Hi! I have a situation, and I'd be interested in getting other people opinion. Parents of my girlfriend called me and demanded to be invited for the wedding on the grounds that they are my parents' friends. The truth is that they were friends three years ago, but now they would only congratulate each other on birthdays over the phone. They haven't even seen each other for the last three years. My girlfriend, who now lives in a different state, was planning on attending the wedding. At least she was planning on prior to her parents' call. Now I'm concerned that she won't be if I won't invite her parents. I really don't feel like I want to see people who have nothing to do with my family and just want to use the wedding as a chance to show off.
The situation is that I don't want to break up with my girlfriend, but don't want to invite her parents especially after their phone call. What do you think about this? Do you think it's a fair enough game to call and make such demands?
2007-04-14 06:51:57 · 7 answers · asked by landish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To clarify: She is just my girl friend (we're just friends), who is supposed to attend my wedding. Her parents also demand invitations to attend my wedding by calling me.
Thanks to all for your answers!
2007-04-15 07:09:26 · update #1
Just say no.
I've been going through this left and right. Due to our budget, we just can't invite everyone and their brother.
It's bad enough that people have been adding extras on the RSVPs. That really adds up.
You'll just have to tell your girlfriend that you're sorry, but this is the situation.
If they called me demanding to be invited, that would give me even more support NOT to invite them.
2007-04-14 06:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's horribly rude for anyone to call the parents of the bride or groom and DEMAND to be invited to the wedding. It's an invitation, and it's the hosts decision who is and is not invited. Frequently, the reason for not inviting people isn't how much you like them, it's just simple logistics. You've booked a room that will hold 200 people, you can't invite 250, you've got to cut someone.
Your wording is weird too....I'm assuming by your photo you're the bride, but you say that you don't want to break up with your girlfriend? HUH????? Are you sure you're ready for marriage...most men, regardless of what the porn industry would have people believe, do not think their wives cheating on them with another women is ok. If your relationship with this other person is anything other than strictly platonic, re-evaluate your readiness for the committment of marriage please.
2007-04-14 14:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is your wedding and you should invite whoever you want. If your girlfriend (who I am assuming is a grown woman) cares so much about who is invited to YOUR wedding then she should offer to pay for her parents attendance....NOT YOU. If you need an 'excuse' not to invite them, just tell her that it is not in your budget to invite her parents.
2007-04-14 15:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by SupaDupaWoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can hardly believe what you wrote about those people. It is your wedding and people cannot invite themselves. If their daughter does not come unless they do , belive me you do not want her as a friend so let it go and concentrate on your fiance and enjoying this happy time with him. It should be about you two and YOUR friends.
2007-04-14 15:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people cannot demand to be invited and knowing me if they did I wouldnt invite them I was a little confused on your question are you and your gf getting married or are you going to a wedding of someone else if you only want your gf there tell her and if she comes she comes have fun
2007-04-14 14:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You invite who you want to invite. If they are not on the guest list then do not invite them unless YOU want to.
2007-04-14 14:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just say no.
2007-04-14 19:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋