I don't know if we are still together. I really like him, and I am crazy about him. But Im not sure if he knows how much I like him. He says things to me such as "you can be with who ever you want" and "I think i'll be a single guy in the future". And that is definetly not what I like to hear. I know I should tell him how I feel, but how do I do that?? What should I say to him??
2007-04-14 07:08:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him you hate that bull
2007-04-14 07:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approaching this can be different ways depending on if you are in Jr. high school, or in or past your mid-teens to 20's. Ask him flat out if he see's you together in the future, and tell him your heart is crushed when he says things like that because you have the feelings you have for him, and you are not going to invest yourself in a 'convenient' relationship until he breaks your heart altogether. You are going to HAVE to let him know how you feel and get him to be straight forward with you. If he is dropping these subtle lines to you, he might be sending up red flags you need to pay attention to, or, he might be trying to feel out your feelings so you need to tell him or ask him why he says things like that, and then go into the feelings you have for him. He also might be trying to figure out just how much you care for him before he makes more of a committment to you. However it plays out......you two cant keep playing this game. Life is too short, and you need to get on with it, or cut it loose!! Telling people how you feel is no longer a matter of saving face, or losing pride. It is an important tool in saving your emotional confidence and stability in handling relationships in the future. Relationships are not middle of the road. You are BOTH either in it, or BOTH out of it, and to prevent yourself from being used in the middle by letting him think he is getting away with not being in one while he can string you along without any 'purpose' dont let him 'use' you. You need to know which and get on with it, or tell him where to get off.
2007-04-14 14:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Donna S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with yourself first. What do you really expect from him? What do you expect from the relationship? If he's talking like that, my guess is he's not expecting much more than a physical relaitonship with you. If you "really like" him, you need to ask him if you're the only one he's seeing, and if he thinks you have the kind of relationship that you think the two of you are having.
Guys are not complicated animals. In fact, we're pretty dumb about most things. Sure, we can be pretty handy, some can even be brilliant and math, science, politics, etc. However, most of us are functionally retarded when it comes to relationships. You sound pretty young to me, and not like someone who's dating to find a potential spouse. I'm guessing that you are in you late teens or early twenties, and want a stable relationship but have a hard time imagining yourself married.
He probably sees himself as a young, free, active man. Guys who say things like that are usually pretty into themselves and into what they perceive is the image of a "ladies man." I would be willing to bet he tells his friends all about what you think is private between the two of you, and augments the story wherever it benefits him to do so.
You need to ask him straight, open-ended questions about the relationship, if for no other reason than to get piece of mind for yourself. I bet you can do way better than what you have, you just need to have the courage to make the change and have faith that you deserve more.
2007-04-14 14:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Been There 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he feels about you and the relationship. If he says that he cares about you and that the two of you are still together, then tell him to cut the crap and stop saying all the other stuff, because you don't like to hear it. If he continues talking that way, then tell him adios. Relationships are already rocky enough, without things like that being added into the mix.
2007-04-14 14:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what's he's really trying to say. Some guys give misleading info. You just need to tell how you feel for him. If you dont tell you will regret it for your whole life. Just tell him you have something to say to him and you want to let him know about this because its important.
2007-04-14 14:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may sound stupid but talk to him and tell him you want to be together and that we should really love each other with all our hearts if that doesn't work then say something like that or you can break up with him if he doesn't show you his affection.hope it helps
2007-04-14 15:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need tell him truth, tell him bout how you feel bout him and that it hurts when he says things like that to ya. Why are with this guy for if he says things like that to ya.
2007-04-14 14:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by babe_00001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think crazy might be the operative word here. Take the hints he dropping. Move along.
2007-04-14 14:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure u want to be with him? Because he sounds like he doesnt care too much.
2007-04-14 14:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your very last question "What should I say to him??" Goodbye is the best answer. Sounds like he does not like you in the same way.
2007-04-14 14:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by chief_eagle_wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUS TELL HIM THE TRUTH CAUSE IF U DONT UR GONNA END UP LOSIN HIM I SHOULD NOE THAT HAPPEN TO ME ONCE AND I LEARNED MA LESSON BUT MAKE SURE HE LIKES U THE SAME WAY CAUSE IF HE DOESNT HE'LLL DO SUM WALLED SHYT AND U DONT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN TO YOUH LIKE ON SUM REAL SHYT !!
2007-04-14 14:43:56 · answer #11 · answered by Julie<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋