serious then that could definitely help.
But then again the hello-sex-goodbye thing is in a way disrespecting the other person because you are ignoring the whole other side of them.. their brain! their thoughts and feelings and personality. you just don't care. (this goes for both guys and girls)
Wouldn't you rather be kissing someone that you feel an emotional connection to? I don't know I feel like friends with benefits is just using each other. If it's consentual.. I guess it's ok, but not ideal.

Answer 2

A friend is a person with whom you already have an emotional bond, it can not always be ignored, suspended or forgotten for both parties during sex, nor can it remain unaltered after. A friend (if you wish to consider yourself one)
wouldn't make those demands on someone they consider a friend. If mindless, meaningless sex and leave the emotion at the door is what you want, try finding a stranger to satisfy those kinds of needs. That may seem unbecoming but so does "hello-sex-goodbye".

Answer 3

A survey done by Maxim magazine a couple months back stated that only 16% of females relate one-night stands as a beginning of a relationship rather than what it is. I would think that if you do that more than once though, signals are going to get crossed and false hope will start to form. It probably IS possible to keep it strictly platonic if the right conversation is had beforehand, but chances are as soon as you drop that phrase she's gonna shrug it off or walk. The best choices for such relationships in a female would be a professional, who barely has enough time for a relationship but doesn't want to miss out on the perks, find one of those and your chances of a FWB relationship should be higher than normal.

Answer 4

Yes and no. If you keep the mindset that it is just benefits and keep the emotion out of it, yes it is possible. But both people have to commit to it. As soon as one party starts to care or get jealous is when the trouble starts. This is also called a fear of commitment and a booty call. Personally sex without emotion is exercise, i can go to the gym for that. Sex with emotion is much more intense, personal, etc.

Answer 5

it is possible - as long as the relationship does not go on for too long.
I've had quite a few relationships where its mainly all about sex - with both men and women (i'm bi).
it often depends on your relationship from the beginning - ie I met a woman online - she made it clear that it was all about sex and that she wanted sex on our 1st date (she hired a hotel room!!). So in this context, it was understood by us both that we were only in it for the sex. It lasted 6 months and then she went back home and got married!

It can work - just have to be clear from the start - be safe and have fun!!

Answer 6

Maybe if you're having sex w/ another MAN...men seem more able to check their emotions at the door.

Doesn't seem to me like you are wanting to go that route, SO the answer is no. Women, as a general rule, equate sex with all kinds of emotions. Good luck finding one who is just as much a wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am as you want.

Answer 7

Better plan on leaving your wallet open before she leaves and allow her to take your money for the fun you had then time too. If you want a whore then that's what your asking for, If you want a relationship then you need to be open and honest with her before you end up having sex, Because she may have the wrong ideas before it goes that far.. Think with your big head, not your little one !

Answer 8

Yes, it's possible, among those with psychotic tendencies. An inability to connect physical intimacy to emotional intimacy is a symptom of many mental disorders, as well as the aftermath of sexual abuse.

In short, yes, what you're asking about is possible, but only if your mind and souls are blasted, damaged and in desperate need to healing.

Answer 9

Personally, I believe that sex without feelings is just wrong, and it's not fair to either one. Don't you want to save that for someone you truly love? <3

Answer 10

friendship and sex? not possible! there's just too much happening in the friendship already (if you really are good friends) to believe that one will not end up getting hurt in the end.