Ok, I have a question. My ex boyfriend's girlfriend commited suicide about 3 months ago. We had been together before she did this and well he seemed to be moving on with life, since he was with me now, but in a way I don't think he completely moved on from her. I could tell he still cared about her because he got really really jealous when he found out she was with this guy. They still talked occasionally, and I saw one of his emails( he doesn't know it), but he was like, Don't tell me about guys you dated.. It drives me nuts to think about you with someone else.... I mean he seemed to be doing fine ... moving on with life.. btu then i saw that email and wondered about it... She did end up killing herself, but that isn't what I am confused about. Why would he get so jealous of her being with another guy when he broke it off with her?? He told her that he wanted them both to move forward. That is what he said to her when they broke up. I am confused. Please help me
2007-04-14 06:41:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok let me make this clear... The thing is, he didn't end it with her because he didn't love her. Actually she ist he first girl he has ever TRULY loved. He is 24 and she was also. He coudn't make it work with her right now because he was afraid they would fall apart again and he could not handle going through that again. separating from her again. he did tell me he that he couldn't see himself marrying anyone but her and that he hoped one day they would work after they had time to grow. I mean he said he wanted them to move forward, but if he would still talk to her and tell her that he wasn't ready to see her or talk to her on the phone..it tells me he wasn't over her.. even though it had only been 3 months since they broke up
2007-04-14 06:56:51 · update #1
you can break it off with someone and still love them its normal.
2007-04-14 06:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow he's ex girlfriend whom he cared for a lot just committed suicide! Cut him some slack and give him the benefit of the doubt. If it's only been three months since they had broken up then of course he's still going to have residual feelings for the girl especially if they were together for a long time. Now, some blame should fall on him because he went into another relationship knowing that he could not give his all, but still let him grieve get over the death and talk to him about the emails and maybe work it out. Other wise you will have to break up with him.
2007-04-14 13:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Marius , II 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...how long have they been split up? An ex is never easy to get over especially if there are years b/w them. History is history we can't re-write it, if that were possible i would be the only person for my man. I have a problem with his ex to when they speak, and at the beginning i found a text to her telling her how his heart was breaking not being with her, i confronted both, she never received and he denied it meaning anything. (yeah like i have dumb *** written on my face) but you can't take away strong feelings for someone, so maybe talk to him about it and show him you are there to support him, be his friend with this and not his girlfriend since the ex did kill herself. (You may learn alot from him)
2007-04-14 13:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by byrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, boys drive me insane.
He probably didn't think he was good enough for her or something. Or he was just really pissed at her and broke it off and didn't think she would actually find someone else. I really don't know. Guys are confusing like that. I wish I could help. :\
I am very sorry though about her death. I know that's hard for someone to get past.
2007-04-14 13:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by morgziedoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was still very much in love with her. Love is not a switch you can just turn off and on. It takes time and seomtimes it is a short period and sometimes it is a never ending period.
2007-04-14 13:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Selvaggio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from this guy. He has issues with jelousy and control and is dealing with issues. You cannot correct the problems of others and it may not be in your best interests to attempt to do so.
2007-04-14 13:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by john c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should end it with this guy and move on with your life. He never did, and this is always going to be a problem. This isn't your deal, it's his. Remove yourself from it.
2007-04-14 13:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he rush in to the relation ship he need to have time to grieve it sounds to me she killed her self because he is so jealous. you should dump him before he pushes you over the edge,you might be next he sound dangerous.get out of the relationship now'
2007-04-14 13:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Mauvy Povich.
2007-04-14 13:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Legsology07 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just give him some good sex tonight.
2007-04-14 13:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋